" let him play In the road!" AIBU to feel hurt?

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Was parked up on our drive way ( we live on a very busy main road and the engine was off) with my clingy 12 month old on my lap in the drivers seat ( was waiting for someone to move his car seat from their car into ours) when LO honked the horn, wasn't a long honk at all as I quickly moved him away from the horn. family member then walked over and put the car seat in the back of the car and I went to hand LO over to The family member to put LO in the car seat, as I handed him over LO accidentally hit the horn again ( like before was a very short beep). The neighbour then ran out shouting ' SHUT THE FUCK UP!" I quickly apologised and explained that it was the LO and told him that he is now going in the car seat and it won't happen again. The neighbour seemed so angry and said ' I don't care just shut the Fuck up" again I then repeated what I said about the LO , apologised and said we were going out. The neighbour then said ' well why don't you solve the person causing this problem and let him play in the road' he said it so violently and angrily and I am so upset... my LO is only 12 months and he said such a horrible disgusting thing to him and about him!

It wasn't early in the morning and it wasn't late at night ( was 12 lunchtime) and I know that the neighbour doesn't have any young children.

I am so hurt, I feel awful for LO I am now scared to let him play outside in case we upset the neighbour.

Well just reading, so it's not night shifts, just a nasty lazy arse then.

Just ignore and let him be a nasty lazy slob.

Lots of loud toddler music in the garden this summer then!

Ha ha Mummy,Mr Tumble should do it😬

Extremely nasty...but surely not assault as one poster has suggested??

Big hard knock screaming at a women over a baby pressing a horn.
I guarantee he wouldn't have reacted like such a 'tough but' had you been a 6ft tall 6ft wide bloke.

What a horrible man. Complete over reaction on his part.

Totally understand how you're feeling, I'd be hurt and upset too.

If he had used that language in front of my child I wouldn't have apologised wether it was accidental beeping or not. As for what else he said I'd make a point of letting the lo have a little turn of the horn whenever we left the house from now on.

Someone has just woken me from a post-night-sleep by honking their horn twice outside. The dog the barked like a bastard and I am now awake with the prospect of another night-shift after 3 hours sleep.
YABU to let a baby sit anywhere near a car horn. Ever. Beyond annoying, irritating, fury-inducing, unreasonable and illegal and if it were you and you were just sitting there I'd quite possibly call the police on you.

😱 Mr Tumble Aeroflot. Not my thing. Sounds goooood

That's an appalling thing for him to say and if it were my child I would be scared and furious in equal measure. Don't feel hurt. Nothing he might be going through gives him the right to make such a vile suggestion.

I am possibly not seeing clearly though as I am very tired and unhinged at the thought of more nightshifts with no sleep.
But maybe your neighbour feels the same.

You'd call the police over a car horn.
Think they've got bigger things to worry about.

moist read the thread he doesn't work but night shifts in the nice weather are torture.

Op ignore the ass hole and let your toddler play outside in the summer. Arrange lots of mummy and dc play dates.

I think he over reacted. But, your baby was being annoying, not everyone finds your kid cute. After the 1st time you should have definently made sure it didn't happen a again. Having a baby doesn't mean you can just do as you please! Although he was super rude.

MOIST OP has confirmed her neighbour is unemployed, so no night shifts in his case .

Glad I don't live near MOIST. Babies making accidental noise and you'd call the police. Should she just have left it on the pavement. Ffs some people.

Perhaps he used to live next to my mum. She always used a crook lock on the steering wheel of her old car. Every time she put it on, it would slip and set the horn off. Then she'd twist to get out of the car, nudge the crook lock and set the horn off again. Every single time!
Annoying to the extreme, and yet nobody made any nasty threats.
Hope you're OK op.

Missed that bit and also pointed out that 3 hours sleep in 48 makes you a touch unreasonable.
Anyway. My point is that car horns are there for a reason and I don't think anyone should be sitting in a front seat with a baby in their lap. Ever. It's not safe and risks accidental car horn sounds and upsetting poor tired unhinged night workers.

Sounds like he overreacted hugely unless there's some massive stress in his life or something. Next time tell him to go take a long walk off a short pier.

He overreacted, but I'd have moved the baby away from the horn after the first blast out of courtesy to neighbours, many of whom might work shifts and like Moist be silently crying rather than openly ranting.

MOIST I've done many night shifts in my years of working and I have never let it make me rude and unforgiving. My choice to work nights= my risk to take sleeping in the day. I got paid more for the nights and that was part of why I took that risk. I know it's hard to be sleep deprived but you have to get over it and get on.

And children are allowed to sit in the front of cars. OK it's really not a good idea to let them do so unsupervised (taking the handbrake off risk) but without the engine running and while on a drive? Not illegal at all. Kids can drive cars on private land, though perhaps not at 12 months. Nothing the OP did was unreasonable.

The neighbour was being unreasonable. I'd let it slide once, but any repeat of that kind of behaviour, or comments about noise from the garden and I'd be calling 101 to report harassment; every time.

Oh god Moist, are you that man, the horn was short, accidents happen. If it wasen't the horn, it could have been any other noise outside waking you up, or the postie, sales person, JW or whoever. You cannot expect people to be silent during the day. Wear some ear plugs, and get some sleeping pills. Nothing is acceptable to wish death upon a child, absolutely disgusting!

Invite lots of toddler friends round this summer; paddling pools, bubble machines etc etc lots of singing and musical instruments- channel your inner Mr Tumble
This guy would have got the extremely, extremely sharp edge of my tongue if he'd spoken to me and my baby like that!
In fact, I'd be tooting the horn myself at regular intervals, with a beatific smile on my face.
He's an arse, plain and simple.

Your neighbour is a dick.