My future sil birthday is coming up. Kind of obligated to get her a present I don't really want to and I don't really like her. My DP does not really like her either.
We booked our wedding they then got engaged after us and waited until we announced the date of our wedding about 3 weeks later she announced they had decided to book their wedding for 2 months before ours. Yes people can get married when they want but even my DP agreed she did it on purpose. Bil told my mil he didn't even get a say in when or where the wedding would be she just kept insisting it HAD to be then he asked her to wait until next year to allow the proper time to plan it but she refused she's actually caused everyone a lot of stress. My DP and I can't attend the wedding for a few reasons and mil is struggling financially with these weddings I had considered changing the date of my wedding but to do that would add an additional £2,000 to our bill money I just don't have. I should also mention she has chosen a destination wedding and a separate reception for when they get back. Which will require some travel and over 200 for a hotel room. She never contacts any of us including mil when they visit she never wants to do anything with us and last time she was here she was rude about my home and said it was cluttered (it's not I have a child who has toys around) but they get tidied away of an evening I also like my little trinkets like photos and candles she likes things minimal there house still looks like they are in the process of moving in there is nothing personal anywhere the walls are bare no cushions nothing we have different tastes which is fine but don't think she should of been rude to me.
Anyway I'm done making an effort with her to be nice I want to get her a really passive aggressive birthday present but what?
I was going to get her a canvas bag with a smiley face which reads best sister in law ever, deal with it and a self help book on manners I thought it would be perfect hand luggage bag and a read for the plane but maybe someone on here can think of something better.
It might seem unreasonable but she's made my mil cry she's been rude to me and she's upset bil as she has stated she doesn't care that his family can't attend the wedding. Personally I don't see why he doesn't leave her but that's really none of my business.