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AIBU?

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Realjournal123 · 17/04/2017 23:59

What do you do when you have cabin fever? I've been at home solid for the past 6 days, only going out to shop for more food. I've got my stepson staying for 10 days( hardly talks and lies around on the sofa in his pyjamas most of the day) which I can't stand as u feel it sets a bad example to my two daughters.
DP seems to be pissed off with me because I've gone quiet, he and his son went out yesterday to see his friend and his family, which I wasn't invited to, but was later told that he wants to invite them here and I have to make plenty of food.
I'm just fed up of always being the bridesmaid and never the bride! I'm always expected to put food on the table, be happy and friendly but don't get invited when there's something going on.
As I say I've got cabin fever and really need a day to myself. There will be questions from my kids etc if I just say I want to go out alone, DP will think I'm being difficult and moody- even though I say goodmorning and good evening to his son and never get a reply- quite ignorant- BUT- where can I go? What can I do? Would I look odd just wandering around shops etc aimlessly?
Money is very tight so I can't go shopping even spending a tenner. It's crazy-
What do other women do?

OP posts:
Realjournal123 · 18/04/2017 19:25

Yes I'm financially dependant upon him.

OP posts:
HerBluebiro · 18/04/2017 19:26

Don't throw out all the food.

Anything in packets or wrapping (as raw meat should be) is fine. Fruit and veg can be washed. Personally I wouldn't worry about other things too much either as the cold will have stunned the flies. But I understand others worry more.

And eggs are fine for your daughters' tea tonight. Make an omelette or boiled eggs and soldiers.

Catherinebee85 · 18/04/2017 19:27

Why are you with him?

HerOtherHalf · 18/04/2017 19:38

Yes I'm financially dependant upon him.

It's not worth it and you don't need to be dependent on him. Honestly, you are miserable, he clearly doesn't love you or respect you. In fact it sounds like he doesn't even like you and enjoys putting you down. This is not good for you and it is not good for you. Nothing is going to change as long as you stay with him, surely you can see that. As frightening as it might be to make the break, and figure out how you'll fend for yourself, you need to do it before you lose the last shreds of your confidence and emotional resilience.

HerOtherHalf · 18/04/2017 19:39

....not good for you and not good for your daughters...

Aeroflotgirl · 18/04/2017 21:22

He's as nasty as hell, you need to make plans to leave.

Religionorno · 18/04/2017 21:34

His son is 28, what the cut all fuck! I too thought he must be a kid! Just tell him you're having a girls' day out. I'm beyond appalled! I don't see this relationship lasting.

JustMyLuckUnfortunately · 19/04/2017 09:01

OP the more you add to this thread the more you & your DDs need a better environment.

There are lots of amazing posters on MN who have been through similar & built great safe lives. Although you've told the girls this behaviour is not ok and normal they will view it as ok if they continue to see it.

Look into separating and what you are entitled to. Speak to friends/family and ask if they can help. But get out of there

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