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AIBU?

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DP ate DD's sweets

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myusernameisnotmyusername · 10/04/2017 20:40

DD had some sweets given to her at nursery. We said she could have a few then put the rest away. DP has eaten almost all the rest. I think this is not very nice and he can't seem to see a problem. When I was a child we kept sweets and ate a few at a time and no one took them. AIBU to be pissed off with him?

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Itaintme · 10/04/2017 20:56

It's mean and teaches your kids it's ok to take what isn't theirs.

RitaMills · 10/04/2017 20:59

We share too, DS gets so much sweets, he'd be an unhealthy wee fatty if we didn't give him a hand to eat them. Luckily he isn't too bothered either, he knows to share and we share with him. I'd not get my knickers in a twist over this.

llhj · 10/04/2017 21:00

No big deal in this house. They get loads. Saving their teeth as far as I'm concerned.

Itaintme · 10/04/2017 21:01

It's not sharing if you take the sweets without your children knowing.

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myusernameisnotmyusername · 10/04/2017 21:02

She does share but she is only four. I suppose she won't rot her teeth now .

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Itaintme · 10/04/2017 21:02

As long as you are happy for your kids to take your sweets without telling you.

BrutusMcDogface · 10/04/2017 21:03

Much of the crap they get in party bags ends up in the bin. They don't need it, it's very unhealthy, they don't even notice. They get enough treats; we absolutely don't deprive them! Son came home yesterday from a party and immediately shared his little bag of haribo with his siblings and me

Passthecake30 · 10/04/2017 21:05

I eat my dcs sweets once they have forgotten about them. They get so many for Halloween/Xmas that they'd never get through them before Easter without help.

Itaintme · 10/04/2017 21:05

The OP isn't talking about her DD sharing her sweets. She's talking about her DP just taking them.

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myusernameisnotmyusername · 10/04/2017 21:05

She would too. This is different as this is me putting them in the back of the cupboard to have a few at a time and he's seen them and munched on them without a second thought.

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myusernameisnotmyusername · 10/04/2017 21:06

Thank you itaintme

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harderandharder2breathe · 10/04/2017 21:07

Deciding to limit your child's intake of sweets is not the same thing as eating them all when her back is turned. The former is a parenting decision. The latter is being a greeedy pig

AppleAndBlackberry · 10/04/2017 21:07

I eat my kids' leftover sweets. They get far too many than would be healthy for them to eat - parties, class birthdays, grandparents, weekly 'treat' from me, after school clubs, church etc. They don't tend to care/notice if something has been in the cupboard for a while. They know they're allowed a couple of things from a party bag and then the rest goes in the cupboard for another time but if they have loads of things in a short period then I will probably eat some of it. Probably a bit unfair of your DP though if your DD doesn't get sweets very often. Mine seem to get far more than I would ever want them to eat, even spaced out.

KingsCross88 · 10/04/2017 21:08

The child is expected to have a level of control that her father doesn't have? I think you need to buy some kind of locked box to keep her treats safe from him.

RitaMills · 10/04/2017 21:08

As long as you are happy for your kids to take your sweets without telling you.

I was a bit annoyed when he found my stash of Percy Pigs. I ate his Lindt bunny though so we're even now.

All sweets go into the sweetie tin, they are all fair game after that, none of us gorge ourselves with the lot and DS doesn't really give a toss if I don't wake him at 10pm to ask if I can munch his Crunchie. He knows I'd buy him one next time we were at the shops if he asked me.

kaitlinktm · 10/04/2017 21:09

I know what you mean. When my son was about 6 my parents took him somewhere where they had a raffle and he won a bottle of wine.

He was so excited and said we were going to drink it on Christmas day (this was in December) - but my (now) ex, even though he knew, drank it all that night after we had all gone to bed. DS was so disappointed when he got up - even though Ex said he would replace it (he did, several times, and drank it again).

Eventually both my DS realised that you couldn't leave wine or beer around near their Dad and I am sad to say that are a bit the same themselves these days. Beware of what they learn.

xStefx · 10/04/2017 21:09

Haha oh shit I do this, dd thinks they " go off" :-)
I do replace them though

ThePiglet59 · 10/04/2017 21:09

I don't blame you for still being upset about a packet of marshmallows from two years ago.
That's little better than domestic violence!

ludothedog · 10/04/2017 21:10

I must be a shit parent. I pinch DD's sweets all the time. She never seems to notice. Don't think it's a big deal really.

BoomBoomsCousin · 10/04/2017 21:10

If she's too young to remember about them I don't think it matters much really since she's better off without them. When she starts to remember then you need to adjust though. I can see why people think it's mean, but I don't think it's a good idea to store sweets up like that. I'd rather they ate them all in one go than spread them out over days.

I told mine if they'd got too much, they could have a few and we'd throw or share the rest. There would be more some other time.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 10/04/2017 21:14

Has no one ever nicked an Easter Egg, and replaced it ?
So what, if Daddy ate some sweeties, he can also replace them.
Chill OP ! 💐

AnnieAnoniMouse · 10/04/2017 21:14

What a twat. They are HER sweets and should be there when she wants them, they should be 'safe' in the cupboard. He's teaching her she doesn't matter and food can't be saved, but has to be eaten.

It's a bit different when they get loads and of Easter eggs & you nibble on a bit, or when it's a 'normal' chocolate bar you can easily replace than when it's a pretty little packet of sweets with different things in it that you can't replace it's just selfish and mean.

Itaintme · 10/04/2017 21:14

If anyone ate my stash of walnut whips there would be war. We don't share walnut whips in this house.

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myusernameisnotmyusername · 10/04/2017 21:17

Ha ha piglet. Ok point taken!
He reckons he gave her some then ate the others with her now! He's still a greedy guts though!

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PyongyangKipperbang · 10/04/2017 21:19

Tell him from me that I was the kid that couldnt leave anything for fear of it being taken by greedy fucking adults with no self control.

Tell him that I knew even though they pretended they hadnt and would replace them with not quite the same stuff. Tell him that I got very upset as a child that my own parents didnt care enough about me to leave my stuff alone.

Tell him that I still remember and I still think that they were selfish gluttonous pigs.

Tell him that his daughter will grow up thinking the same of him and that he needs to stop being a greedy lazy bastard and that if he wants sweets to get off his fat arse and go and buy himself some. That was something I was unable to say when I was a child so I am saying it on behalf of the child I was and the child your DD is now.

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