Did I rsvp too early?

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Is it possible to send an rsvp too soon?

My ds is 5 & has sensory issues + dyspraxia, he's a lovely lad but does struggle socially. Anway he doesn't get invited to many parties, but the ones he does, if we can make it I tend to text the mum straight away to confirm we'll be there.

I did this at about 7pm tonight in response to an invite that was in his school bag, and got this back 'thank you for letting me know, blimey he must be keen'.
Did I do something wrong? Should I have left it a day or so - the party is 2 weeks Saturday.

I'm also (paranoid I know) thinking they don't really want him there..
Any thoughts?

Her reply was unecessarily reactionary, I think! I've replied to party invites at 4pm on the day I get them before-I'd rather do it asap than forget!!

The jokey reply back is "Always up for a party!"

If you can't be unselfconsciously enthusiastic about life when you're 5, when can you be, right?!

Not weird or rude at all. Sort of thing I'd say. Friendly

Slightly odd reply. I often RSVP as soon as I get home and check the calendar as then I don't have to remember to do it. I've never had any comments apart from the standard 'thanks for letting us know / glad she can come' sort of thing. But I wouldn't worry, much more annoying when people don't reply and you have to hound them for a decision!

I agree with NotMyPenguin! Also I would be pleased that someone was clearly delighted to be asked...as is probably the other Mum :-)

She's joking, that's all. If she didn't want him there she wouldn't have invited him, simple as that. It's an awkward response but I doubt she intended anything bad, she is probably now sat there cringing that you'd think she was being mean when she meant it to be funny!!

Hope he has a lovely time

I always used to reply straight away, because otherwise I'd worry about forgetting.

Perhaps it was just an awkward joke that went down like a lead balloon, due to being unable to convey the tone via text.

Agree with NorthPenguin, good reply... Perfect to reply straight away I always do, her reply is a bit odd but I wouldn't think it's offensive just not what I would say

Strange reply! Round here peole are very grateful thankful for quick replies. A host would usually reply: that's fantastic/ great that Jemima can make it! Tallullah will be very excited to her at the party.

Basically, youve dpne nothing wrong OP, she's the one to watch worded it awkwardly.

Weird reply, but you're fine. I always check the diary and reply straight away, saves me forgetting.

I don't think it was a weird reply. I think it was lighthearted 🤷🏻‍♀️

Whenever I've sent out party invitations, I love the organised people who send a reply immediately - lessens the 'nobody will turn up' paranoia!

I often reply straight away, otherwise I forget.

We usually reply the same day and we usually always get back so glad you've said yes already now I can shut john/amy/(not the real names)up,our DD9 is very popular which is a huge relief because she's autistic and disabled.

So don't take it to heart believe me it will be a compliment,the amount of Mum's I see getting really stressed because they've handed out a class full of invites and by 2 days before the party there's still only 5 or 6 of us that have bothered to get back to the parents.

I've been that Mum before that was then shocked when all 26 children and some siblings(uninvited)turned up on the day.

It seems friendly to me. A bit of a joke, letting you know she'd noted your speedy reply in a good way. "Thank you for your prompt response," would have been weird.

DH replied to a save the date
I did tell him it wasn't an actual invitation, but he didn't believe me

I like to get prompt replies and I reply promptly if I know my DD can make it, so I think it was nice that you did so. Sometimes I have accepted invitations for my DD literally seconds after they arrive in my email (maybe I should play it cool too!). I'd have been a bit taken aback by her response too (i.e. I think she was a bit rude). Just rise above it. Maybe next time you could say thanks for the invitation, pretty sure he can make it, will reconfirm by XX (you know, pretending to be cool but at the same time making sure that you have actually rsvpd and your DS is confirmed on the guest list :)

Try not to worry(if you have been)about the lack of invites neither.Our DS15 is asd and has dyspraxia and he only got invited to a handful of partys when he was younger but now he has a huge group of friends,goes to friends houses,gets invited to sleepovers,days out,trips to town and the cinema,he found his people when he started secondary school.

I don't think there is any such thing as replying too early to an invitation. I think it's good manners to reply (either way) as soon as you can. Your son is now ticked off as a confirmed as she will be grateful of it. I think the mum was showing enthusiastic banter rather than being rude.

No, you're totally fine. We normally get one or two the same day, which thrills the birthday child!

I wasn't aware there was a time limit on RSVPing. I'd much rather people replied at once so I can get my party together.

I love a swift reply! I'm getting still getting acceptances text days after I've confirmed numbers with the venue

I think it's a nice fun reply. She hasn't thought about what she wrote, so you shouldn't either. She'll get a flurry in over the next few days.

It's normal to reply straight away imo. Check the calendar. Reply with a thank you very much or sorry we can't make it. Put the details on the calendar if necessary and bin the invitation. Job done and no issues with forgetting to reply/losing the invitation.

It is nice to actually receive a prompt RSVP. So many parents cannot be arsed and organising numbers is a nightmare. Then the buggers that don't respond either turn up or tell you the day before and expect to be accommodated. She meant no offence imho.