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Original poster

To be lusting like an old Cougar after a young man half my age?

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DoryGlory · 30/04/2017 15:53

This has never happened before, I am a reasonable adult and level headed, but I've recently been crossing paths with a certain young man who is so handsome that I can't speak when he is around! WTF? Is it my hormones? I'm I having a mid life crisis? Does this happen to other people?

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Ethylred · 30/04/2017 16:01

Here's to you Mrs Robinson.

NavyandWhite · 30/04/2017 16:02

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DoryGlory · 30/04/2017 16:04

😱 43 and 22

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DoryGlory · 30/04/2017 16:05

It's obviously completely inappropriate and I would never let on to the poor boy 😂

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NavyandWhite · 30/04/2017 16:06

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MrsEricBana · 30/04/2017 16:07

It worked for Brigitte Macron.

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DoryGlory · 30/04/2017 16:07

I'm ewwwing at myself too!

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TheElephantofSurprise · 30/04/2017 16:08

Stay calm. The young ones are thinking they might take on older ladies, nowadays. Play your cards right and you never know...

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DoryGlory · 30/04/2017 16:13

Good god no, I don't want anything to happen! Looking is enough for me but I'm shocked at how I react when he is around, it's totally subconscious and kind of innate 😂

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Huskylover1 · 30/04/2017 16:17

Keep reminding yourself, that you could have children his age.

HemanOrSheRa · 30/04/2017 16:18

God. I used to regularly see a very nice young man in work. I was always overwhelmed with the urge to bite him on his biceps BlushGrin. He was so handsome, big muscles, smelled lovely. He looked like the member of a boy band. Honestly, the complete opposite to my usual 'type'. Eventually it kind of moved to a more maternal feeling once I got to know him and a bit more about his personal life thank goodness!

mycavitiesareempty · 30/04/2017 16:19

My mate reckons it's your eggs having a last gasp before entering perimenopause. This sounds entirely plausible. And no you are absolutely not alone... all my similarly-aged friends say the same my libido sadly is quashed by medication which is probably a good thing

mycavitiesareempty · 30/04/2017 16:21

If you are single however and he fancies it too... then why not? Fling isnt going do any harm although a longer term relationships might be a bit more awkward....

Gottagetmoving · 30/04/2017 16:23

You are an adult woman and he is an adult male. Absolutely nothing wrong in feeling the way you do.
There aren't rules about a woman in her 40s being attracted to a man in his twenties, despite the hand wringing hysteria of disgusted individuals.

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DoryGlory · 30/04/2017 16:27

Thank goodness I'm not alone!
Mycavities, I think your mate has a good point. My eggs are gasping 😂
I saw his dad yesterday, didn't fancy him the same 😂

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Natsku · 30/04/2017 16:38

Last gasp of the eggs sounds right. Have a fling, might as well enjoy yourself!

I'm working with a 21 year old lad these days and find myself switching from 'Ooo I bet he's got a lot of stamina' to 'Ah bless him, he's so young' and then I pinch his (face) cheeks.

Blowingthroughthejasmineinmymi · 30/04/2017 16:51

well look at the current Macron from FRANCE! www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4457488/How-Macron-64-year-old-wife-fell-love.html

Love is where love is. Smile

Blossomdeary · 30/04/2017 16:54

I don't think it is love we are talking about here Grin

Blossomdeary · 30/04/2017 16:54

My friend used to call it art appreciation!

Blowingthroughthejasmineinmymi · 30/04/2017 16:56

Its true a beautiful human is a thing to behold.

toffeeboffin · 30/04/2017 16:57

Are you both actually single?

John4703 · 30/04/2017 17:00

I've got friend who are married, a huge age difference and after over 30 years of marriage they are still so happy together. She is a year younger than his father.
Just be sure OP that you both feel the same.

ouchbugger · 30/04/2017 17:06

NC for this post
My DP of some years is much younger than me , it works fab , we have loads in common , if it work for you why not ?
No one else's business

PerfectPeachy · 30/04/2017 17:14

It's ok to look at someone much younger and register that they are very attractive - I occasionally do it myself. Blush It doesn't mean you want a relationship with them.

I find I have to have a quick word with myself sometimes 😂

I know relationships where one partner is much younger than the other can work out fine but generllly I find them a bit odd. I am youthful and fun but I couldn't imagine having a relationship with someone 20'or 30 (🤢) years younger.

wtffgs · 30/04/2017 17:15

You are an adult woman and he is an adult male. Absolutely nothing wrong in feeling the way you do.
There aren't rules about a woman in her 40s being attracted to a man in his twenties, despite the hand wringing hysteria of disgusted individuals.

This