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What do you do when you have cabin fever? I've been at home solid for the past 6 days, only going out to shop for more food. I've got my stepson staying for 10 days( hardly talks and lies around on the sofa in his pyjamas most of the day) which I can't stand as u feel it sets a bad example to my two daughters.
DP seems to be pissed off with me because I've gone quiet, he and his son went out yesterday to see his friend and his family, which I wasn't invited to, but was later told that he wants to invite them here and I have to make plenty of food.
I'm just fed up of always being the bridesmaid and never the bride! I'm always expected to put food on the table, be happy and friendly but don't get invited when there's something going on.
As I say I've got cabin fever and really need a day to myself. There will be questions from my kids etc if I just say I want to go out alone, DP will think I'm being difficult and moody- even though I say goodmorning and good evening to his son and never get a reply- quite ignorant- BUT- where can I go? What can I do? Would I look odd just wandering around shops etc aimlessly?
Money is very tight so I can't go shopping even spending a tenner. It's crazy-
What do other women do?

Diodati - exactly. No money for much but then he says just go and buy a load of steaks!! Why doesn't he just not invite them ffs. I'm very tired of the whole situation esp with the money.
He treats me like a maid but I'm just listening to him on the phone and he offered to help the guy do a food shop for his family!!! What is he going to do ? He lo them push the bloody trolley!! Crazy guy- he babies these losers then when it comes to me- I get non of that.

Stop being such a doormat

Thanks everyone- I am always made to feel difficult but I'm going to just take my girls out alone and I know he will say take him but its embarrassing traipsing around with a grown man whom i hardly know. Crazy situation I know!!

Yes, it is difficult to understand why you tolerate it

Ok. I got the girls ready to go out and told him I was meeting a friend. He said ' I thought you would take with you '. I said it's difficult as I'm meeting my friend. I left the house at 3, didn't meet a friend, I had to lie about that one, and just had a lovely day with the girls.
I got home at 5.50. He said we are going out for dinner to **s place(he and his son) and that the man had invited them. I know for sure the guy would have invited the whole family, as he told me that he wanted all of us to get together. DP obviously de- invited myself and our daughters.
So see what I mean, he's punishing me for having a day out and not inviting his son!!
How do you combat this situation?

You kick him into touch.
He is an immature selfish got.

Why are you putting up with coming second best all the time?
Start to make pland to leave contact women's aid or cab about your rights.

Stop letting him walk all over you. If you have the friends number I would call him and ask when he is inviting you over as promised and shame your oh😀

Why are you putting up with this, and more to the point, why are you showing your daughters that it's ok for a man to treat women like second class citizens?

Would you mind explaining why you stay in the marriage? Are you financially dependent on him or afraid of him?

You don't even attempt to "combat" it

You walk away and leave the two manchildren to their own petty little lives

Did anyone else shout out loud, "His son's TWENTY EIGHT!"?

Why are you with him?

What the hell is wrong with this 28yr old man that he even wants to tag along with you and your daughters?

Why are you letting your husband isolate you from people and make your life so small and miserable that you have to come online to ask if it's ok to walk to the shops on your own?

And yes. I shouted 'twenty-flippin-eight' in my head

Hard to believe, isn't it

How do you combat this situation?

You kick him out and enjoy life with your daughters.

Walk away. Seriously just walk. No way would I be putting up with that.

Sorry your being a doormat op, n you will not take his manchild 28 year old son with you, he is a grown adult, has he not got a life.start saying no!

Yeah me Blether

Fuck him off OP. He's a twat. Why are you scared of being alone?

My good news start making plans to leave him, he is treating you like crap.

What's the story with the 28-year-old? Has he not got a job? A partner? A life?

And OP, why are you putting up with all this?

Meant my goodness

Why don't you just say "Great. We'll come too" then?

Why have you been in the house for 6days?

Where are you to get the money to buy the food for the party?

If your dp has offered to cook, why not take him up on it?

How old are your dd?

Why is the 28 year old hanging around the house hoping you will take him out for the day instead of meeting up with friends? When my dsis visits my parents they barely see her as she is out catching up with old friends.

To answer your question: when I get cabin fever I go out. For a long walk over the fields with my dog instead of his usual sort constitutional. Or I go to the garden centre and plan my ideal garden. I try not to buy anything (but fail. But it's amazing what is on offer for 1 or 2 pounds sometimes). I don't window shop or clothes shop because I hate it. Or I go to the library pick a trashy novel. Start it then take it home. But I'm rarely in for more than a day or so. If I'm getting bored I take photos on my phone and try to make them artistic.

So many more questions from me to you I know.

Seriously what the heck are you teaching your daughters by staying in this relationship?!

When the drive away today I felt free. I explained to my daughters (13 and 11) that this is not how it should be. That I have the lie to get out of the house without his son. He is staying with us for another week. He works, is quite arrogant at times and never replies when you say good morning, or when you give him food. He be also explained that this is not normal behaviour and that he is very rude. They understand- they're bright as buttons.
To top it all off, when I got home and he told me that only they had been invited out, I went to the fridge to make the girls some food.
I noticed 3 huge flies sitting on one of the shelves( I'm scrupulously clean btw). I immediately shut the door and said I'll have to throw away the contents of the fridge so what am I going to feed the girls? He quickly grabbed the car keys and began to leave. (Even his son said we'd better help) but he just left. I said 'you are the worst type to be in a relationship with', you're disgusting to leave us like this with no food and he said give them the eggs!! I said I hope your food chokes you!

Good God. Why are you still there???