To be pissed with DH for spending £100 on food that might last is 4days?

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I gave him a list. He spent £100 on a dont know what! Packed lunches and dinners for 4people. Hes got 1 cucumber, 1 lettuce, 5 tomatoes, 4 carrots. 1 thin crust (bloody expensive) chicken pizza (my kids dont eat chicken pizza and my eldest and dh will eat a whole pizza each). 6 cereal bars, 4 yogurts. Etc etc. Im ill so he did the food shop. Im now going to have to go again as I'm working all next week and weve got enough till probably Wednesday at a push. You can tell he never cooks the bloody tea. Hes cross with me. Says why did he bother. Im not very amused

I can see how that would mount up. People often do that when they're playing at shopping. I spent a fortune on 2lb of fresh cherries because my husband-to-be said he liked Bakewell tart and I was playing at being Nigella Lawson.

These days I'd get a tin or more likely get one from Greggs.

He really should have a lesson in how to shop.

but how can an adult just choose to spend lots on ice cream, magazines etc unless he wants to? Isn't that what OP is pissed off about?

I suppose if he thinks it's nice to have one off treats and can afford them, different again, but I don't think OP would be pissed off if that's what happened?

I feel your pain. It's ridiculous I know, but if dh goes to the shop I don't just write a list with bread, milk etc. I have to write large warburtons seeded batch loaf, 2 pint green top milk otherwise we'd end up with plastic white bread and 18 gallons of skimmed milk. Not to mention the mountains of ice cream and biscuits he will bring back regardless.

I do most of the food shopping as I work part time and he's full time, but surely by now he must have noticed what we eat!

Don't entertain the idea that you'll be going out to make up for it. He can go midweek and pick up the things he missed first time. If incompetent shopping = not having to go again, what's his incentive to get better at it?

I think the only reason DH ever comes back with what I've asked is because I work with 3/4/5 year olds and my natural communication style is repetitive, clear and repetitive.

Funny how he blew the budget.

DH prob wouldn't know how to do a whole shop either but he would worry about cost. So he would come back with beer that wasn't on the list but the cheapest ham, the cheapest pizza, cheapest loo roll - probably so cheap we threw it away for being rubbish.

Who worries about finances in your relationship and who pays for the shopping?

Just let him try cooking for the family with whatever is there, as you are ill. If you run out - he can go shopping again. Let him get on with it because he will never learn otherwise - and concentrate on getting well.

Are you on a really tight budget? If not, maybe he's sick of cheap toilet roll and nasty ice cream and wanted nicer stuff for a change. If this is money you haven't got though, he is BU.

agree with buttery

also part of the issue might be that he thinks he's doing you a favour, which of course he isn't. I have elderly parent problems, one of their neighbours recently did a shop for them. I did the list and she said to me "Oh you haven't written what brand of cheese" or whatever. But because she was doing us a favour, I just said don't worry, I didn't want her going round their huge supermarket worrying about anything more than basic.

so it is different when doing someone a favour, but he should know how to do the basic household shop.

I feel your pain, as my DH would be a hopeless shopper. He will get everything on a list, and a million other things besides, mostly in the wrong sizes to feed a family of 5 like we have.

I had bronchitis for all of January and it made getting to the supermarket difficult. I took to online shopping instead. Easier on the nerves all around.

Ooooooo bad move, I never let my husband do the food shop. He's too little to go out on his own.

Sorry man.

I first realised I'd turned into my mum about 20 years ago when I was standing next to a bloke at my local market veg stall. They sell items from the humble carrot to fresh morels which are beyond the price of rubies.

He had a list from a cook book and asked for 20 shallots. The woman gleefully shovelled 20 banana shallots onto her scales until I butted in with: 'I really don't think you want that many. What are you making and for how many people?' He told me and I said he'd need four at the most.

The woman said he'd asked for 20 (about £5 in price) and I said that he'd misunderstood. While we eyeballed each other, he shuffled off leaving all his other purchases. I probably ruined his dinner party but I am an interfering old bag and proud of it

Surely if you never do the shopping, it's quite hard to get it right? He just needs to do more shopping and cooking.

oh bless?

He's not a fucking child. I'd be cross too OP. Presumably he knows the value of money elsewhere in his life? And how many meals are needed from the food etc?

OP,YABU.

I know you are feeling ill, but you are martyring yourself and treating your DH like a child.

Discuss why you feel disappointed in what he has bought and Just get him to do an online shop for the rest.

Life is too short.

He can cook dinner for the week.

My hubby would buy the absolute cheapest stuff, which sounds great, till you try to cut the flippin soft tomatoes for a salad, or end up throwing away half the unusable veggies. Had a hand op, it's still not right, asked him loads of time to get me pretty chopped or peeled veggies, ha! No chance.

I don't get the angst over buying a few treats for the children and going off list a little. You don't mention not being able to pay the rent or heating bill due to his shopping total. Maybe he was fed up of just basics and wanted something different.

Yanbu. If your household contains several people, a grown adult should know that four bog rolls won't cut it.

When my DH does the shopping, if I enquire how much a certain item cost, he'll say, 'oh, I don't know. I don't look at the price'.
I then remind him it's a good job that I DO look at prices, or we'd be up to our eyeballs in debt.

If he never does the shopping or cooking then he's just bought what he fancied. If he needs a list then shop online, that way you can check the order if you feel the need to. Are you genuinely angry about this, it's not worth getting upset about, although it looks like you will be living on ice cream and dust until the online order comes?

YANBU especially if you gave him a list.

However, if he has no experience of doing the weekly shop then it's not an unexpected result.

" my natural communication style is repetitive, clear and repetitive."
:o

My husband used to do this.
Every time he did I'd send him back to buy what we needed. Even at 9pm.
Now he's much better.