DS doesn't want to lend clothes to friend

[Welshgirl2008]

DS's friend has asked to borrow a too he has got for a party- it's a personalised hoodie that DS had for Xmas off his grandad so pretty new.
I asked DS and he doesn't want to lend it. We teach our kids to share so I feel in a difficult situation as DS really feelS strongly.
Aibu to let him not share on this occasion? I feel in a tricky position

I would tell your DS to back to his friend and tell him that you won't let him lend the top. That will take the pressure off your DS as he doesn't have to say 'no' on his own behalf, plus the friend will stop hassling him as you're the one refusing not your DS.

Sharing is for bags of sweets not things that are emotionally precious.

Schools off here

I don't teach my children to share but I teach them to be kind and generous. Slightly different. They might not want to share and I think "sharing" is a far too blanket term.

And the friend wants to borrow it to wear it to a party so all sorts of potential for damage. The answer is no.

So he is wanting to lend the jumper? The problem with that is he might not give it back. I'm a very giving and generous person but I really hate lending stuff because nine times out of ten you never get it back. The times I have, I've had to chase them for it.