To feel hurt by this?

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DS just turned 1, and DH has been mardy for a few weeks, but had put it down to work stress. I finally managed to get a moment with him to ask him what was going on and after a lot of cryptic answers, he finally said that he was pissed off that I hadn't lost my baby weight yet, and that my 'lack of effort' had made him lose interest in our relationship.

During pregnancy I put on around 3 stone, which is a lot, but due to an emergency C section and PND I couldn't motivate myself to exercise other than walking (which I do a fair amount of). I've not put on any more weight, but I haven't lost any either and my lack of confidence in my appearance has made me put off exercise even more.

I get that it's hard for some new dads to adjust to the role, and he does work full time, but I literally do everything for my DS, and when I say everything it's no exaggeration. He's never even given DS a bath and that's not from my lack of encouragement, I'd be more than happy if he did! By he end of a day the last thing I want to do is go to the gym or do a fitness class. When I say this to him he takes it as an attack and we fall out more. I just can't win.

So my question is, AIBU to feel hurt that he wants to criticise me and my lack of motivation to lose weight, when he isn't prepared to lift a finger to enable me to do so?

I am wondering if this is a red flag....

I put on a lot of weight after my first DD, went from a size 10 to size 16! I also had PND and can fully understand the lack of motivation. When you are ready, you need to do it for yourself, no one else. I lost my weight 4 years after DD was born when I was ready. Nearly put it all back on with DD2 but never mind I know when I'm ready it will come off. Focusing on my dd2 is more important at the moment

A man who cannot/will not care for his children or do housework is a true Clit Shriveller.

My ex husband was similar to yours, I ended up losing the weight and divorced him to boot.

My lovely DH loves and fancies me and, guess what?
The fact that he comes home from work, does housework, laundry, cares for the kids (does everything bar breastfeeding!) and lets me know how much he loves, appreciates and fancies me makes him the most attractive chap on earth to me .