to think if your neighbour take a parcel in for you...

[Rainbowdash88]

The least you could do is make an effort to come and collect it asap?

I am currently a SAHM and live in a small quiet cul de sac, where apart from my other elderly neighbour, I am the only one who is normally at home most days with the DC.

Normally if anyone gets a delivery and no one is at home, the driver (mainly the same woman who usually delivers my orders) will come and knock at my house.

Now I don't have an issues with taking in parcels for people as I understand people work, so I take them in with the though process of

1. Its the neighbourly thing to do
2. It saves the driver, who I happen to spend time chatting with, and Is a lovely woman, from having to re-deliver on another day
3. it saves neighbours the hassle of re-arranging delivery.

Each time I've took a parcel in depending on which neighbour it is, they usually get home, see card and call straight over, or I've caught them as they've pulled up in the street, However NDN on the other side of me makes zero effort to call to collect their stuff. I have on occasion either popped ND and dropped it off, or caught them in the street but once when DS was poorly & I took a package in, I made no effort to drop it off for them and it took them 2 days before they called for it without so much as a thanks! (they had been home during this time an no doubt would of see the card the driver pushed through the door stating it was at mine).

Fast forward to today and DH was working from home when another package arrived for NDN, he signed for it, took it in and watched the lady post the card through the door. NDN is due in soon and I know they wont collect it until they can be arsed, which means I have a huge bloody box stuck in my hall until they do.

AIBU to now just start refusing to take anything in for them or to tell them to move their arse in terms of collecting their stuff because if I have to answer "mummy what's in the box?" one more time I'll bloody scream!

I'm not always around at sociable hours. Often leave at 5am and get in around 9pm (which I consider early evening but I know neighbours are practically in bed by then).

I try and get things delivered to my office and I've told the neighbours I know/see to please not take in any parcels for me (it's so much easier for me to just collect them from the local depot on my lunch break), but sometimes the drivers go ask someone 10 houses down.

It's a pain for me too. If neighbours didn't take in my parcels I could get them the next day with no hassle. When someone does take them in I have to structure my week so I get home early one day, which usually means working extremely late a few days in preparation.

I do say thank you, but I probably shouldn't as I think certain neighbours aren't getting my point that I don't want them taking anything in. Saying thank you undercuts it a bit and lets them think they're doing me some kind of favour, when really they're just making it much harder for me to get my parcels.

I'v just had this problem over a parcel of mine they tried to deliver it to mine but I was asleep at the time so it went to my neighbours it was there for only 2 days and I got a phone call of my EA telling me that it was there so I went round twice to collect it both times she wasn't there so I waited for her to knock at mine. Que the bashing hell out of my front door and then her being snotty with me about the parcel because she had knocked twice and I never answered even though my light was on well am sorry if I work nights and I leave my light on to make it look like am there and when I explained that I had knocked twice at hers all I got was a snotty reply of I was in work it's ok for her to work but not ok for me work.

Luckily we have a lovely set of neighbours and we all take each other's parcels and deliver said parcels when we see each other coming home which is especially important for us given our dog loves it when cards are pushed through saying where the parcel is

Meh. If I notice the neighbour is in, I'll drop the parcel off to them. It's the sure fire way to gustatory it doesn't clutter up my house for a week.

If you want rid of it, deliver it. If you aren't fussed, wait.

Or the third option is to get worked up about the fact that they aren't doing things to your timetable. Which seems petty. But then I guess some people like having something to moan about.

Your NDN is being rude. 2 days is too long. If one of our neighbours collects a parcel for us we collect it as soon as we can. This is usually when dh gets home from work otherwise I'd have to take 2 young dc with me. I wouldn't leave them in the house on their own, but couldn't take them because I wouldn't be able to hold hands/carry them if the parcel was big. There have been a few occasions when neighbours have seen me come home with dc and dropped the parcel off. This is very kind of them, but I wouldn't expect it.

I live in a block of about 10 flats. I work shifts so am in at funny times and always end up taking in parcels. Currently have two sitting in the hall

There's a 24 hour shop round the corner which does click and collect. I have no idea why people don't get stuff delivered there.

I have a very large parcel (outdoor kitchen unit if anyone's interested) awaiting my neighbour's return. It arrived 7 days ago. Thing is, my neighbour only uses this house as an occasional holiday home so won't be back until Whitsun now. I often take in parcels for another close neighbour, who collects immediately and is very grateful. But this is taking the piss, he never even had the courtesy to tell me he'd told the delivery people to deliver here!
There has to be a reciprocal arrangement, or at least some thanks!!

I have a very large parcel (outdoor kitchen unit if anyone's interested) awaiting my neighbour's return. It arrived 7 days ago. Thing is, my neighbour only uses this house as an occasional holiday home so won't be back until Whitsun now. I often take in parcels for another close neighbour, who collects immediately and is very grateful. But this is taking the piss, he never even had the courtesy to tell me he'd told the delivery people to deliver here!
There has to be a reciprocal arrangement, or at least some thanks!!

Leave it in their back garden.

I once had my neighbour's patio furniture set delivered to my driveway... it was still there a week later, owing to the fact that they hadn't told anyone they were going to Butlins...

I would but their garden is impossible to get into due to hedges and locked gates. If we get some nice weather I might set it up in mine though, just to check all the pieces are there ......

You would not be unreasonable at all. Just tell the delivery driver you won't take in parcels for that particular neighbour anymore as they don't collect them. I had to do exactly this as my NDN was taking the piss, ordering tons of stuff online even though they both work full time, and then leaving things in my house for days without collecting them. You're not a PO Box!

I sympathise OP !
When I had my youngest , I was the only neighbour that wasnt in work during the day (well apart from the alcoholic next door but she wouldn't answer the door to delivery drivers so she doesn't count)
It was the run up to Christmas so EVERYBODY was having parcels delivered left right and centre , it got to a point where I was answering the door at least once a day... but regularly up to four times a day . Not easy when breast feeding a new born and trying to catch up on a nap here and there ... What got to me about it was one neighbour who would arrive home and go about her business then knock on my door at 9 pm when it suited her to collect her parcels. At the time my other son was 3 and I had to constantly protect whatever had been delivered from him ! I felt so bloody responsible for other people's items but out of being neighbourly I kept taking them in even under those circumstances . It was my husband that came home one day when we had four knocks and was quite irritated that it was a regular thing. He went out and had a word with the delivery driver one day and says enough is enough please go to other neighbours at least HALF of the time .
I would start refusing to take that particular neighbours stuff in til she learns some gratitude.

YANBU. No-one has any moral or legal obligation to take in parcels for anyone else and you don't need to justify yourself to anyone. Just tell the postie next time they try to off load a parcel for rude neighbour that you're not accepting parcels for that particular neighbour any longer. No explanation needed. That's what i'd do anyway.

Got me worried now, I often take parcels in for all my neighbours but I don't drop them round, I get the other half too if they're still with us when he gets home. It's not something I can do, although I probably look like I can, hoping this doesn't offend any of my neighbours

I'm slow to collect parcels from neighbours. I'm disabled and use a wheelchair, but can walk too. So neighbours see me walk to/from me car and my disability is mostly invisible to them (until an ambulance shows up for me, couple of times a year!).

I always thank profusely and am eternally grateful if they bring something to me. When I get in from a full days work, I get about 1 hr with my son before bath/bed. If it's after 8pm, I won't knock on a neighbours door. And if it's before 9am, 11am in a Sunday. I don't won't to disturb or irritate them.

My next door neighbour is a right old woman and moans about everything but he has no problem telling amazon to deliver BIG multiple parcels to my house without asking! I always pay extra for named day delivery so I don't have to bother anyone else!

It's the lack of manners rather than the doing it that bugs me - One side of us tell people to deliver to me if they don't answer - I wouldn't mind so much except they've never asked if it's ok. I just take them and leave them in my porch - not my job to run round after them and they can collect when they want to.

i know what mean got lazy neighbour like that she a mother of two and stay at home mum never seems to want open the door to postman or courier driver you know she is in as car in the drive and she never walks any where on own or with the kids ,I used go round with parcel but not now , her partner works long hours and ends up coming around after 8 pm to collect them until put foot and said no more

My next door neighbour once left her parcel in ours for nearly a week (5 days). Now we heard her indoors late that evening (the day it was delivered), but thought perhaps she didn't want to disturb so late as she knows we have a young child in the house. We assumed she would collect the next day so thought nothing of it. She didn't and we didn't see her. The day after we knocked on the door a few times and got no answer. One time we saw her looking out the window to see who it was, but she didn't answer at all. So the day after my husband saw her when she was returning home and went out with the parcel. She hurried inside pretending she didn't notice him. Finally the next day she knocked for it.
Very odd.
A thank you would be nice though

The delivery drivers around here know that I'm usually around and have no problem with taking parcels in, but I very nearly flipped my lid at my NDN a couple of years ago. I took in a bloody huge parcel for him that almost totally blocked the hallway and was stuck with it for two weeks. I kept knocking when I saw his car in but never got any reply. When he finally arrived to collect it I told him I'd had the thing for a fortnight, to which he replied "Yeah, I know." No apology or even a bloody thanks!

After that and an incident where he had a dig at me because someone tried to break into his place and I didn't hear anything (???) I now get DH to deal with him (Who he's fine with). I've got no time for that level of stupid.

I get this sometimes from someone a couple of doors away from me ; now unfortunately I don't always get to the door in time to take it in 😊

I also have an invisible disability, this thread is an example of the kind of thing that I get upset worrying over.

I do think some of the annoyance on this thread could be solved by communication and a bit of compassion.

I usually take them round. If it was in my way I'd definitely take it round. Sometimes I don't go round straight away to collect as I feel bad disturbing people at certain times! Don't think it's amassing deal but really they should say thanks.

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