Hello everyone. Now that I've sat down to write this i feel more and more like a greedy diva. So, im almost 5months pregnant and thinking of making a good dent to the shopping list. This pregnancy was totally unplanned and honestly a shock to us and our family as we have been 'rocky' this last year. Anyway we have been together 7yrs so we can work this out. My family were surprised but very supportive and have all piped up with what they would like to gift, my mum has offered to buy our travel system, My sister the cot and aunt moses basket for which im so very grateful though its kinda tradition in the family that we help out with 'bigger items' iknow on top of these, people will pick up little things here and there as we are all close. MIL and the whole family have yet to even break breath to me about the pregnancy. My partner says all are happy yet none have even sent as much as a text. (We havent been meeting since the rocky patch started) so i can rule out that they will help with a bigger item! Its not so much the item whatever it is, i think im annoyed that they haven't even acknowledged me or the baby. It does bother me deep down that my family are spending X amount to help us BOTH yet his own mother who by the way is not short of a spare 3holidays a year cant produce a pack of vests. Iknow its up to me to provide all items as its my responsibility after all but i dont for one min believe she hasnt splashed on her other grandkids. Im at the stage now where i want to get organised and budget accordingly so should i go ahead and agree that the partners family wont be assisting?? Is it even worth mentioning to partner or is it something thats completely unreasonable to expect? I never ever dreamed of asking for expensive things, i more so had in my mind that they would just offer 
Id be over the moon at a few towels or grow bags. I guess the old granny gifts are a thing of the past X