to not stop my DC doing things because other people don't want their DC to do them?

[hollyvsivy]

My children are adventurous and unless something is dangerous or unsafe for themselves or others, I don't see the problem. Increasingly I find myself being scowled at by other parents whose DC want to copy mine as if I should stop mine to help them out. I've had passive agressive comments, too. As far as I'm concerned, it's up to them to enforce their rules on their children - not me.

Some examples to give you an idea of the contexts of these situations:

Splashing in puddles
Climbing trees
Standing up on the swing
Climbing the slide (as long as no one else is waiting to go down)
Painting their hands and feet at toddler group
Rolling down hills

AIBU to continue to let my children do what I'm fine with them doing and ignore disapproving outsiders who expect me to stop them so their children won't do the same?

Slide climbing is a bug bear of mine too. YABU for that.

Everything else is completely normal!

When we lived in Scotland we had an adventure playground near us, fully staffed and also fully inclusive so everything accessible for wheelchairs.

On the last week of the summer holidays they did an event called Let's get Manky. Basically they swamped the place with water and set up an assault course with the intention being to get the kids as filthy as possible. This photo came up in my memories of my DD1 after she'd done it one year. It was brilliant, all the parents would line up with water guns and spray the kids while they scrambled under the nets in the mud :o

Good grief they are just children..the way you are going on you are making it sound like ops children need asbos!! I have seen this happen and the children dont have a problem...its the parents.

Someone had done a poo on our village slide once.

Just saying.

Perhaps they did it while going down the slide though.. not up it.

I'm not averse.

My dds shoot guns and ride bareback. They'd take on anyone. Bit climbing up slides is a NO

A less "adventurous" child may well look across at a slide, see other children climbing up it and not want to go and have a turn. I wish people would use their imagination. It's not about mud and risk. It's about consideration for others-particularly others who are perhaps less robust than you are. A very good lesson for children to learn.

flownthecoop

Now that's feral

Where is the op? Off somewhere with her 'Feral' children

flownthecoop - same here! Your village doesn't start with W does it?

No it doesn't.. maybe everyone village has phantom slide pooers...

Ahhh back in the golden day when I was a kid parents wouldn't be seen dead at the play area they were too busy doing whatever 70s parents did and us kids policed ourselves and I don't actually remember any slide climbers. No idea why?

My bug bear is hovering parents tutting at mud and tree climbing. And at people carrying wipes to clean equipment.

Bet the poo slider was an adult to be fair

In the 70's though, the slides were ridiculously high with no safety railings and a bloody great drop onto concrete!! They just had that little box thing at the top which everyone wanted to sit in so you couldn't actually use the slide to go up or down. Just climbing the steps was perilous!

And remember those wooden horse things which you all sat on and then someone would push it and it would slide back and forwards before starting to lift at each end? DP has a cracking scar under his chin from being hit by one as a kid :o

The slippery slope from slide climbing child to slide pooing teen...

There does seem to be an attitude at the moment that there is something wrong with introverts - kids and adults. Confident/boisterous kids should be taught to show compassion and consideration for those who are more timid. Not all kids are the assertive type and thank god - can you imagine a world where everyone is the same!!

The slide is a really good example of where timid children can feel intimidated.

YABU control your feral children

Bearing in mind that the OP has posted on another thread that her 10 year old has never crossed a car park or been out alone and was shocked at seeing her friends at the swimming pool without an adult, all this unbridled adventure seems not to have "taken"

Bertrand :o

MyCats that's true back in the day slides were bloody bloody high! Your photo looks awesome. My kids would have loved that.

Oh the wooden horse! Last time I saw a massive one was in Builth Wells in 1993. We used to stop at the playground with the kids on the way to the coast.

It was a fantastic playground with loads of stuff. Does anyone live there and is it still there? Just by the river.

Bertrand But the OP was not exclusively about slide-climbing, was it? A "less robust" child may also see my "adventurous" kids using the climbing frame for precisely its intended purpose and not want to go and have a turn either. Whether or not my kids are inconsiderate (for the record, they are, and often spend ages stuck at the top patiently waiting for less agile children to move out of the way further down) has nothing to do with it in that case.