The wording of this really pissed me off. Police letter regarding flasher

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It just seems to make it into a bit of a joke and really annoyed me. He could go on to rape, who knows? Aibu

I agree op. Just state the facts. ( and spell check!!)

The tone isn't excessively serious, but I don't read it as saying "this isn't an issue". Reads like they expect the man concerned to seek out their statement, and they want to put him in his place.

I witnessed a park wanker once, I did find it very funny.

I've hardly happen more than once, on one occasion specifically directed at me and my friends in an isolated place in a strange country. I wasn't laughing at the time, I was scared about what he would do. Now, years later, I still don't find it funny. It makes me bloody angry that there are men out there who think that their sexual desires are more important than other people's rights to feel safe and to be seen as people rather than sex objects.

So, no, I don't find it funny and I don't think the police should be treating it as humorous.

I agree, it's awful. I reported a serial flasher recently and the police took is very seriously. Said its a distressing crime and they wished more people reported it. Things like this aren't going to help that.

What did you want them to put?

How about the fact that it's a serious incident (as opposed to the little bit of afternoon giddiness they have implied it was) that could end with a sexual offences conviction and your name on the sec offenders register.

The phrase 'enjoying himself' is especially alarming

I'm more offended by the spelling and grammar than by the content

One of my first thoughts! Can you suggest to the police that they send the person who wrote that off for a few lessons?

There's a lot of difference between deliberately flashing at someone (horrible intimidating crime where offender gets off on upsetting someone) and exhibitionism (wanking in public place where offender gets off on potential of being caught).

The police have sent out the correct message
Main message here is that the police are not very bright!

This is a bloke having a wank in a public place, he wanted someone to find him 'in the act' and its a park, parks are full of children, what if a child had found him doing this?
That statement is a bit 1950's 'oh what is he like? Men hey? haha!'
YANBA.

Anyone who takes an el fresco wank in a public park is probably not quite right in the head and this is displayed sexually. So I agree with you, they should have written a warning and made it clear they were taking it seriously. Not made it into a joke.

Even if it's a "one of incident"

A potential threat to women made light of once again. What a time to be alive!

Yanbu. This is a good example of why you don't let any old random run your social media.

The tone is completely inappropriate and the spelling and grammar is embarrassing.

There's also a strong whiff of trying too hard. The writer's probably congratulating themselves on their marvellous wit. Or maybe that should be "conbobulating themself on there marvellous wit"

Apart from the making light of someone wanking in public its tone is fecking irritating.

You know why its written like this? Because the author is hoping it will go viral. SO many of these 'hilarious' posts on social media. Most of them totally lame.
YANBU.

YANBU!

It's ridiculous and makes light of something that's not funny at all.

Complain. I would.

Not really QuentinSummers, often where one starts the other usually follows.

Yy I agree the writer's hoping it will go viral rather than doing the professional job s/he is paid to do.

The person who wrote it is massive bellend and I hope is getting the hairdryer treatment from someone in the Met with a couple of brain cells.

Appalling grammar aside, the tone is too light.

You are not being unreasonable. I agree, it's as if they have made light of the situation. Not professional at all in my opinion.

I suppose raping someone is just getting your rocks off (or 'getting your rocks of' if that gobshite was to write about it).

Bless him. Look at him there enjoying himself.

I remember seeing a bloke wanking on a bus as a teen and found it really distressing, I don't think it's something to make light of at all.

Fortunately when I reported it the police took it really seriously rather than finding it really thigh-slappingly hilarious.

YANBU!! Apart from the 'what a scamp' tone (thanks PP! spot on) how on earth is someone with English as an additional language suppose to know what the hell all the silly euphemisms mean?

I've seen and been followed by various flashers and wankers (particularly in Japan; it seemed a popular pastime in my scuzzy neighbourhood). I'd always describe the incident afterwards like a humorous anecdote: the joke's on them, what kind of weirdo would, etc etc.

It's not funny at the time. I'm on my own. For a guy to get his dick out and start wanking in public is proof that he's passed through some limit of public decency, and that he doesn't care about breaking laws, and that his sexual deviancy and need for exhibitionism/gratification has surmounted everything. The incident becomes a stupid jokey anecdote afterwards, because he didn't assault or rape me. At the time, though, I have no idea whether this is going to be the pervert who does attack me, and I feel threatened and humiliated.

I'm allowed to make light of it afterwards - if nothing else, it's good to feel like you've regained control of the situation. But other people, especially police, shouldn't treat it as a joke. I don't think that notification is terrible, but it gets very close to trivializing things: 'ardour'? 'enjoying his morning exercise'? A simple, factual notification would've been much more appropriate.

Enjoying yourself in the park is feeding the ducks and maybe having a go on the swings.

Not committing sexual or public order offences.

The trouble we have here is that there are two wankers. One in the park and one running that FB page. I'd like to see both treated with appropriate seriousness by the police.