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AIBU to feel I am living with a man child?

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Supermagicsmile · 09/04/2017 12:41

Sometimes I feel like I'm living with a man child.
D.C. Are away for a couple of days with GPs. I have a few days off and wanted to have a break from work and do some things on the family laptop.
Dp (who uses it whenever he wants but hasn't recently) had said I am only allowed an hour at a time and then it's only fair that he has an hour (or two hours if I decide,he'll let me choose which I want to go for Hmm) last night he told me my "time on the laptop was up" and it was his turn and he then didn't even use it as he was watching a film!
AIBU to feel like he's being a spoilt brat? He's more than 40 fgs!!
Please advise me before I strangle leave him. (Not actually an option to leave him for a variety of reasons which are best not discussed on a public forum.)

OP posts:
VeryButchyRestingFace · 09/04/2017 12:43

What would happen if you told him to go fuck himself?

Or failing that, just said "no"?

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 09/04/2017 12:45

Yabu. . He doesn't sound like a man child..
He sounds like your df. .
And you are 12. .

Twiggy71 · 09/04/2017 12:47

Selfish git tell him to shove it where the sun doesn't shine

honeylulu · 09/04/2017 12:51

He "allows" you? Why in the name of fuck dies he think he can give you orders? And why do you let him?
Seriously fucked up situation. Is he controlling in general?
If it's just the laptop, why?

RJnomore1 · 09/04/2017 12:53

I'd be getting a laptop if my own. I'm an adult I don't need my screen time monitored.

ElspethFlashman · 09/04/2017 12:57

No he's not a man child.

However he is, apparently, your Dad.

MsJamieFraser · 09/04/2017 12:59

why did you allow it Hmm

ImperialBlether · 09/04/2017 13:03

So he doesn't want to use it but says you can't because your time is up?

Why are you putting up with this?

sailorcherries · 09/04/2017 13:22

Second every poster who said he isn't a man child but your dad.

Why would you put up with this? Why would you not get your own laptop?

innagazing · 09/04/2017 14:12

I'm fascinated to know what possible reasons you may have for never being able to leave him!

I'm not asking you to tell us, as you plainly said that it's not appropriate to discuss on here. However, i jut can't think of any reasons why you couldn't leave him if you wanted to.

ps. buy your own laptop.

Kewcumber · 09/04/2017 14:14

I wouldn;t need to leave him. I would have cracked him across the back of the head with said computer and would at this very moment be digging up the patio...

Smoothyloopy · 09/04/2017 14:20

The two words that would've be used in this house are 'fuck off'

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 09/04/2017 14:22

He's a dickhead.

Monitoring your allocated time on the laptop and then he carried on watching a film and didn't use it?

What an arsehole.

SuckItUpSnowflake · 09/04/2017 14:23

How is this a man child rather than an authoritarian dad that you're playing child to? Are you scared of his reaction if you don't do what he says?

YouTheCat · 09/04/2017 14:27

The last word would be 'off'.

If it's a family laptop then it's yours to use as you wish so long as you're being reasonable if he needs it for something.

He sounds about 5.

DonaldStott · 09/04/2017 14:27

What the fuck? Tell him to piss off. He sounds like an utter knob.

ZilphasHatpin · 09/04/2017 14:29

Sorry, what? Confused

How in earth did you get into a situation where another adult thinks you would be receptive to such idiotic demands?

StarryIllusion · 09/04/2017 14:29

Please tell me you have no intention of marrying this man? He could fuck off if he thought he could tell me how long I could use something.

Armadillostoes · 09/04/2017 14:30

OP I think that this actually sounds quite scary and that the 'Are you 12' comments are deeply irresponsible. This sounds really controlling behaviour and you feel that getting out isn't an option. You really shouldn't tolerate this for the sake of your mental health and self-esteem.

WhereYouLeftIt · 09/04/2017 14:34

"last night he told me my "time on the laptop was up" and it was his turn and he then didn't even use it as he was watching a film! "
No, you are not living with a manchild. A manchild needs you to tell him what to do, what to eat etc. He is not behaving like a child - he is behaving as if YOU are a child. Telling you what to do, what you can have.

Think about your day-to-day life with him. I'll bet you can come up with more examples of controlling overbearing behaviour. He is treating you like a child, a subordinate - like staff. \

And yes, like others I would have told him 'no'. Followed up with a 'why do you think you are the boss of me' if he persisted. And rounded up with a 'fuck off' if he was too thick to understand that.

GoodDayToYou · 09/04/2017 14:42

So, you share a laptop. You were using it for a while then he wanted to use it, but he got sidetracked by a film and didn't use it after all. What am I missing?

Unless he's usually very controlling, I would have handled this with humour. Or rock, paper, scissors.

blackteasplease · 09/04/2017 14:44

Agree that he is not man child but controlling and horrible.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 09/04/2017 14:48

He wouldn't remain my Husband, however, I respect your privacy.

DameDeDoubtance · 09/04/2017 14:48

So he took the laptop off you but then didn't use it, but he set the rules?

Is this the only time he has behaved like a controlling dickhead?

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 09/04/2017 14:48

Just get your own laptop your DH is a knob.