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DP ate DD's sweets

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myusernameisnotmyusername · 10/04/2017 20:40

DD had some sweets given to her at nursery. We said she could have a few then put the rest away. DP has eaten almost all the rest. I think this is not very nice and he can't seem to see a problem. When I was a child we kept sweets and ate a few at a time and no one took them. AIBU to be pissed off with him?

OP posts:
Amockingjayhey · 10/04/2017 22:41

Yanbu

Next time he has one beer only in the fridge. You should drink it.
See how he likes it !

Itaintme · 10/04/2017 22:43

Outrage? No just different opinions

I hate that stupid crying face emoji. I could rant about that all night.

mummarichardson · 10/04/2017 22:46

Bit dramatic pyong. I am sure she won't need counselling because her Dad stole some sweets of her when she was 4.

SabineUndine · 10/04/2017 22:49

My aunt ate some chocolate I was given when I was small. It became a family joke. 'I'll eat these, Sabine won't like them.'

I never forgave her btw.

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/04/2017 22:50

Outrage? Being told that stealing off your own child is wrong, is outrage? You need to recalibrate your moral compass.

Mumma not because of that no, but it is indicative of how a parent views their child, selfish people are rarely just selfish about one thing.

But what do I know? Its just chocolate right? Hmm

mummarichardson · 10/04/2017 22:57

Pyong I really think you maybe making some assumptions here based on your own bad experiences which where clearly a catalyst of some disappointing parenting methods made towards you for which I am sorry you had to experience but in a totally different context my parents did this to me all the time and I have a totally different perspective which maybe because in all other areas they were pretty good. Op hasn't said that he is a selfish person overall.

Lunde · 10/04/2017 22:58

It's a bit of a shitty thing to do - OP is trying to teach her daughter self-restraint so that she eats one or two sweets now and then save the rest for another day(s). Yet OP's greedy DH decides to just help himself and scoff the lot.

So the lesson to the youngster is not to practice self-control because her greedy father (the adult) has no self-control - so best to just stuff your face with treats as soon as you get them if you want to have any.

Obviously this case has nothing to do with "sharing" as OP's DD did not get a chance to offer them around and greedy DH did not share with OP at all

Itaintme · 10/04/2017 23:00

The fact he thinks it's ok to take things from his DD because he can makes him selfish to me.

PyongyangKipperbang · 10/04/2017 23:02

The fact he thinks it's ok to take things from his DD because he can makes him selfish to me.

This.

So the lesson to the youngster is not to practice self-control because her greedy father (the adult) has no self-control - so best to just stuff your face with treats as soon as you get them if you want to have any.
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Obviously this case has nothing to do with "sharing" as OP's DD did not get a chance to offer them around and greedy DH did not share with OP at all*

And this.

EdenX · 10/04/2017 23:04

I always do this (kids are 3 and 6) - let them have a few then eat or chuck the rest. They never seem to notice and I don't want them eating lots of sweets.

slkk · 10/04/2017 23:11

Sweets not good for little kids. Ds normally gets a one or two if they aren't too gross or we swap for something else then the rest go in cupboard forever or get chucked out.

Itaintme · 10/04/2017 23:14

Sweets are not good for adults either but it doesn't seem to stop you lot from eating all your children's.

slkk · 10/04/2017 23:14

And I take sweets out of party bags before he gets them.

ChrisYoungFuckingRocks · 10/04/2017 23:15

Have him help her look for them!

Lynnm63 · 10/04/2017 23:17

I think it's out of order. Sharing is fine but her dad stole her chocolates. My dc are teens now and I would always ask if I wanted one if theirs the same as I'd expect them to ask if they wanted one of my birthday or Mother's Day chocs, even if they've been in the fridge/cupboard for weeks. We have other treats that are for everyone.

MysweetAudrina · 10/04/2017 23:26

We all rob chocolate and sweets from each other. Once dh went to get his bag of tortilla chips and they had disappeared and dd 7 said it's ok Dad they are in a better place now. My kids know all our stashes and we eat their stuff too. Food is food it's there for eating. No one can give out if it's there stuff that gets taken as you can be sure they have recently done similar. I did go nuts though when youngest ds managed to eat 12 ice pops one Sunday morning while we were having a lie in.

user1471545174 · 10/04/2017 23:49

I don't think the marshmallows matter OP because she was only 2, but now she's reaching an age where her experiences will start to register, I think it's very important that your DP shows respect for her property and boundaries and doesn't take her things away. If he is incapable of restraint, you'll have to hide her things where he can't find them. YANBU.

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