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To think this woman was very entitled and rude to ds - miniature train related

87 replies

theduchessstill · 29/04/2017 16:13

Have just got back from our local NT place and want to know if we were unreasonable in this situation.

It was me and my two sons. We queued for a good twenty minutes to ride on a miniature train that does a tour of the grounds. The carriages seat two so we were never going to all get in together but wanted consecutive ones so we could still talk.

We ended up being first on when our time came, so ds2 and I got in together and ds1 (10) in the next carriage. After a few minutes a woman with a baby in a sling and a toddler came along and spoke to ds1. I was talking to ds2 at the time, but the next thing I knew ds1 had got out of his carriage and was just standing on the platform and the woman had got in. I asked ds1 quite sharply what he was doing and he looked awkward. Then the woman said, "I need to be in this one as it's the last one for two and my toddler needs to be in with me." She indicated that there was space for one person in another carriage at the other end of the train, where ds1 would have been nowhere near us. I said it wasn't alright as we wanted to be near each other and she said "Yes, but dd MUST be with me, she's only two." Fair enough, but then wait for the next train - as we would have done had we not been able to sit near each other originally.

She got out and I told ds to get back in. At this point a member of staff came along and was looking to see if anyone else could move so we could all be accommodated, but the woman said it was 'ridiculous' and went off in a huff.

I got a few looks and stares, probably because she had a baby and a toddler, who started to cry, but, honestly, we had waited a good 20 minutes and there's no point going on these things unless you can be near each other to point stuff out. She would have had no more than a 10 minute wait for the next one, probably less. More to the point, I think it was rude that she ordered ds1 out of his seat and away from his family. AIBU?

OP posts:
rookiemere · 29/04/2017 19:33

YANBU.
As a DM to a 10 year old your time going on trains with your DS is going to end soon - what's the point of being there if you don't ride together - its not the 8.27 to Paddington, it's a family experience.
You queued so she can too.

Doowappydoo · 29/04/2017 19:58

But you didn't NEED to sit together. You wanted to. That's different

No one NEEDED to sit together or get on the thing at all - it's a miniature train ride, not a bus/train/plane. It's supposed to be fun.

Point is it's not a lot of fun if your 10 yr old has to do it separately from the rest of his family.

toobreathless · 29/04/2017 20:00

YANBU.

Was this Belton btw?

What is it with people there? We were first in the queue once with a mother and her son with some sort of obvious special needs behind us, he was so excited about the train and wanted to sit behind the driver. His mother was saying 'yes let these other people get on first... ' so we let them go in front of us and choose and the people BEHIND them so 3rd in the queue got all huffy about queue jumpers!

WTF?!

Northgate · 29/04/2017 20:04

YANBU, she should have waited for the next train.

She probably figured that most 10 yr olds wouldn't be confident enough to say no.

LadyOfTheCanyon · 29/04/2017 20:07

I only came on this thread because it was "miniature train related." All that was missing was "TRIGGER WARNING!"

YANBU, btw. [srin]

LadyOfTheCanyon · 29/04/2017 20:07

Gah. Grin fail!

Sparklingbrook · 29/04/2017 20:07

Your poor son. Being bossed about by a strange woman. Angry

NavyandWhite · 29/04/2017 20:10

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Sparklingbrook · 29/04/2017 20:12

DS1 wouldn't have wanted to move from the train at age 10 and would probably have sat there looking panicked.
DS2 wouldn't have wanted to go on the train in the first place.

KickAssAngel · 29/04/2017 20:40

She didn't ask the adult in a seat by themself to move, she asked the 10 yr old. Implies she deliberately went for the softer target.

No - it's not OK to ask other people to move around if it means they lose out. You take what's available, or wait for the next train.

user1491572121 · 30/04/2017 01:45

I reckon the woman thought DS was on his own. In her baby addled eyes she just saw "a big boy" taking up "the only seat that suited her" and thought "Well he can move...he's big enough to be here alone"

She was probably surprised when you spoke to him.

farangatang · 30/04/2017 02:21

Wow. Just wow. Who did she think she was?

YADNBU OP. I loathe people who think their time/wishes/needs supersede anyone else's -and who can't queue-

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