to be annoyed with DP taking the credit for out DCs birthdays?

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We have my DSD (10), my DD (8) and a 6 and a 2 year old together and I'm pregnant too. It's DSDs birthday next week but she'll be with her mum so we're celebrating this weekend. I've arranged to collect three of her friends in the morning and I'm taking them to a theme park for the day. I've booked a restaurant for dinner on the way home and arranged for her friends to sleepover afterwards. I've researched, ordered, shopped and paid for and wrapped her presents. I've arranged for a family dinner to celebrate on Sunday, then on Monday for a surprise we're going to collect the pet rats she has wanted forever.

Tonight DSD asked her dad what he'd got her for her birthday and whether she could have one present tonight. He laughed and said to ask me what she's getting. She then asked if he'd actually done anything for her birthday or left it all to me. He said that whatever I organise or buy is from him, too. She looked unimpressed with that response and I was too. I have spent hours organising her birthday and presents. We don't share finances and I've paid for everything, the same as I do with all the DCs birthdays.

I realised it annoys me that he takes the credit and likes being there for the photos and thanks but doesn't actually do anything. When I told him this tonight he said he'll be sure to point out to the DC that next time they're warm from the heating it's thanks to him paying the gas bill and nothing to do with me

AIBU to be pissed off with his lack of interest but claiming of credit? It's the same at Christmas, he's as surprised as the DC when they open their presents and doesn't pay for any.

You are being financially abused.

There's just no point in asking why someone is pregnant.

Maybe it was an accident. Maybe the op really wanted another baby.

The fact is, she's pregnant and now needs to consider her and her babies' future. He is being financially abusive leaving you with no money. What would happen if you had a frank discussion with him and wrote down a list of your in and outgoings? Or... just stopped buying everything that you buy at the moment?

Sorry for grammatical error in last paragraph...

You are being financially abused.

^ 100% this.
He is screwing you over financially and it sounds like he has no intention of marrying you at all. You will have nothing when this ends, and you will live miserably if you stay.

Please google financial abuse, you do need to tackle this asap.

I think I would start thinking hard about
Not being a sahm
Making it clear that he will need to pay for more things as you are on maternity leave

With my first child I actually saved up so I could put the same amoubt into our joint account and I forced myself back v v early. I was a fool. The second time I madenit v clear that my partner would need to put more in to make up the shortfall and I expected to take more leave. Start standing up for yourself.

By the way if you left him he would need to pay maintenance for all his kids. He would also have to start paying properly for his dsd.

He needs to make a will and he also needs to name you as the beneficiary on his pension.
Anything can happen at any time without warning.
My 27 year old son died suddenly and unexpectedly last year. He had not made a will but fortunately had no dependents. None of us know what the future holds so anyone with family responsibilities needs to make provision.