To ask how 'grown up' you were aged 22?

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I started my first job at 22 and looking back, I was really, really immature

What were you like at 22?

I had a child and a house and I had worked since I was 16 so I was very grown up.

Just qualified as a nurse. Still living at home but out getting extremely drunk two or three times a week. Still pretty sensible though.

Well, I got pregnant at 24 so I was hardly an older mum. Lol.

We all have our faults don't we as no bugger is perfect

Divorced from DH1. Pregnant with 1st dc with DH2, though not yet married then. Owned own home and a holiday home in Spain.
I had moved out of home and bought my first house at 17 and travelled quite a bit with DH1.

I had a fabulously 'misspent youth' but I was more than ready to settle down and have kids at 22.

I had my first child at 22. I left home at 16 and thought I was grown up. I was more confident then and didn't give a shit.
I'm now 28 and think that now "I'm grown up" I feel it.

Also very immature to bandy about "judgemental cunt" comments, I would say!

It's not unkind to say "IN MY OPINION having children before 22 suggests immaturity". I don't know anyone, not a single person, who had a child before the age of 22 (apart from my mil and some of her family and people who had few other life choices from her generation) so it is my experience that you grow up first before you make the great commitment to children. Mil had dh when she was 18. Was she immature? Absolutely.

But, do go ahead and call me a judgemental cunt if it makes you feel better. I shan't be reporting because I am too mature to do so.

At 22 I'd just had my third child and was engaged to be married to now DH. We had a home, job for him and was a studying (OU) SAHM. I grew up quickly after having DS1 at 18!

I thought I was very grown up at 22. I'm 46 now and know for certain I wasn't.
I was doing mature things like, working full time, living with my boyfriend (now DH.) Dd was born when I was 23.
I was also doing silly shit like taking drugs and getting pissed too often and lacking in confidence.
not much has changed except I'm a lot more confident now

Oh bibbity come on, it really wasn't a nice thing to say. Obviously it's going to elicit strong feelings when there are many parents aged 22 and younger who have had children and are fantastic devoted parents. In many ways it's a good way of doing it. I think the middle class way is a bit bonkers really!

Just bought first house with BF (now DH) miles away from both families, working full-time in same job I do now.......it was 24 years ago, eek how did I get so old 😉

I was pg with dd1, working in a full time office job and had a part time job too, but was hopeless with money and living in a caravan. I think at the time I thought I was quite grown up, but looking back I really wasn't!

By 22 I had a graduate job, no money, a somewhat flakey husband and a lovely baby. I could get by on 4 hrs sleep, and had boundless optimism that I could fix all our problems. Looking back at the photos, I was prettier than I thought I was. All downhill from there, really

I think that judging people for having a child before they are 22 makes you an immature arsehole. Just my opinion of course.

Very immature. I don't think I really grew up until I was 25 - despite leaving home at 21.
I was doing a PGCE when I was 22. It was a mistake and I dropped out.

I was still a Uni student at 22, so not very mature. Plenty of drinking and sex. I then went on to do a masters and then a PhD, so I didn't even have a proper job until I was 26. Bought flat at 27, met DH at 28, so I think I mostly caught up :)

First job, renting a flat, sleeping with anyone I could and spending money like water. Not very.

I was a single mum on benefits living in a shithole.

Thank goodness I had a nice health visitor.

I'd dropped out of an MA and was living in a commune in rural Massachusetts, making a living by candkemaking and playing piano in a terrible bar. It was brilliant.

I don't think drinking and sex is a sign in itself of immaturity. I was more like a 14 yo in a lot of ways.

Not at all, I was a drunk mess, in the middle of my first job and just really angsty and teen-like. I only really calmed down after I moved out of my parents' house.

I don't think there is a peak of maturity to be honest, it's just a learning process. I'm sure I have more to learn, like not rising to goady fuckers.

Wow, most of these posts make me feel very immature! I was starting a PhD and had been going out with DH, who was 32, for a year.

I was living with my parents as I couldn't afford to otherwise while doing my PhD but the next year I moved in with DH.

I was in my first post grad job. I used to say really inappropriate things in the office. I was terrible with money. I was living with my parents, just waiting for Mr Right!

Chavelita, that sounds fucking BRILLIANT.