To be annoyed at this teacher regarding parents evening?

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My dd is is in year 9 and had a parents evening tonight which she came along to.

When it was our turn to approach her art teacher, he had to ask dd what her name was again.

There was an instance in his class where she asked him for a fresh piece of paper and he had a go at her because he had assumed she had come in from the classroom next door and should have therefore asked her teacher

I get in secondary school that you obviously teach many children, but he also taught her during year 7 too.

I just didn't want to listen to his report on her because he doesn't seem to have a clue who she was!

What sort of things at parents evening would result in a parent being laughed at or moaned about? (So i can avoid doing them smile)
Ahhh... Parents who start telling me about their own ability in the subject when they were at school. Or how their own interests, job relates to the subject. Or what teacher they had when they were at the school 20 plus years ago.
Basically, parents who spend most of the 5 min. slot talking about themselves.

Oh, and flirty Dads.
Happily, those days are long gone for me. Nowadays, at our place, the male PE staff have great stories to tell the next day - flirty Mums... watch out, we're having a right laugh!

Did anyone see the episode of Big School when Catherine Tate kept telling the dads at parents evening to stop looking at her boobs. They were doing nothing of the sort and looked bewildered.

Elodie- not quite a flirty Dad, as such, but one Parents' EveI I had to talk to a parent who was one of my favourite Cardiff City players; I'd had posters of him on my wall at uni (I know, I'm sad!); I was tongue tied, to say the least!

And yes to the other comment; got to love it when they start 'oh, I was rubbish at music in school' or, my favourite, 'well I'm tone deaf'...helpful!

I found this thread interesting because teachers have come on here saying they teach in excess of 200 children and can't be expected to always get it right. And as parents we should be okay with this. Whereas on another thread a parent was told it's okay to sanction a child who scored poorly because the teacher knew the kid hadn't tried hard enough and said chil was being given a second chance. So which is it? Am I really expected to trust what a teacher is saying about my DS when it's acceptable that parents evening, for just one year group, the teachers have no time to familiarise themselves about whom they are to be talking to parents about?

buck i think the point being made, Several times over several pages , was the teacher will have a Huge amount of data on each child in front of them at parents evening. They will be able to tell you the child's strengths and weaknesses and ways to Improve. Although They might momentarily forget their first or surname when they sit down out of their normal environment wering their own clothes with more makeup on than a kArdashian, having taught maybe 150-180 children that day and 300 in the week (my rough numbers for you).

I'm not a teacher but revising for a test sounds a bit easier than learning up to 600 faces to me.

I've done a handy checklist for myself Parents Evening.

1. Don't flirt with the teachers
2. State child's name on arrival
3. Don't bang on about own school days or ineptitude at the subject
4. Don't say i don't care whether child does homework

Probably lots more.

ToffeeCaramel my point is about finding a few minutes to refamiliarising themselves with the year group they are dealing with. Children are learning how many subjects and have various tests to study for, so assuming a child is not studying rather than needing help in a particular area of a particular subject, when the teachers themselves can't put a name to a face or as I pointed out earlier attributing skills from one child to the other makes it difficult to assess whether the teacher even knows the child well enough to know whether they are being lazy or trying their hardest. It's bloody hard for teachers (goes without saying, but I'll say it anyway), but I'm unsure as to why the children are held to a higher standard than the adults.

I vaguely remember being a teenager where the sky was always falling, so add to that 21st century pressures....

Just curious is all

Toffee

5.Don't tell the teacher it's their problem and theirs alone

1. Probably best not to tell them about all the tech equipment In the teen's bedroom
2. Don't say it's entirely up to the child to sort it out
3. Or say 'why didn't you tell me this before?'
4. Talk about an entirely different subject and/or teacher for five minutes

10. Not say thank you 11. Text/ consult MN whilst the teacher is talking (I shit you not) 12. suggest that the teacher's gender is the primary issue 13. try to elicit information about other students. 14. stare longingly at the clock/ at other teachers/ make thumbs up signs to other parents/ yawn 15. fondle your wife 16. shout at the teacher

I imagine there are more!!

17. say what can little Johnny do about his spelling at the eight consecutive parents evening.
18. to his maths teacher.

got a parents' evening next week. I love them

Oh yeah

19. start a fight with another set of parents because they 'pushed in'

Might write that one about not starting fights with the other parents on the back of my hand to make sure I don't forget.

Buck3t

Your two scenarios are not comparable in any way but I don't think any of us will be able to convince you otherwise but I can try.

teacher knew the kid hadn't tried hard enough and said child was being given a second chance. is not the same as Children are learning how many subjects and have various tests to study for, so assuming a child is not studying rather than needing help in a particular area of a particular subject

Which in turn, does not lead to: Am I really expected to trust what a teacher is saying about my DS

It is understandable if a teacher knows the majority of their pupils' faces out of classroom context but still makes a few mistakes. Not punished.

It is not understandable for a teacher to not bother marking, assessing or recording data for their pupils and therefore not be able to discuss a pupil's progress if asked. This should be flagged up

It is understandable if a pupil tries hard to study for a subject but finds things difficult, seeks help and yet still scores low. Not punished.

It is not understandable for a pupil to not bother trying in a subject, do no or little independent work and score low in a test. This should be flagged up.

I teach a none core subject and teach 11 ks3 groups which rotate over the year, so probably somewhere around 25 different ks3 classes. Just as I learn their names they rotate to a different project/teacher! I agree with others though I can be fine in the classroom, but out of context I do struggle. It does sound like your child is one of the quiet just gets on with her work types, so is easily overlooked.

Just noticed

15. fondle your wife

WTF

True story!

This one man always grabs his wife's boobs/ bum

my DH may or may not do this when we attend parent's evening

Add to the list; do not suggest your A' level son should perhaps become a male escort instead of pursuing an academic career. For extra effect do not do it very loudly especially so your divorced wife can hear as she has made separate appointments with DS's teachers.

Blissx okay. I think I understand what you are saying. Thank you.