AIBU to think greedy people should be shot at dawn?

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And by that I mean people who take more than their fair share just because they can, not because they need it.

Went to an Easter egg hunt thing today. Community event so low cost (£1 a child) as some eggs had been donated. Each child given a small cardboard basket - big enough to fit in four or five eggs/items. Some children were scooping up enough everything they could see. Fair enough, small children so probably didn't know any better, although the rules had been explained beforehand - only what you can fit in your basket. However, several adults were encouraging their children to stuff their pockets full, and one woman actually shoved a load in her handbag!

There were complaints, but apparently she refused to put them back because she'd paid for them. Oh yes, that £2 you paid for your two kids really covered the price of the eggs you all took. And there weren't quite enough to go round because of those who took far more than their share.

Next year they are planing to use fake eggs which will have to be exchanged for chocolate, or do it as a treasure hunt type event, to stop the greed. Apparently they had issues at Christmas as well.

What on earth possesses people to be so greedy? It's even worse when they take way more than they can possibly eat (think 9 fairy cakes!) and are wasteful as well.

Well, I was going to come on and say you don't know the background of the kids so it might not be their fault, they might not be used to receiving things, but then you said their parents were there and encouraging it, and that is just wrong!

My two foster children do come across as greedy due to past issues in their lives. If there's something like an egg hunt they would try to get the most. They've been with me three years and I'm constantly working on sharing, leaving enough for others, only taking what you're going to eat etc. Slowly it's working and now if we're at buffets they will only take what they're going to eat, and won't take loads. But, if we're somewhere like someone's house and they're offered a biscuit off a plate they will still often automatically say 'can I have two?' Even if they don't really want another one as such - they just want 'more.'

We were at an egg hunt today and I'd warned them beforehand to listen to the rules and that it might be only finding one egg each. As it was all the kids were given free reign to find as many as they could and then they were put in a basket and shared out evenly. They both ended up with a good haul so were happy!

Sparklingbrook fair point. I've never yet been at a carvery that has run out of food so it seems to work out ok, even with my colossal lunch. The meat is always served and hence rationed, it's just the veg that's a free for all and I've never seen anyone go home disappointed.

This reminds me of an Easter egg hunt I went on as a child where you had to collect tokens to exchange at the end. Because I'm disabled I had a very weak grip and was accidentally dropping my tokens as I walked around. When I realised this I turned around to look for them to discover that another girl had been shadowing me to pick up all of my dropped tokens, and wouldn't give them back when I asked - she said that I'd dropped them so they were hers now. She wasn't disabled and could have found her own tokens, she'd made the conscious decision to pick up mine instead! I'm still a bit upset that a child could be so scheming as to deliberately pray on another's misfortune in what was supposed to a fun little game.

Coffee - that's absolutely awful. How could anyone do that to a disabled child? I bet she's now an entitled adult who probably taught her own dc to do the same thing. That's a really low thing to do - to steal from a disabled child.

Saw a shocking video of Halloween in the USA where the homeowner left a note asking people to only take one time from the bowl. A mother accompanying her children literally tipped the whole bowl into her bag. Un-fucking-believable.

At a buffet place near me, the waste and devastation left on tables once people leave is unbelievable. I take maybe three prawns, a tiny piece of beef etc, so I can taste everything, but leave loads for others. Don't see the point of leaving tons behind.

Coffee that's awful. She probably grew up to be handbag woman.

Cherry, that happened at my friend's house as well. Except the greedy bastards also took the bowl!

I have a friend with very greedy children, who she encourages to take what they want without thought for others.

I now serve the adults first when we have dinner, as we once ended up with no meat as her two children had taken an huge mound of it.

She also pushes them into queues. It's embarrassing.

I was at a wedding reception years ago and we were sitting very near the buffet so we were among the first up for food. I got near the end and there was a big space where a platter was missing. I didn't think much of it - assumed it had been taken away to be refilled.
Nope. It was on our table. One enormous platter of chicken wings.
We had all been to the buffet and had plates of our own food, so we weren't even sharing it as there was no need. I was mortified.

Red I went to an all you can eat seafood buffet in Singapore, and the greediest git there was my ex (English) FiL. Even the Chinese were agape at the leaning tower of Pisa of prawns and lobster on his plate

Greedy people should be covered in honey and strapped down on a nest of ravenous ants IMO

A friend of my DHs take the piss at carveries. He takes a thermos and tupperware, fills them up with food and coffee and shoves them in a rucksack and then proceeds to eat his dinner/breakfast

We have a local adventure park near me, they have a system where hundreds of tokens are hidden throughout the park, but you can only exchange one token per person (for a cream egg etc).
I once heard a family figuring the best way to use as many tokens as possible, which included visiting two separate hand out places and going in every hour in the hope the staff wouldn't notice or had changed. I mean seriously!! They had collected around 20 tokens. I stepped in when they asked another boy around 8 to go and collect it for them (an apparent stranger) because if had of been remembered then he wouldn't have got his own. The dad just glared at me.
My dd was around 2 at the time, he older step brother who was 16, had found around ten tokens, we explained to dd you only got 1 egg so everyone got something. Dd and dss exchanged their tokens and then waited for other kids without them, they then proceeded to share them with others. The little gits who had loads then rushed over, as the staff were just passing them all to dss to give to other kids. I said loudly, they'd already had some and we'd give them to others. Dad gave me another glare. I hate selfishness like that, I try and teach my dd that sharing is the nice thing to do.

We went to a national trust garden the other day and the children had a sheet with pictures of birds and their eggs. They had to go round and find the boards with the pictures of the bird with its eggs and then match them on their sheet. When they'd found them they took the sheet back and if they had them all they got a chocolate bunny. Maybe that would be a good idea for next year, OP? It means people don't get lots and the little ones get a chance too.
We did an egg hunt for ds1 (5) and ds2 (2.5) on easter morning. I was very proud of ds1 as he made sure his brother had lots of eggs and was happy.
Entitled behaviour and parents that go all in for their kids to get everything so others miss out really annoys me!!! Hope your dc got some eggs, OP!

YANBU its cringeworthy and nasty

Ugh I know what you mean.
We held an Easter party at work last week for the kids. Was free to bring them as we fundraise all year round to hold the parties.
There was pushing in the queue for the face paints, parents sending kids up for extra hot dogs & drinks. Parents of toddlers taking 5/6 cakes.
And don't get me started on the egg hunt... so many parents were pushing and shoving to get more eggs, there were some children with 14 eggs and others with 1 or 2. One little girl with a broken wrist dropped her basket and when she went to pick her own eggs back up another's child came and took them!
Makes me dead mad

Had to stop reading halfway down the page I was getting the rage on behalf of you all👹
Thankfully I don't remember ever seeing stuff like this I would have to say something! And if someone came to my house and took all the food for themselves like those kids I would be telling them sharpish not to be so bloody greedy and taking stuff off their plates. Ahhh people are vile or maybe I am getting too old to suffer one solitary fool these days.😀

It's so horrible! I've never been to a group egg hunt like that (just do a clued trail for my DCs). We were staying at mum's last week and she hid little bowls of eggs/sweets all over her flat, the DCs shared out every bowl evenly between their two bags regardless of which of them had found it.

I don't like greediness/waste at buffets either. Even at an all you can eat, constantly replenished kind of thing I'd rather only take a little at a time and go back if I'm still hungry. Apart from anything else it means the food stays hot. :o

DD is definitely the eyes-bigger-than-her-belly type, she would never push kids out of the way and that sort of thing but in a buffet she would happily pile her plate high and I'm always reminding her not to as she actually eats like a sparrow. She gets really overexcited at stuff like ice cream factory at Pizza Hut and would take way more than she could eat

Years ago we took our kids to a pizza place where you could order from the menu or pay a set amount for the "all you can eat" buffet. There were two tables of teenagers, when the door from the kitchen opened they all got up, went to the buffet and piled their plates with every slice. After they did it the third time we ordered from the menu.

When our eldest was little we took him to an Easter egg hunt. They only did one for all ages, the bigger kids went mad, grabbing everything they could find. Our son wasn't the only little kid to leave empty handed. It was ridiculous to see parents congratulate their kids on their haul when they clearly pushed little ones out of the way to get it. We never went to another organised egg hunt and just did them ourselves at home, more relaxing, the boys got their favourite sweets and we added the much loved money eggs that had 20p pieces in them.

I hate wasting food, and I'm also put off by a plate brimming with food, so on holidays I make multiple trips to the buffet for breakfast, first for eggs, then pancakes, then pastres, then fruit. The only problem is I look greedier than everyone else!

I've just remembered the time when we had flooding in our area and the water supply was cut off. People were going to supermarkets to grab every single bottle of water, shoving little children out of the way. We also had to have bowsers outside in the street and there were children using them to waste the water by having water fights.

A family friend told us that he and an elderly gentleman were waiting in a queue to use a bowser when a woman in a sports car pushed in front of them and used up all the water in the bowser and then laughed and said "Oh, I appear to have used it all up, it's a good job I work in Bristol, as I was able to get bottled water there". The two men were and . He and elderly man had a right go at her too.

Those floods certainly brought out the best and the worst of people.

I suppose this isn't really greedy(more on the ball!), but it got right on my tits. We go to a few equestrian sales/car boots etc to pick up a few bargains. The same couple are ALWAYS at every one in the area, ALWAYS first in line and the ALWAYS buy literally everything. I mean everything! They bring a small pallet trolley with them and pile it high without even a second glance at anything or anyone. Clearly they sell it all on eBay or something, but it's really shit for everyone else who attends. I literally threw myself on something the other day as she reached over my shoulder to get it first (as I was getting my money out!) and she had the balls to give me a really sour glare.
As I said, it's not really greedy as they pay and can buy what they like, but it's crap for everyone else who attends. They are well known in the area and always cause a lot of shared raised eyebrows and wry smiles! A group of us have decided to go to one sale at 5am and start lining up...although I bet they would be there already!

We stayed at an eat all you want place abroad on one holiday. Loads of people (usually rather large Americans actually_) turned up at 6pm on the dot when dinner opened and then came back at 9pm for a second dinner. How they managed to pack all that food away I don't know.

Obviously children who have been deprived in the past are an exception. People from war zones etc will often stock up on tons of canned food because they worry so much about starvation in future years and you can understand that psychologically, not that easter eggs are a great healthy food any of us needs lots of of course...

YANBU. I was brought up being encouraged to take more than my fair share, and even when I was very young it made me feel bad.

My mum cannot help herself but try to grab anything that's going. I went with her to a Christmas event in her nearest town. All the business owners had gone all out to put on a good evening and had donated various things to make it festive. She went in the baker's shop and took a couple of mince pies, one for now and one for later. Later in the evening she went back and took another couple, both for later . She's very comfortably off, and could have bought dozens of pies, but she didn't actually want them, she just couldn't pass up a freebie. To add insult to injury she has always maintained that it's a rubbish bakery to anyone who'll listen!

I've bollocked her a couple of times when she's tried to get my children to grab stuff they don't want or need, once at an egg hunt, coincidentally

Years ago (lots!) I saw a bloke build a salad-bar scaffold with bread sticks, extending the bowl by two or three times height

Amateur. If he'd done it with cucumber circles he would have been able to pile the bowl up with no danger of damaging his suede boots.

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Haha, we used cucumber circles too! Ah, the days when Pizza Hut salad buffet was £2.95 instead of free! We had to fill up that one bowl for the whole family!

For some reason utter greed often seems to centre around the bacon in any breakfast buffet. Yes, it'll be replenished at some point, but that doesn't mean you should take everything in the bowl. Every time they put bacon out the first 3-5 people take about 20 rashers each and then there's none for anyone else.