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Original poster

Did I rsvp too early?

68 replies

Whydididothatfuckingthing · 24/04/2017 21:47

Is it possible to send an rsvp too soon?

My ds is 5 & has sensory issues + dyspraxia, he's a lovely lad but does struggle socially. Anway he doesn't get invited to many parties, but the ones he does, if we can make it I tend to text the mum straight away to confirm we'll be there.

I did this at about 7pm tonight in response to an invite that was in his school bag, and got this back 'thank you for letting me know, blimey he must be keen'.
Did I do something wrong? Should I have left it a day or so - the party is 2 weeks Saturday.

I'm also (paranoid I know) thinking they don't really want him there..
Any thoughts?

OP posts:
arethereanyleftatall · 24/04/2017 21:48

Don't worry about it. You were probably just the first to reply and they've smiled at the speed. Nothing to worry or think about there.

SparklyLeprechaun · 24/04/2017 21:49

Weird reply and quite rude. I reply as soon as I see an invitation, otherwise I forget. Don't give it another thought

TheWhiteRoseOfYork · 24/04/2017 21:49

I think it was just a turn of phrase, if it were me I would be impressed by your organisational skills, loads of people forget to rsvp or do it really late. Stop worrying and hope your DS enjoys the party.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 24/04/2017 21:50

I read it as a light hearted and pleasant reply, nothing more than that.

Lilyoftheforest · 24/04/2017 21:50

Awww she was probably only joking. Doubt she meant any harm. Smile Don't take it to heart. Just message back and say 'well I do like to be prompt! LOL' and make light of it.

Hope your lovely son enjoys the party! Grin

Leeds2 · 24/04/2017 21:50

If I were the inviting parent, I would be glad you had responded so quickly! And I always did the same.

wizzywig · 24/04/2017 21:51

I do exactly the same op. At least we will never be those rude people who dont bother to rsvp

Littlecaf · 24/04/2017 21:52

What's wrong with being honest? Reply, " yes he doesn't get many invites and is looking forward to the party".

If I got that reply as a parent I'd think that was lovely. Why do people feel they need to cover up keeness!

ThePinkOcelot · 24/04/2017 21:52

I always replied straight away when dds were invited to a party. I wouldn't give it another thought.

CaraSl · 24/04/2017 21:53

I am always glad when people RSVP quickly I agree her reply is rude but I doubt she meant it to be. Weird to issue invites otherwise! Bad phrasing from her though.

flowersareblooming · 24/04/2017 21:54

I always respond as soon as I find invite
Wouldn't worry about her reply sounds like she was so pleased to get a response

Allthewaves · 24/04/2017 21:54

I always reply straight away incase i forget

Janek · 24/04/2017 21:55

I do too. I find it in the schoolbag at 15:30ish and as long as i know the answer, which i usually do, i rsvp straight away. Why wouldn't i?

But she was joking, don't worry!

Submariner · 24/04/2017 21:56

It's meant to be nice/jokey. If they didn't want him there they wouldn't have invited him. It's just the sort of awkward chatter I would make.

mermaidofthewestside · 24/04/2017 21:58

Replying straight away is normal.
That reply is just weird.

Original poster
Whydididothatfuckingthing · 24/04/2017 22:02

Thanks the replies make me feel better 😀
She's actually a mum a 'chat to'/ say hello to quite a bit, so hopefully a joke.

Think I'm as socially awkward as ds.

OP posts:
DancingLedge · 24/04/2017 22:04

She was probably just grateful that someone had replied promptly: birthday invites you often have to chase up responses days before the party. Don't read more into it than there is.

Hope the party's good.

Crumbs1 · 24/04/2017 22:06

Bless, you're overthinking. It's fine to reply early and children get excited seeing the list of attendees grow.

befuddledgardener · 24/04/2017 22:08

I really appreciate a prompt party reply.

Also it's one thing off your to do list

VimFuego101 · 24/04/2017 22:08

Based on the threads on here she's probably surprised (and grateful) that you responded. It seems like it's unusual for parents to rsvp and the hosts are left guessing about how many kids to cater for.

GooseFriend · 24/04/2017 22:08

Ah I think that's light hearted op. Don't sweat it!

CheeseQueen · 24/04/2017 22:10

I always reply straight away to party invites too. It's basic manners and I'm sure the child's parent is really glad that you let them know so quickly - I know I would, as I cannot abide people who don't bother to reply!

Rachel0Greep · 24/04/2017 22:11

No, not at all. I would do the same tbh, am usually the first rsvp to weddings and suchlike. I'm sure it is meant in a light hearted way, and I hope that he loves the party!

innagazing · 24/04/2017 22:13

What Littlecaf said!

It's never too soon to accept an invitation
It pees me off no end that so many people don't RSVP for kids parties, so you have no idea if the child even let their parent know they had an invitation!

ThreeFish · 24/04/2017 22:13

Ah, I think she sort of means she's pleased he's looking forward to it.

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