to think that I don't look very nice?

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I hate having my photo taken, because I'm getting old and am much fatter than I was when I was young.

DH doesn't understand why I hate it so much, and says that I shouldn't have such low self-esteem. He says that it if I don't think I look nice, then no one else will.

That said, he never pays me compliments because he says I'll just disagree with him (which I would).

Thing is, I am being objective about this and I do look horrible. I feel OK day to day, but then see photos/videos of myself and just want to destroy them. I know I must look like that in reality, and it really upsets me.

I also have a friend who's not very physically attractive and she thinks she's great-looking. So I although I'm envious of her self-confidence, I also think she's deluding herself about her looks.

Question is, what can I do?

(Name changed as know a few people on here)

shockers I agree. I just don't know why shops don't have flattering lighting in changing rooms. They would sell so much more. I go in and don't look in the mirror until I have the garment on. if it looks ok then I know it will look even better at home.It's the only way!

Haven't RTFT yet...but seriously OP, your friend is not "delsuional" about her looks, she just has conficence and self esteem ffs!

I have severe acne, I have fucking lumps on my face, redness, scars the lot! I also shave my head, don't shave my legs or pits, and have dreadlocks, and wear mens clothes.

I still think I am gorgeous, and I have high self esteem, because attractiveness is so much more than looks!
It's attitude, personality etc etc.

My friends love, my DP loves me, because of who I am, and how my presentation of myself matches my attitude.

I'm sorry but judging everyone on their socially a

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Judging people on how "socially acceptable" thier looks are, and couching it as attractiveness, is an incredibly blinkered and shallow thing to do!