AIBU to ask how often everyone has nookie each week on average?

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I work, have two kids, one dog, housework, meals....AIBU to want pyjama evenings rather than constant pressure from my lovely boyfriend to go to bed at 8.30 leaving the kids downstairs? Once a week is enough for me....he says I should be happy that he fancies and wants me but blimey...not every night!!! Or am I not normal? 🙄

No. He says he trusts me (as he should) but doesn't trust other men as he knows how they operate. Bit sad really.....

I read about a study recently that found out that couples are happiest when they have sex once a week, and more than that can actually decrease happiness...

my DH and I are trying to schedule a once a week session! With child and dogs and work and etc it really does need scheduling! :)

Don't let anyone pressure you, OP. Tell him to fuck off once and a while. It will be good for him.

Three or four times a week for us, but that's what we're both happy with.

I haven't RTFT, but you should never let anyone pressure you into having more sex than you want.

he knows how they operate

I bet he does!

No. He says he trusts me (as he should) but doesn't trust other men as he knows how they operate.

That is just a bullshit excuse to try and justify him exerting control over you disguised as care for your welfare. Think it through. He is using the excuse of what other 3rd parties might think or do to gloss over the real implication that you are too weak, can't really be trusted or lack the competence to look after yourself. So you need him to protect you by mandating what you can wear and how you can conduct yourself. It's bollox and it's all about him protecting what he sees as his property.

You are an adult.You've raised children. You do not need, nor should you accept, your partner telling you how to dress and behave, how to be the person you are. The more you pander to him the more he will increase his control over you. If you want to try and change things, rather than writing him off as a lost cause, you need to be absolutely resolute, tell him in no uncertain terms you will not tolerate him dictating terms to you or he can do one. Honestly though, I'll bet money you cannot change him. If you do challenge him he will either move on to a more compliant victim or more likely he will calm down for a bit, lull you into a false sense of security and then start all over again.