To ask how 'grown up' you were aged 22?

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I started my first job at 22 and looking back, I was really, really immature

What were you like at 22?

I was a very young 22yo, I was a nursing student and enjoying all elements of student life!!

Mind you I'm 38yo now and still pretty immature

I graduated University and moved to another country (by myself knowing no one). Worked in the same career as I'm still in now, but in a much lower position. I was mature, but not as mature as I was when I turned 30.

Being grown up is definitely not relative to if you've had children. I was one year past graduation in my first job.

Mmm out of uni, responsible job, own house, in a relationship with now DH and had children shortly afterwards but wouldn't say I was what I'd call "mature" and I'm not really like that now in my 30s either. I still like an easy life and to have fun, do a lot of sports and outdoor stuff and would generally rather be elsewhere when particularly serious conversations or heavy decisions are going on. Dinner parties, home decor and local politics bore me to death and I couldn't care less about my bin collection. This makes me feel immature compared to some of my friends.

I'm 22 now, 23 in June. I have just gotten a mortgage on a lovely 3 bedroom house overlooking a nature reserve and have supervised the ground floor of a large department store since I was 20, been in charge of 13 smaller departments on that floor.... I'm now a mother to my 5 month old beautiful daughter and I'm going back to work in July.

I wouldn't say I'm immature? I found that comment quite offensive, Lots of people my age work very hard and are great parents! Seriously who is any one to judge on age! you can't judge every single parent under the age of 22 and call them irresponsible or immature!

I was just finishing my post grad degree and moved out of my parents' house, got a mortgage and started my first teaching job as well as working 1 day a week in a pub. I had already lived in France and Spain too. I'm now 23 and would say I'm quite mature.

22? Hmmmm, two jobs, crappy bedsit, lots of weed, ok social life but not as good as it had been, quite immature and rather alone now I think of it. I packed up and left town a year later.

Bibbity I think not knowing anyone who has had children at 22 or under (apart from you MIL) and yet throwing around aspersions about a huge swathe of people is in itself quite immature. But then you're pretty goady on a regular basis, so I expect there was a point to your comment.

I was about to start university as a mature student. I was still financially dependent on my parents and I was mature in some aspects, for example I had travelled extensively on my own, including hitch hiking around Europe. . In other aspects I was very very immature

I was living with my then boyfriend and had just started by first post uni job. I would say I was pretty immature. I just didn't know myself very well really.

Am glad it's not just me who has noticed keira

22 was only two years ago for me

I had climbed the ladder quickly, and was in a great management role. I'd moved back in with my parents so me and DH could save for our wedding and first property. I'd started doing the relevant qualification for my field. I had older friends who had grown out of the getting trashed every night phase, and was surrounded by really grounded people. I had my stage 4 endometriosis diagnosis at 22 as well, so I think that maybe gave me a kick in the right direction too. I very much felt like my time was running out to start a family, and I needed to grow up.

Ah I don't know. I'd say I was mature then. Had a fairly solid head on my shoulders.

I'm not sure what 'grown up' means. I don't think it means having a lot of responsibility.

I was working in Tokyo, holidaying in Thailand, had various foreign bf's.

Ah, those were the days.

I had just finished university, had my mortgage with my now husband, and was working F/T.

However I've been self sufficient since I was 16, I moved country to be with dh.

I was in my final year at uni and had just spent a year working abroad. This in the days before the Internet and my DPs weren't on the phone. So pretty grown up.

I had one child, was finishing my degree, had a job and lived with my partner so pretty mature. I have always been mature for my age though.

Doing a PGCE, taking drugs and raving, so not very mature at all.

I'm almost 22.

I'd say I'm pretty 'grown up' as in I am responsible for two children, in a long term relationship, own a house, car, work part time in a decent job.

Ask me again in five years though!

When I was 22, I graduated from uni after a 4 year course, flat shared properly (ie not in uni accommodation) for the first time, started my first proper job (had worked in holidays etc) and started going out with DH. Quite a year!

I think I was relatively mature for my age.

At that time I was abroad (in the UK) working/volunteering. Had done 2 BA's and was having a gap year from my postgraduate studies. Living with the man I later married (and am still married to), knowing that we would be looking at years of longdistance relationship.

Hadn't done much paid work before then- some supply teaching and the odd private pupil- but then I was very good at living on half a student loan.

Was probably more disciplined and less impulsive than I am now. But don't think I was missing out: I was lucky enough to work at and for something I really really wanted and my priorities have never really changed.

Well I'm 22 now , caring for my dm who has terminal cancer , looking after young toddler , supporting dp through prescription drug rehabilitation, and just getting through all the usual admin of having my own place all solely in my own name so all bills etc falling to me.

Not really a problem, had a very abusive childhood (twunt father) so can sniff trouble a mile off, was a single mum to dc from pregnancy, so can handle anything really. Death doesn't faze me so wondering what more life has to throw at me!

Happy to say that am getting engaged to dp later this year , and am pregnant with dc2 due later this year :) I am finally in control of my own life and am happy it is that way. Not a sniff of DV.

Had finished uni and was working, life otherwise still a big party.

Also the human brain doesn't finish developing until the age of 25 so I think I can cut myself some slack there!
I have had to fight quite hard to be seen as a mother rather than just young mother as the average age of FTM in my area is mid 30's.
Must say, have found motherhood an absolute breeze and the making of me , given me a supreme amount of confidence , and I have done things I never thought possible. Actually think it's helped me in my job progression etc !

I was working in a supermarket, had a 2 year old dd. At 18-19 I'd been quite the druggy and after getting pregnant at 19, had detoxed and been clean for 2 years by 22. Dd's father was still using so at 22 I was pretty unhappy, working very hard and in quite an unhappy relationship that I knew has no future.
I felt like I was grown up, but in reality it was the naivety of youth that saw me through those very difficult days. I don't think I could do it now (dammit I can't even give up chocolate these days) and I knew nothing really about life, nor had any idea how i was going to actually make it work. Looking back they were some of the unhappiest days of my life. By 24-25 my life was entirely different.

Job, Married, mortgage and baby on the way. That was in the 90's. I'd say I actually didn't grow up until my late 20's early 30's, that was when I knew who I really was.