Did I rsvp too early?

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Is it possible to send an rsvp too soon?

My ds is 5 & has sensory issues + dyspraxia, he's a lovely lad but does struggle socially. Anway he doesn't get invited to many parties, but the ones he does, if we can make it I tend to text the mum straight away to confirm we'll be there.

I did this at about 7pm tonight in response to an invite that was in his school bag, and got this back 'thank you for letting me know, blimey he must be keen'.
Did I do something wrong? Should I have left it a day or so - the party is 2 weeks Saturday.

I'm also (paranoid I know) thinking they don't really want him there..
Any thoughts?

A speedy rsvp is a huge relief. It sounds as though she is as glad your DS is going as you are that he has been invited.

Sounds like a friendly, chatty reply and in all honesty she is probably delighted you replied so quick. There is nothing worse than chasing people for RSVPs - you definitely did the right thing.

I always reply the evening I find the invitation (which may or may not be the day it was handed out!) before I forget. And I love a quick RSVP when I'm doing the inviting.

I think her reply was meant to be friendly/lighthearted - maybe she's a bit socially awkward herself?

It's fine OP....I have had a few mums RSVP same day and I always like to think of it as them being polite and considerate.

She's probably the disorganised mum who finds aged notes from the in the bottom of school bags alerting her to long gone "Odd Socks Day!" - like me.
I'd see this as a light-hearted banter way of commenting on how prompt you are. These threads always make me wonder how often I might have given inadvertent offence.
Please don't worry, all evidence points to her being a nice woman who wants your sone at the party. It's very helpful that you replied promptly.

Agree she most probably just hit a duff note with humour but I can totally understand your anxieties, OP. (Also salute your prompt RSVP!)

Definitely being humourous
She's hit an unknown nerve that's all. You are the BEST type of RSVPer! It great if you need numbers for somewhere.
I've tried to start replying as soon as I venture into the depths of the book bags on a Friday night now otherwise I forget until a day or so before

I think 'thank you for letting me know, blimey he must be keen'. is perfectly fine as a reply. I do think you are a bit paranoid.

I usually ask the mum or dad for ideas for presens and as there are virtually no good (non-good) shops I often buy things on the internet so I would probably ask for ideas and I would allow a week or two to do this, so your reply is not too early at all.

Plus if I wait I might for get!

Littlecaf "What's wrong with being honest? Reply, " yes he doesn't get many invites and is looking forward to the party".

I think it is not appropriate at all to tell the other mum whether a child gets a lot of invites or not! It also sounds really negative for the OP's son.

That could sound like he is desperate for any invite, rather than just pleased to go to 'little Tommy/Jonny/Whatever's party.'

Plus parents do sometimes pass on to their kids what other kids say, I would be mortified if my throw away comment to my child's friend's mum got passed on to the other child. This is less likely at 5, I know, but as they get older it gets more likely.

OP you do not need to say why he is keen, but if you wish to I would just say "He loves parties!"

As someone who has recently organised a birthday party for ds (5) I would have loved parents to have rsvp'd so quickly or even at all! One third of our invites didn't even get an rsvp! I'd prefer a no for planning purposes instead of nothing. I'd take the reply at face value and let your son look forward to the party and enjoy it.

I'd reply with rsvp immediately or I guarantee I'd forget!

doilooklikeatourist my cousin got uite upset when we didn't formally reply to her save the date card! People are weird.

op you did nothing wrong. Don't worry.

I reply as soon as I see an invite too.

I'd be delighted that you'd rsvpd so quickly!

I too rsvp as soon as I see the invitation

she must be the disorganised type who checks bags once a week, unless her child chatters incessantly about a party invite and makes her get it out and RSVP immediately.

Thanks again everyone.

I saw her this morning and she was perfectly fine, I thanked her again for the invite and 'ds loves party's' - she thanked me for replying so quick as she needs to let venue know numbers - quite loudly as a 'hint' I think to some of the others - so als well.

ohtheholidays - thank you for your reassurance, I do worry about him not being invited to many, he's settled into school well although prefers to play by himself, he is showing interest in the other children and to be fair they seem to like him.

Yes, I second a pp who said don't say ds doesn't get many invites. It's putting your own child down and is unnecessary. He's been invited on his own merits, other invites are irrelevant and "many" is a subjective word anyway.

Whydididothatfuckingthing does your son have friends back ever or get invited to other's homes?

Maybe, once he is more settled why not see if he likes anyone enough to invite back for a play date and/or go to park together? Assuming this doesn't yet happen.

If your ds is easily bored/might be disruptive or whatever plan the play date.

We often have some free play but start with something like decorating biscuits.

Dr and friend then have a go on the trampoline, then snacks and drinks. I'd say start with other parent present so you make new friends (if you wish to) and keep play dates short.

My son has found some friends easier and is still quite a selfish little soul! Doesn't want to come to the door to say bye etc!

Doing these play dates will help you know who your son gets on with and may ensure more party invites.

You can't make othe kids/people like your son but you can increase the odds he will have fun and play better at school by helping him learn to play together at the park/at home.