to think if your neighbour take a parcel in for you...

[Rainbowdash88]

The least you could do is make an effort to come and collect it asap?

I am currently a SAHM and live in a small quiet cul de sac, where apart from my other elderly neighbour, I am the only one who is normally at home most days with the DC.

Normally if anyone gets a delivery and no one is at home, the driver (mainly the same woman who usually delivers my orders) will come and knock at my house.

Now I don't have an issues with taking in parcels for people as I understand people work, so I take them in with the though process of

1. Its the neighbourly thing to do
2. It saves the driver, who I happen to spend time chatting with, and Is a lovely woman, from having to re-deliver on another day
3. it saves neighbours the hassle of re-arranging delivery.

Each time I've took a parcel in depending on which neighbour it is, they usually get home, see card and call straight over, or I've caught them as they've pulled up in the street, However NDN on the other side of me makes zero effort to call to collect their stuff. I have on occasion either popped ND and dropped it off, or caught them in the street but once when DS was poorly & I took a package in, I made no effort to drop it off for them and it took them 2 days before they called for it without so much as a thanks! (they had been home during this time an no doubt would of see the card the driver pushed through the door stating it was at mine).

Fast forward to today and DH was working from home when another package arrived for NDN, he signed for it, took it in and watched the lady post the card through the door. NDN is due in soon and I know they wont collect it until they can be arsed, which means I have a huge bloody box stuck in my hall until they do.

AIBU to now just start refusing to take anything in for them or to tell them to move their arse in terms of collecting their stuff because if I have to answer "mummy what's in the box?" one more time I'll bloody scream!

i took a parcel in one christmas , the guy knocked ( didnt know who is was , lives a few doors down) and then went on to tell me that ' he had nothing to do with the neighbours, he thought that i probably did ( cheek of it) and barely said a thank you.
its a real pain sometimes, i really dont mind for my immediate neighbours as they call round straight away and say thanks, but this bloke was an arse. there is no need , especially when your doing someone a favour and stopping them having to go miles to the post office delivery place to pick it up.

YANBU.

Slightly related but probably boring anecdote...We live in a cul-de-sac, lots of lovely neighbours and always somebody in to take delivery of things so we often have "please leave with neighbour" saved as our delivery preferences on websites etc. We ordered DC's a set of bunk beds and as we needed a new mattress at the time and there was an offer on, we bought that as well. NDN gets knock on the door, can she take delivery of something. She says yes, thinking it would be usual amazon parcel. When I got home that evening she had been climbing over a king-size mattress, 2 single mattresses and two huge boxes of flatpack bunkbeds in her hall all day. I was MORTIFIED.

Sometimes our neighbours take in our parcels, although I try very hard to plan to be in or have them delivered to work.

However, on the odd occasions the inland decide to randomly send stuff that has to be signed for 😬 It happens.

They are very kind but if I am working those few days, I get back at 9/9:30pm to a card and then wonder if that's too late to be going round? Then I am gone again at 7:30am, and that's definitely too early... so itcould indeed be a few days.

But if you know they've been at home in more sociable hours, yes they are being rude. But if you don't know, no.

I started refusing deliveries for ndn for similar issues, she wasnt very happy but if she hadnt taken the piss (and been a complete bitch) then I would have been happy to take her stuff in.

Our other NDNs get stuff delivered every day as he is a self employed tradesman, but they collect as soon as they get home so I dont mind that at all.

Prior to moving to our current home we lived in a tiny terraced house. Living room and kitchen were one, and DS barely had room to crawl around. As a SAHM, the delivery driver knew I was in most of the time so would ask if I could take in parcels. I said yeah no problem, and popped them upstairs so they weren't in the way downstairs. Didn't cause me any issues, until we had to use upstairs in the evening.
Our NDN started to have loads of parcels being delivered, and the couple both worked long hours. I would hear them arrive home, and they would make no effort to collect the parcels. I would have to go and deliver it to them. Turns out the lady was pregnant, and was waiting for her DP to arrive home to collect them. She didn't want to do any heavy lifting, even the light boxes.. He worked funny shifts, so it sometimes took days. I continued taking parcels in, as I knew it would be a pain for them having to travel to the sorting office. Neither of them drove. Up until we moved I took the parcels in, but told NDN they'd have to collect as soon as they can, as I didn't want items being damaged or misplaced during the move. They did always say thank you, and was very grateful.
My advice is stop taking the parcels in for the rude NDN that doesn't say thank you.

I don't like to leave parcels with my next door neigjbour, purely on the basis that last time I was out when a delivery was made I had been home literally 5 minutes (am mum to a 3 year old) taking her coat shoes and bag off when the neigjbour across the road a middle aged man who pops into next door neighbour to get any shopping for him (next door neighbour is in his 90s) I had a loud banging at the door opened it and practicalllt had the parcel thrown at me by this guy who was red faced and said to me rather rudely "pick up your parcels!!! He's waited ages for you to pick it up!!" And proceeded to walk down my path I stopped him and rudely told him back didn't know it was being delivered today was out picking up daughter from nursery was out 10 minutes max and I had just seen the card and was a busy mum hubby st work do sorry I don't have time on my hands like hthis did!! Haven't spoke to him much since and have my parcels delivered to work if I know I'm not going to be in!

We used to get this with one particular neighbour who is notorious for not answering her door. We have had to resort to putting our own notes through her door. When she eventually appears she says she had got the original note from the delivery company but didnt want to disturb us...

I've got a parcel that's gone AWOL. I've had an email notifying me it's been delivered but no delivery card as to where to and it's in none of my usual parcel drop spaces.

I don't like my neighbours so am not about to go knocking on doors on the off chance it's with them

I'm not sure I believe this story. Firstly things get delivered by different companies and the PO, so there isn't just one driver who does all of it. I get tons of things delivered and when I order I rarely know what service the company uses, but we only occasionally see the same delivery drivers more than once other than the postman (who isn't always the same chap either).

Also, if they pop round to get it 'with no word of thanks', what actually do they say? I cannot believe anyone would just knock on the door. ask for their parcel and then walk off. OK they may not be effusive with their thanks but I cannot believe they don't utter one word that could be construed as thanks.

Also - 2 days? It's really not a big deal, is it?

But, if it's bothering you just say "I'm sorry, I don't take parcels for her any more" when the delivery driver knocks. Or, maybe put a note on your door so you don't even have to answer it?

rainbow he was rude!

YANBU, I am like you a SAHM and apart from the old folk usually the only one home. Last week i refused to take one for ND, they are wierd and more often than not she is home but just wont answer the door, so i refuse to take anything for them. And 3 days ago my husband took one in for the house 3 doors up and they only picked them up last night. They actually used to live in this house until 2 years ago when we moved in and we still get post for them. I have stopped sending it up to their house now after all this time. It annoys us because it's like they are waiting for us to do take them to them.

My neighbour is quite deaf, so often his wife kindly takes a parcel in for me, then I come home when she's out, try calling for parcel, and he doesn't hear the bell (I can hear him inside, and his van's there).
I generally try a couple of times and give up...then later, he brings parcel round, and asks if they put a card through (clearly wondering why I didn't call for it!).

I wouldnt take their parcels in anymore. Of the moan (which they have no right to) I'd explain that it's becoming a hassle to have to hold on to them for days or chase them up to collect them

Delivery drivers round here often leave a card saying 'with neighbour' but don't fill in the number. In our cul de sac everyone works and some so shifts so it's not obvious which neighbour will have taken in a parcel. Fortunately, everyone seems ok about looking out for when addressee is at home and bringing parcel across then.

We once had a parcel for almost 3 weeks as it turns out the card wasn't received so he didn't know we had it. Sure we could've taken it over but it was a huge bloody box and it stated it was a gun so I was a wee bit scared. Dh and I had fun trying to guess what this person (who we had never spoken to before as he was quite a few doors away) would be doing with it.
The most annoying is when my ndn order huge bulk buy packs of hay and have it delivered the day after the go on a weeks holiday so we have that sitting in our hallway for a week. It's happened 3 times now.
OP - 2 days really isn't that big of a deal. I always keep the attitude that if I was out I'd like a neighbour to take in my parcels and so I will do it for them too.

I always struggle to.collect parcels when dh is away because I leave home at 7:30 and get home about 12 hours later, then rush to get dd bathed and in bed, by which time I can't leave her to.collect them, and also as my neighbours are elderly, I am unsure about knocking in the dark (in winter) as I don't want to disturb or alarm them. So sometimes I do wait a few days before I can collect. We do buy them biscuits at Christmas and help in other ways when we are able though

My neighbours take in parcels and I go and collect them, say thanks etc. When I take in a parcel for them, they never collect it. I go round and deliver it, last time the guy "directed" me into the house as I struggled with a hefty parcel. I avoid taking them in if I can. Apart from that they are ok neighbours so although its a bit annoying I dont bother too much about it.

last time the guy "directed" me into the house as I struggled with a hefty parcel.

I would be directing him to sort it out for himself next time around!
Seriously.

I always just drop the stuff off when I see the neighbours car is back or the lights on, I assumed everyone did? Apart from anything, the delivery people don't always remember to put a card through the door.

My brother once complained about a missing delivery which he eventually found months later, it had been thrown over a fence into a corner of the back garden in the winter. No idea it was there.

Our letter box is a bit rubbish so when a card is pushed through it gets trapped inside the letter box so we are only alerted to it if something else is posted through and pushes the card in too, what with most stuff being online these days we don't get a lot of post so wouldn't notice it.

I sometimes take parcels for the houses either side, but they always come and pick them up the same night. They've taken stuff for us too and we're all on good terms so it's fine.

The oddest one was last year when I was working from home. Delivery driver knocked but I was on a call so just took it without checking too closely. It was our address but a different name so I left it in the hallway for a few days. No-one came to get it so I did a bit of checking around and it was someone right at the other end of the road and the label was missing a digit on the door number. I took it down there and the guy just said 'oh', took it off me and shut the door in my face without even saying thank you.

Are they fully able bodied?
Just wondering as if a neighbour took in a parcel for us, i personally couldn't go and get it and would have to wait for my dad to be home, sometimes he's gone overnight or out later than i'd be comfortable knocking on somebodies door, in case they were early sleepers/had kids in bed etc.
As long as a parcel isn't so big i can't get round it to leave it in the hall i always take packages in for neighbours, even the ones i dislike, purely because so many delivery drivers are paid only on delivery and if it makes life easier for them it's worth it.

We got a bit stung last year - delivery guy knocked on the door when I was out and DH answered. Could we take in a parcel for NDN? Sure. Guy goes to get it out of his fan and it turns out to be several giant boxes containing an entire set of patio furniture and a chimenea Why on earth DH didn't change his mind and say no when he saw the sheer size of it all, I don't know!

This was a Saturday morning, and guess what? NDN and family had gone away for a bank holiday weekend and we had the whole damn lot in the house for three days...

VAN not fan