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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to ask when is it too old to take photos of children in the bath?

82 replies

laureywilliams · 29/04/2017 22:26

In your opinion, and why?

Context is - ex has taken photo of dd (9) in bath.

I think she's too old for this. AIBU.

OP posts:

Batgirlspants · 30/04/2017 13:57

Agree with Annie it's a sad world when a dad can't send mum a picture of their own child enjoying coloured bubbles.

Soy seriously chill out.

Soyamilkisniceintea · 30/04/2017 13:58

I do think that example is a bit different as it's with permission and it's of the bubbles rather than a child. I still think the 'oh, we ALL used to walk around taking photographs of naked children' are revolting. Who does that??

Batgirlspants · 30/04/2017 13:58

So you compare the rampant paedophile Saville with the ops dh!

Seriously you need help.

Soyamilkisniceintea · 30/04/2017 14:02

Er no I'm saying that taking photographs of naked children is not having any respect for boundaries or privacy and THAT leads to an environment in which Saville et al can thrive and they did, and you call it the good old days?

Soyamilkisniceintea · 30/04/2017 14:04

And I've already said I don't think OPs DH is anything to worry about. It's the people insisting that once they all walked in on ore pubescent children having baths and took photos and wasn't it lovely

NavyandWhite · 30/04/2017 14:12

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Batgirlspants · 30/04/2017 14:23

soy clearly you don't remember but trust me before central heating double glazing and instant endless hot water children aged 9 and older shared baths and beds with each other.

Photos were a rare event taken with a camera and then sent off to the shop to be processed. Getting your holiday snaps back was a big event.

There were no more or no less paedophines around then as there are now just more awareness and better reporting and quite rightly tougher sentencing.

Times do change and some things are better now some not so good but it was quite commen to have naked baby pictures on display back in the day. You are making a bit of a mountain here.

ToastDemon · 30/04/2017 14:33

It's not at all weird to share a bath. I was at boarding school and we shared baths even as teenagers, as it was companionable. Sometimes we'd try and fit four or five in a bath for fun.
We were four to a room so absolutely non precious about nudity.

Yukbuck · 30/04/2017 14:54

I think given the context it's fine. What I find odd is when people actually share pictures of kids in the bath on Facebook etc... when you can see a bit too much. Even worse is an example I'm about to share. This is someone who kept coming up in my Instagram feed maybe because I follow a lot of YouTube mummies etc.. anyway her Instagram is actually really sweet and she seems like a great mum but I just don't understand how someone can share pics like this of their kids on a public Instagram page with over 3000 followers. I just don't know how you can be that stupid.

www.instagram.com/thenichollstwins/

There was a bath one a few days ago which I suppose isn't so bad but I just don't feel is necessary especially when you aren't controlling who sees these. But the one that got me is the one where she has them on weighing scales maybe when they were just turned one or something. They are completely naked. Then the one with the poo. You can actually see the poor babies genital area which I just think is so dumb.

Yukbuck · 30/04/2017 14:56

16th March the poo one was posted.

Batgirlspants · 30/04/2017 14:57

Yuk totally agree that is silly and unnecessary.

Batgirlspants · 30/04/2017 14:59

And really why would anyone unrelated to the twins want to follow their lives? Who would care?

Badbadtromance · 30/04/2017 15:00

I have a six year old and stopped taking nudies about two years ago and would never share them. Nine is too old. I started my period at ten!

GahBuggerit · 30/04/2017 15:06

I still take the odd pic of 8yo ds in the bath when been done a beard or mohican of bubbles. Can't see the issue.

Soyamilkisniceintea · 30/04/2017 16:31

I know I got a bit ranty above but honestly I do still feel a little bit weird about my own 'naked' photos. And why is it only ever girls displayed?

user1489179512 · 30/04/2017 16:53

claraschu

Not all kids care about nudity. Mine don't. They still walk around nude and they are teenagers...

That is very very strange indeed. No way that be acceptable.

user1489179512 · 30/04/2017 16:56

Children often go through puberty earlier these days than they used to do. The age of 9 is way too old to have a parent in the bathroom. (In normal circumstances, that is.)

GahBuggerit · 30/04/2017 17:13

Don't talk pish User. I sit with DS often and chat shit with him, there's nothing dodgy about it at all.

Those who think it is dodgy? Well.....I do wonder where their minds are tbh

Mehfruittea · 30/04/2017 17:26

I went through puberty at 8, was quite fat and had boobs. I was definitely wearing a bra by 9. Way too old.

user1489179512 · 30/04/2017 17:34

Think about not invading his space, Gah....

user1489179512 · 30/04/2017 17:36

Some have latched into the word "dodgy". My impression is that many posters are more concerned about your growing child's right to privacy.

It is a lot weird, though, too.

user1489179512 · 30/04/2017 17:37

...onto

joannegrady90 · 30/04/2017 17:37

30 maybe pushing it 😂

GahBuggerit · 30/04/2017 17:47

Invading his space isn't an issue, he shouts me in for a good old chinwag. And he comes and chats to me sometimes when I'm in the bath.

It's truly not weird.

twittertwit · 30/04/2017 17:53

I've taken a picture of my ten year old dd in the bath in almost identical circumstances quite recently. Her Lush bathbomb turned the water bright blue and she asked me to take a picture. Depressing to think some people might find this odd or dubious!

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