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Original poster

Has anyone ever realised a thread is about them?

186 replies

Diel · 21/04/2017 17:51

Wondering if anyone has ever recognised a thread is about them and responded?

I'm purely asking out of curiosity, no experience of it

OP posts:
Whatsername17 · 21/04/2017 19:32

I always read the 'AIBU about this teacher/the school' threads in case they are about me. I'm a head of year and deal with a lot of difficult situations. If I've ever had to issue a consequence that a parent disagrees with it always wonder if it will end up on here.

TheFormidableMrsC · 21/04/2017 19:37

My ex-husband and OW found out about my 3 long standing threads about his departure and the subsequent ongoing horrors of their behaviour and our divorce. I will never know how they did, I have my suspicions though. Ex-h decided to post some utter crap and got flamed. His posts were removed in the end. Subsequently, they printed the whole lot out and took them to the police and demanded I was prosecuted for "trolling" exposing the pair of them for the lying, manipulative, abusive, utterly narcissistic cunts they were and then later on...my ex-h took them to court during our ancillary relief proceedings and tried to have me prosecuted for "contempt of court" for anonymously posting about the outcome of said proceedings where he had lost everything. Apparently I had "humiliated" them. The Judge completely ignored the submission and it was never mentioned again. Indeed they told the Judge that MNHQ had taken down the threads to investigate my "trolling" and "harassment" Hmm. Actually, I had them taken down while I checked my legal position which was just fine and dandy thank you very much and they were reinstated where they remain to this day.

What a drama!

HerBluebiro · 21/04/2017 19:38

I've been recognised. And recognised someone from prenatal classes

MrsTeller · 21/04/2017 19:39

MrsC Hard to humiliate people with no shame.

Violetcharlotte · 21/04/2017 19:40

No, but every time there's a 'dog took my child's sandwich' type thread I panic and think it's about me. Blush

PossumInAPearTree · 21/04/2017 19:42

Yes. But I didn't respond.

I used to teach a very specialist qualification. Was literally one of three people teaching this.

I saw a thread started by one of the students which wasnt very complementary about me.

CandODad · 21/04/2017 19:46

I was working in a house and asked to use the toilet. I'm sure I have seen a thread about this.

Or two

Or three

Or hundreds

Alonggoesthetit · 21/04/2017 19:46

I have been recognised by a friend...I was asking recommendation on dildo 😳 - we still laugh about it !

shellhider · 21/04/2017 19:46

No but I have seen one of my colleagues posting on here so I always look for her threads because she is very indiscreet

TheFormidableMrsC · 21/04/2017 19:49

MrsTeller...indeed!

Pouncival · 21/04/2017 19:50

I had a friend post about me (not complimentary) in a different forum and I found it. Friend then lied and said it wasn't about me (clearly was, very specific). They are no longer a friend.

Muddlewitch · 21/04/2017 19:50

I don't think so, but when ever I see a thread title about a neighbour/mum at the park etc I click on it just to check it's not about me Grin

PovertyPain · 21/04/2017 19:51

My arsehole of an neighbour had a go at me on here. I've posted enough about my arsehole neighbour's and my own family for them to recognise me. I knew it was her straight away by the terminology and although other posters had made similar comments on the thread, she singled me out. HELLO DICKHEAD, I'M STILL HERE.

MooPointCowsOpinion · 21/04/2017 19:56

I live in fear of any teacher/school threads as I work with some really difficult parents and children sometimes.

I wish I felt more anonymous on here to be honest sometimes. Mumsnet folk give great advice, but I don't post as often as I'd like in case my in laws or friends recognise me.

SparklyUnicornPoo · 21/04/2017 20:03

I have but the OP was getting such a roasting that I laughed and left them to it. Grin

PippaFawcett · 21/04/2017 20:04

I always try to change details when I start threads that could be identifying. You would have to ask my friends and family if I have been successful! Wink

WomblingThree · 21/04/2017 20:05

I've thought a comment on a thread was about me, but it was no big deal, so I just asked the person who posted it.

I have an uncanny knack of recognising places people live or visit from very few details. Obviously I don't ask them to confirm I'm right, as that would be weird, and I don't actually want to know for sure.

ADishBestEatenCold · 21/04/2017 20:06

I don't think I am interesting enough for anyone to ever start a thread about me. Smile

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 21/04/2017 20:10

No but I recognised someone. She was posting about a family drama & painting the two parties in completely different lights, somewhere between the 2 was the truth. I was tempted to post but didn't.

klondikecookie · 21/04/2017 20:17

*My exhusband started a thread about me. He wanted opinions on why a mother of three young children would go out most evenings to her friends house until late.

Almost every posted agreed I must be a prostitute!*
Goes to show how useless people's instincts on relationship threads can be.

wictional · 21/04/2017 20:19

Whenever I serve a rude customer I get nervous that I'll come on here to see a post about an unreasonable waitress 😅

FlyingSquid · 21/04/2017 20:20

I've recognised someone on a Local thread. Pretty much all she'd mentioned was the ages of her children and the date they'd moved in, so I wasn't sure, but posted a quick 'Think I might know you' and got back 'Yes, I think I do - blue sweatshirt nursery, yes?'

Sometimes people just sound like themselves, somehow.

ftfagos · 21/04/2017 20:21

Not on this website but a friend A recognised something written about me on another website by freind B (she used photos and names so it was bloody obvious).

She painted me in an awful light and literally broke my heart, her point of view was I wasn't interested enough/supportive enough to her and to this day probably feels I dropped her as freind as soon as I had a child.

My point of view was I had a child, miscarried my second pregnancy then got pregnant for a third time but kept having massive bleeds so thought I would loose that pregnancy as well, this was all in 6 months.
She knew about my miscarriage, I was barely holding it together and having spent years being there for her I'd really thought she'd understand.

That's all I'd expected, understanding. She obviously didn't, I never told her I'd read what she'd written because I didn't want to upset her (she has her own demons she battles) I still love her but I just can't un-see those words. I'm crying now just typing this, pathetic I know but there you go.

honeyfull · 21/04/2017 20:22

I just don't get how people can recognise others. This is a humungous site with hundreds of thousands, maybe millions of members on it. And a UK population of possible lurkers of north of 60 million I think!

Feck sake, you would want to be giving map co-ordinates.

Sorry, I just do not understand the fear.

Tiggerific1984 · 21/04/2017 20:22

I've not been here long enough to have any threads about me. I know my partners ex wife is on here but couldn't tell you if she posts or not.