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Would you report someone for smoking with their child in the car?

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JigglyTuff · 02/05/2017 09:13

Just walked past a woman waiting in her car for infant school gates to open. There was a child in the front seat. She was blowing her smoke out the window and I looked round because I could smell it and wondered where it was coming from.

Or should I just mind my own business?

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WorraLiberty · 02/05/2017 10:15

Shit, I'm so crap with names.

I keep forgetting not to rise to the attention seeking, Billy

WizardOfToss · 02/05/2017 10:17

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JigglyTuff · 02/05/2017 10:17

User - I said 'would you report someone'. At no point did I say I was going to report it.

Learn to read?

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user1493022461 · 02/05/2017 10:17

I think some MN'ers would love to have a UK Stasi, some all seeing service to report everyone for everything who will come and sort them out.
It's quite disturbing how many threads are about reporting someone to "authorities" for almost anything.

dilapidated · 02/05/2017 10:17

This is truly horrible

Can't believe in this day when it's illegal someone would smoke with their child in the car in full view of others.

She obviously doesn't give a damn about the health of her child.

LanaKanesLeftNippleTassle · 02/05/2017 10:18

I agree with your last post 100% Feral.

Education is the key thing here, and yeah it's too late for that woman/kid/smoking situation, but better education would reduce all those "low level" crimes for sure.

But in the meantime, can we stop wasting police and SS time please??

user1493022461 · 02/05/2017 10:18

Learn to read yourself, "or should I mind my own business" implies that there is the other option of NOT minding your own business, and therefore doing the action you're asking others about.
Did you not understand your own post?

Iamastonished · 02/05/2017 10:21

Ah, OK Lana. I agree with your sentiments then.

LanaKanesLeftNippleTassle · 02/05/2017 10:23

Thanks Iam Smile

HomityBabbityPie · 02/05/2017 10:23

Oh FGS. She was blowing her smoke out of the fucking window, not directly into the child's face.

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JigglyTuff · 02/05/2017 10:25

Oh FGS I was never going to report it. I was wondering if other people would. It was a philosophical question really.

FWIW I agree with Lana that social services and the police are horribly over-stretched. But I think it would be worth talking to the school and I hadn't thought of that.

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BaggyCheeks · 02/05/2017 10:27

A funding lottery doesn't mean that crime should go unreported, if anything it justifies the funding the force receives due to the artificial crime rates.

Regardless, smoking in a car with children is against the law. It is up to the OP whether she feels she should report that to the police or not. In this particular example, I'd go with the "notice in the newsletter" suggestion in the first instance if the OP doesn't know the person well enough to politely point out to them that it's against the law - they genuinely might not know, and education is always the best option.

user1493022461 · 02/05/2017 10:30

Oh FGS I was never going to report it. I was wondering if other people would. It was a philosophical question really

Sure. Funny that isn't how you wrote the OP, its only now that you've seen the responses that you didn't mean what you asked.

I've just seen another thread where a poster advised someone to report a family member to the police for texting them too early in the morning. WTF is wrong with people?

LanaKanesLeftNippleTassle · 02/05/2017 10:31

Jiggly I agree with that, and Worras suggestion that a reminder in the school newsletter or whatever, might jog a few minds.

I'm sorry if I came across as shouting at you, I wasn't. Just getting to the end of my tether with the MN thing of "Log it with 101" or "report it to SS" that some Phyllis poster seem to come out with for literally everything.

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JigglyTuff · 02/05/2017 10:34

Believe what you like User :)

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JigglyTuff · 02/05/2017 10:35

Someone really suggested that the early morning SIL texter should be reported? GrinGrinGrin

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FeralBeryl · 02/05/2017 10:37

Ahem - reclaiming my school newsletter idea Wink

LanaKanesLeftNippleTassle · 02/05/2017 10:38

I've just seen another thread where a poster advised someone to report a family member to the police for texting them too early in the morning. WTF is wrong with people?

Shock

I mean what the actual fuck?? Someone actually suggested that??!!

God I wan't to live in some MNers worlds, where theres so little crime, and lots of money for every little thing to be dealt with.

LanaKanesLeftNippleTassle · 02/05/2017 10:39

Sorry Feral credit where credit is due! Grin

user1493022461 · 02/05/2017 10:40

Yes, apparently it's harrassment because they've been asked not to, so obviously the next step is "report them". Answer to everything, isn't it?
Someone parked in your spot, someone playing music, someone looking at you funny: report them!

FeralBeryl · 02/05/2017 10:40

Oh and fwiw - I did this about a constant zig zig parker outside school. I wanted to kick her headlights off one day when a child was nearly hit. But I didn't. I asked school to communicate as a blanket thing and they did.
She did it again but so many parents tapped on her window to remind her that it was Fucking dangerous illegal that she now parks elsewhere.

In Beryl Utopia - there will be a PCSO attached to every school to deal with low level shit and education around it.

WorraLiberty · 02/05/2017 10:40

It was definitely FeralBeryl's idea! Grin

Tobolsk · 02/05/2017 10:41

I really hate this meddling culture we seem to be in lately.

This......why do people think they have a right to get involved in other people's lives. It erodes freedom, wastes resources and worst of all destroys community spirit as you can't trust anyone.

LanaKanesLeftNippleTassle · 02/05/2017 10:44

I think some people already think they live in Beryltopia! Grin

Mumtobe12 · 02/05/2017 10:53

I wouldn't report to ss but it is a crime so reporting to non emergency police would make sense if you have car reg. if see again I would take a sneaky pic