About when he can have the baby..

[Silvermockingbird]

Basically me and my "dp" are splitting up, we have a 6 month old and he is saying he wants her all weekend every weekend and to be able to take her out for the day through the week now and again. I have absolutely no problem with this WHEN she is older.. I am currently breastfeeding she has never took a bottle or a dummy even though we have tried, she will only sleep if it is next to me in bed, and we have tried her with a few solids but she keeps pushing all the the food out so the HV suggested wait a little while and try again. So she is all on boob.

Now ex dp is saying on the weekends he has her he will give her formula in a bottle then she can go back to breastfeeding when I have her. I have told him as she has acid reflux also this will be upsetting on her tummy switching so dramatically like that.

I have suggested that he can have her as much as he wants though the day time so I can express enough milk for him to take, until she is more dependant and on food and sleeping on her own.. aparantly this isn't good enough and if I don't agree to his terms he will take her regardless and try go for full custody..

Opinions?

Please seek immediate legal advice, OP.

He's taken her before and threatened to do so again.

Jamie "The presumption at court is to start from the position that both parents should have 50:50 care"

Is the baby experiencing 50/50 care at the moment from mum and dad equally?

OP you may like to Google around and read up a bit on these struggles as more people are going through this than one would imagine.

www.circleofmoms.com/welcome-circle-moms/custody-battle-of-a-newborn-please-share-your-thoughts-437986

They can be from different countries where law is different but some point may be relevant, e.g.

"Actually, if I were a breastfeeding mother, I would totally argue against you on this one. Yes, breast milk can be pumped, but (1) pumping is not nearly as efficient as actually breastfeeding and often results in having to supplement, (2) not being around the crying baby for extended periods can decrease the production of breast milk, our hormones are trained to respond to our baby's cries, and (3) feeding from a bottle on a regular basis can make a baby lazy and can cause it to reject the breast altogether. None of this is in the best interests of the child."

But legal advice is the way to go.