Rude Text or I'm Being "Sensitive"?

[FixItUpChappie]

My mother texted me 2 photos from my 6yr old birthday in October where he is not smiling and advises:

"In all my pictures of little fixit he's not smiling. Maybe you should ask him why he's so sad. The answer may be revealing"

Me: "I love you but what a bizarre comment"

Her: "no, not bizarre. Typically children are overjoyed at their birthdays. He's also not smiling in lots of my Christmas photos too. Wondering why he's so unhappy. Just a concerned grandma."

Me: "know when to stop. Seriously."

Now she's mad at me for being rude and sensitive . AIBU to think that it is rude and disrespectful to assert that other people's children are "unhappy" and that only their grandmother would have the perceptive ability (months after the fact) to notice?

background: I believe my mother is competitive with me but am aware I may mis-appropriate things to that category as a result of this fundamental belief.

Note: my children are not fucking unhappy and my mum is on glue

AIBU or am I overly "sensitive"

My mother says things like this just to get a rise out of me. I used to respond to correct her or tell her she was being offensive, but now I just ignore. Every single time. She's very thick but she is learning.

For this time, as you have already responded, I would say something like, "It's very clear you're trying to cause trouble again for some unknown reason. Either your memory is going or you remember just as well as I do that DS was happy and smiley at his party, except for in a few poorly timed photos. I won't be responding to any more texts or comments that are clearly intended to upset me and cause an argument. I suggest you find a new hobby to pass the time".

Since when do happy people have a permanent smile on their face anyway? I don't know anyone who walks around with a constant smile. If they did it would look fake.

Sounds like something my mother would do too.

I had a very complicated second pregnancy involving a long hospital stay. It was very stressful. She took my 2 year old dd to a soft play birthday party and then texted me a long list of concerns with her and her OCD issues. Even went so far to say she had consulted with a psychiatrist friend.

The moral of the story - never give a 2 year old a napkin in case they wipe the table

I'd guess your mother is more narcissistic rather than competitive.

Reply: I asked him. He's very concerned about Brexit and feels Theresa May is the wrong choice of PM.

Grandmas read too much into things...my mum will video me on messinger and when my daughter only talks for a little while because she wants to play my mum gets all paranoid that she doesnt live her! She is a child not a performing animal.

Love

YANBU

My reply would have been Little doesn't like camera all up in his face.
But I am tempted by the idea of sending smiley ones saying It's You, not me. HTH

I too think she's on glue. Send multiple smiley pics of the same event that you took.

My three year old cousin, as soon as he knows a camera is pointed at him, scowls. I have him scowling and his sister doing the whole posey smile for the camera on holiday, hilarious!

Maybe he just didn't want to be photographed in preference of enjoying his birthday...in which case, your Mum is to blame