I'll try and keep this short.
My DSis is living with my parents, has been since last year, while she buys a house.
She works shifts as a nurse in a MIU amongst other things.
My mum offered to have my DD for a sleepover as I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant. DDs first overnight away from home, a dress rehearsal for when I go into labour. Also my mum didn't fancy the idea of sleeping on our sofa.
Hooray! I thought. Not only a chance for me and DH to have a last childfree night together, but also a lot easier for me and my worries about DD to know her first night away won't be when we have her sibling.
Talking dates with my mum, I said not after a nursery day so DD isn't tired. We also have a long day out tomorrow and may be back late.
So, Sat/Sun/Tues nights all fine for me and my mum.
My "D"Sis has said no to these dates. Why? In case she has disturbed sleep before work, or in case she's woken up too early.
She wouldn't be expected to share a room, interact with or take any responsibility for DD - who sleeps through the night anyway. Although in a new place for the first time who knows.
My DM has backed down and agreed that these nights are therefore out. She has also said she'll come to mine if we need to head to hospital, which is fair enough.
So AIBU to feel unsupported? Or am I being overly self-centred?