To start deleting these wedding pics?

[JonSnowsWhore]

This is soooo outing but I don't know any other way of putting it.

5 weeks ago, I did the photography for an old friends wedding. I don't have a photography business but I did photography in college as an adult so she knows I do it cheaply to help out people I know. Before this wedding I hadn't seen her for a couple of years btw & wouldn't have been close enough to be invited to the wedding which is fine.

The wedding ended up being brought forward to when I'd still be pregnant, so I asked another photography keen friend of mine if she'd come & help me out as I knew I'd struggle doing a whole day at 7 months pregnant. Said we'd split the money between us & she said great as she'd love the experience.

So we get there at 10.30am, do the getting ready photos, horse & carriage photos, go to venue & do ceremony, group & couple photos, get a break for the food, then back again for the speeches, some of the party, cutting cake & first dance, eventually leave about 8.30pm. Bride said she'd pay me by bank transfer the next day & as I know her, I was fine with that.

Sent her my bank details the next day, got an excuse that their online banking was playing up, they'd go to a branch on the Monday to pay it. Monday morning I see on Facebook that they're setting off to their honeymoon in the uk. Don't hear anything. Midweek another message, there's no English banks so they'll do it as soon as they come back from honeymoon. I'm a bit pissed off now as it's not just me going without, I'm meant to give my other friend half. Since then it's been an excuse about their car breaking down, this money issue that money issue, can she pay me half & then the other half at the end of the month (now) so I say if that's all she can do then we'll have to do that, as I felt bad that my other friend hadn't been paid yet. She never paid the half, & never replied to my message. Now it's the end of the month, 5 weeks since the wedding & we still haven't had any money.

So, WIBU to start deleting her bloody wedding photos, what should I say to her as I'm getting bloody pissed off now, at first I didn't want to demand money as she was a 'friend' & didn't want to make things awkward, but can clearly see now that she doesn't give a shit about making things awkward!

At this stage I'd refund her the half and say as the agreement wasn't met I was deleting the photos. . That would mean she would lose out far more long term. Your reputation would be intact as she did not pay you in full.

This is a tempting suggestion, if you are prepared to write off the lot. But if you do this, make your actions and reasons very public.

You could also point out the as she brought the wedding forward, you would have been entitled to either withdraw from the contract OR to charge a higher rate forgiving to perform under time-related stress; out of the goodness of your heart you chose not to do either outhouse things, but with great personal difficulty fulfilled what you regarded as your obligation to an old"friend"

And this is how she repays you.

Just when we thought it was all over 😂 she hasn't paid the other friend, she was told
To pay me & hasnt. How long do I give her this time to pay the second half!!

10 seconds is long enough I would say....

Has she even replied to your friend since she told her to transfer the remaining money to you OP?

No doesn't sound like it as my friend has just messaged me asking if she's paid me the other half yet

As HappyFlappy suggested, just the bottom half of the photos for 50% payment!

It can take up to 2 hours to pay new person depending on banks doing online

The first lot went in there straight away earlier

We should crowdfund the photos so that you can return her money and destroy them. She really doesn't deserve to get them.

i knew she would try and get out of the last half.

post on her fb..."£100 is not the same as £200, fork it over you tight arse bridezilla or the photos get it!"

Replace the centre 50% of each of the photographs with a white rectangle and upload them to Facebook. Tag her in each white square and comment that it's there until the rest of payment has been received.

Maybe she's genuinely broke but too embarrassed to say so. Not saying she's right to ignore you but maybe she just doesn't have the money and they over extended themselves with the wedding. Some people just end up sticking their heads in the sand when it comes to debt.

Ok so she hasn't said she would pay other friend, that is what I meant by the delay to pay her, sorry if I misunderstood

Deffo love the idea of posting them with her and her DH and centre of each photo with a white triangle blocking that middle part of each photo

So she can only see the surrounding part NOT a watermark but an actual white triangle so you can't see anything

Then send her the threats again, either she sends rhe £100 or she goes to small claims.
She's going to try to get out of this anyway she can.

Actually, as much as I love the idea I posted above, if she arranged payment after 3.30pm today then some banks won't transfer it until 9am tomorrow morning - particularly if it's to another branch.

Good for you - any response?

Tell her to stop screwing around and pay what she agreed or it's the small claims court. Tell her she has had x weeks to pay and you are fed up with her games. Make it public on her facebook page. No more miss nice girl. She is stalling and taking the piss.

Sorry, massive x-post

£200 for 2 photographers over 10 hours & she's quibbling 😱 wow, this takes tight arsed bridezilla to a whole new level. Please shame her publicly, she is the most ungrateful cow I have ever heard of.

I asked DH, who used to be a professional photographer (& would have charged at least 6 times that for a wedding even 15 years ago) He said payment on delivery is normal, if you have been bitten by a bad customer, you might even charge a deposit upfront to cover costs (which he did & I hope you do in future)

she is unbelievable, I would probably give her until tomorrow then put another post on her timeline asking for the money and shaming her by saying you really do not need this stress at this late stage of your pregnancy. If the money is not sent I am not sure what I would do, my temptation would be to either return the £100 and tell her the pictures are being deleted then block her and concentrate on your pregnancy, check with the friend who helped you first though. Or keep the £100 block her and concentrate on your pregnancy

I suppose I have to give her til Friday as that's what I said in the original fb wall post. Talk about draw it out.

Suppose by then I have to decide whether to chase her for it again & have to go through all of her excuses & arguing with her again, or I just accept that she's given me my half of the money & then carry on my life until she comes asking for her photos, and then remind her that she stills owes £100, and I won't be doing anything with photos as I'll have just had a baby. If my friend wanted the money I'd have to argue it out but she's refusing to take it so I do have that last option i suppose

Make sure you don't do any editing until paid in full and do it in your own time. Let her stew!

Alternatively return her half payment and delete the photos and try not to give it another thought. Let her lose her lovely photos. Her loss!

Ooh she's just paid me the other half without me having to ask again. Thank god all this shit is over with now, I was dreading having to go through it all again on Friday!

Now I've got to force my other friend to take her bloody half. If she really won't take it then I'll go with the idea of buying her something for her business, & she won't be able to refuse it as I already have one so won't be any point me having 2 lol.

Got a bit over dramatic in the middle there but a nice boring end for you all haha

RESULT!!!!!

See - although kindness can work wonders, brutality is ultimately more effective more quickly!

Now, if you decide to edit them, do it v-e-e-e-r-y s-l-o-o-o-o-o-w-l-y.

Or claim you can't edit them until after the birth of your lovely baby because you have been told to avoid anything that causes stress.

(We have told you, so it is't a lie, and I bet at least one person on here who has stuck their two penn'orth in is a doctor. Possibly a doctor of ancient history, but it all counts.

Now - enjoy your life and your baby - you deserve it.

Hurrah!

Don't edit them though. She's missed the boat on that.