to think if your neighbour take a parcel in for you...

[Rainbowdash88]

The least you could do is make an effort to come and collect it asap?

I am currently a SAHM and live in a small quiet cul de sac, where apart from my other elderly neighbour, I am the only one who is normally at home most days with the DC.

Normally if anyone gets a delivery and no one is at home, the driver (mainly the same woman who usually delivers my orders) will come and knock at my house.

Now I don't have an issues with taking in parcels for people as I understand people work, so I take them in with the though process of

1. Its the neighbourly thing to do
2. It saves the driver, who I happen to spend time chatting with, and Is a lovely woman, from having to re-deliver on another day
3. it saves neighbours the hassle of re-arranging delivery.

Each time I've took a parcel in depending on which neighbour it is, they usually get home, see card and call straight over, or I've caught them as they've pulled up in the street, However NDN on the other side of me makes zero effort to call to collect their stuff. I have on occasion either popped ND and dropped it off, or caught them in the street but once when DS was poorly & I took a package in, I made no effort to drop it off for them and it took them 2 days before they called for it without so much as a thanks! (they had been home during this time an no doubt would of see the card the driver pushed through the door stating it was at mine).

Fast forward to today and DH was working from home when another package arrived for NDN, he signed for it, took it in and watched the lady post the card through the door. NDN is due in soon and I know they wont collect it until they can be arsed, which means I have a huge bloody box stuck in my hall until they do.

AIBU to now just start refusing to take anything in for them or to tell them to move their arse in terms of collecting their stuff because if I have to answer "mummy what's in the box?" one more time I'll bloody scream!

I live in "XX Road" which has an identically named "XX close" round the corner what idiot thought that was a good idea.... So we get a fair amount of accidentally mis-delivered general post as well as big deliveries

Anyway, I have always taken letters and parcels round same day, even left notes if they weren't in, just in case they didn't get the royal mail or courier card etc. Takes just a couple of minutes to walk it round.

This has worked fine for many years until I ordered something online and it didn't arrive. To the extent that the supplier dealt with the non-delivery claim, sent me a new one and the whole thing was done and dusted.

Roll forward about 4-5 weeks and this woman turns up with my original parcel, claiming that she "hadn't had time" to bring it round any sooner. Item was completely useless (along the lines of personalised and date specific).

If I get anything for her now, I take my own sweet time passing it on. usually via the postbox for it to take a few more days. I haven't yet had a courier delivery left on the doorstep (like I did with a shit ton of expensive baby gear once) so not sure what I'll do when that happens.

When I used to be in with three small kids I used to end up with big parcels (properly big enough to get in the way, and tempting to small toddlers to climb on) for two houses way down the road - the parcels were often too big to carry in one hand, and the kids were too small to leave at home, so I'd have to drive sodding enormous parcels 50 meters down the road to avoid having them in my hallway for ways.

That was very frustrating. I couldn't care less whether people actually say the word "Thank you" if they collect promptly and their demeanour expresses appreciation ("great" might be quite appreciative... it might not of course) but expecting to have a neighbour deliver a parcel bigger than a large shoe box is very rude and entitled.

My neighbour takes loads in for me and generally sends one of her kids round with it after I get home but before I've headed over. I don't tend to go as soon as I get in because she is a child-minder and I don't like to disturb her more while she is working.

If I see her passing though I'll pop out and go to the door with her.

I just buy her flowers every so often.

In your case I don't know if I could not accept the parcels since that would feel awkward. I think I would try dropping them round as soon as you see them arrive back and say that you need to get the parcel out of the house as the kids drive you mad asking what's in it. Ask them then if they can come round to collect straight away as it's putting you off taking in parcels as a favour to people and then they don't collect straight away.

God I love a parcel thread.

Sling box into neighbour's wheelie bin (as the people from Yodel do) and put note through door telling them.

Redcrayons the "no effort" argument only really flies if the parcel is small and light, and the neighbour is both able bodied and not juggling small children who can't be left alone.

Expecting people to deliver anything big and bulky is pretty rude. Your cul de sac has developed its own convention but your neighbour can't know that unless they are telepathic, and it may not be "no effort" for them.

This really isnt worth agnsting over at all. Refuse the parcels if you want to or perhaps just let your neighbour know that if you take in his parcels you would like them collected ASAP. 🤷🏻‍♀️.

I usually take in my neighbours parcels but occasionally don't by when it's not convenient for me. It's fine.

BTW I think the neighbour saying 'that's great' is a form of saying thanks. It would be better to say a pro we thank you but I think it is ok and shows his appreciation. That wouldn't bother me either.

This happened to me recently....i accepted a parcel for ndn...quite a big box and i dont have a hallway so it was stuck in my kitchen for a couple of days....i got so fed up of tripping over it...i took it round and just left it on there doorstep.

I feel your pain OP. We live in a close of 5 houses. Generally people take things in for each other, but one house never accepts things so the rest of us reciprocate by refusing to take things for them (they're generally unpopular for other reasons too, so there's history!).

We're retired and the family opposite have 2 working parents and 5 kids, all of whom seem to order everything on line. Last Christmas our hall was like a PO sorting office times!!! Sometimes, even when someone was in, they didn't answer the door (teenage kids couldn't be bothered .... !!!) so it got a bit stressed at times .... we'd often end up staggering over there with several packages at once. Got beyond a joke.

My flat is small but it could easily accommodate a large parcel. Assuming it wasn't a sofa or something...

It seems such an odd thing to get stressed about.

Go to NDN and say "you need to come and collect your parcel now it's in my way"

I have frieda's problem too. I've started using Amazon lockers whenever I can. Our neighbour is lovely and willingly takes in parcels but they work shifts so getting them back is really difficult, especially as I don't know what's a good time to call to avoid waking them up. I'm too polite to put 'don't leave with neighbours' notes on the parcels. #verybritishproblems

This wouldn't bother me at all, but that doesn't mean you're not allowed to be bothered by it. If YOU feel that YOU are inconvenienced and YOU don't want to take their parcels in anymore (especially as they haven't thanked you) then you don't have to. There's no legal nor moral obligation for you to do so.

I can't imagine getting annoyed about this.

Say no for just that neighbours parcels in future. They will never know you refused it, you could have been asleep/at the shops.

Just say to the delivery lady that regretfully you can't take in parcels for them anymore as they take so long to collect that you're fed up with it now. I'm sure she'll understand.

Why is this such a problem? If you don't want to take their parcels just say no to the delivery driver.

Same etiquette on our road as redcrayon's. Anyone new has obviously worked it out pretty quickly as I've never experienced a standoff with deviants waiting it out with a parcel in their hallway

I think "great! see you later!" is OK as a form of thanks/acknowledgement. I'd have to try quit hard to be annoyed about it.

I don't take parcels in anymore.
People will have to make their own arrangements whether they work or not.

One neighbour used to be in, but refused to answer the door.
I got sick of taking their stuff and delivering it for them.

Another couple had things delivered regularly and were always at work.
They arrange to collect them now, cheeky fuckers.

I don't think people mind the odd occasion, but if you have a lot of deliveries, you can't expect neighbours to take them in.

Did he come to you or did you have to drop to him?

Either way, it wouldn't bother me very much, I agree with PP who said they agonise over the right time to knock and ask for it.

However, it is is bothering you, just don't accept them for that house, it is really normal according to a delivery driver I was chatting to recently who said it was extremely common for people to refuse to take in for their neighbours. Sad really.

My NDN has very kindly taken in a couple of parcels, but then doesn't answer the door when I go to collect it so I actually wish they wouldn't! The last one I had to stake out the front window and ambush her as she left the house, three days after the parcel was left.

Funnily enough, they answer the door when I am dropping a parcel that I have taken in for them!

I take a while to galvanise myself to knock on the door of a neighbour to collect parcels, hangover from years of social anxiety.... I usually ask dh to do it.... but I do feel awfully guilty about the imposition on the neighbours.....

5moreminutes obviously I wouldn't expect an elderly infirm neighbour to hot foot it round to mine with a New sofa. New neighbour is perfectly able to walk 10 yards to my house with a box from Amazon (as I have done for him). There's only 6 houses in our cul de sac. We all do it except the new fella. he obviously came from a 'you pick it up' kind of neighbourhood before. I'll let him off because he lets me use his recycling bin as an overflow when mines full.

I've done this before when someone has shoved a load of leaflets in over the top of the card and so I've not seen until hours later when I finally get round to binning them.

I only take parcels in for certain neighbours and vise versa. My ndn is very dodgy so I take in nothing for them. However I have to say I won a completion once to win a personalised toy box and it happened to be delivered while I was on holiday my very lovely neighbour (on the other side) kept the huge box in his house until we got back just so my son didn't have to wait any longer for a re delivery. 😊

I stopped taking in deliveries when my NDN 's daughter (daughter was not living next door) ordered a very large television for herself but with delivery to NDN rather than her own house without checking that her mum was going to be home to take it in.
The television was a mahoosive one .