AIBU not to answer the 'how many others' question?

[Namechange2417]

Name change for this thread as it's a bit personal

So basically I've just started seeing someone new and as part of the getting to know each other conversation he asked how many other people I've slept with.

I don't really know what a normal number is but I know my number is pretty high compared to my closest friends so I wasn't comfortable telling him

So I told him I wasn't going to answer that and he pushed a bit then left it so I thought that was the end of it. Then last night he asked again. I said I thought we had already had that conversation and he said so it's that many is it?

I don't know if I should of told him or not what do people think?

Have people been in a similar situation and what did you do?

What is a normal number or a high number?

Should I be worried he even asked or is that quite normal?

Thanks :-)

[Danianne78]

Best answer!!!

[weddingopinionsplease]

Errr I just spotted this thread in the Daily Mail

[Danianne78]

SAME!!! Daily Mail is always scooping this site, Reddit and Whisper for their "News"..Check out the comment section on this thread, its pretty funny!!

[LouKout]

Or dont check it out because its vile gutter press

[ThePiglet59]

Why do people ask this question?

A. It is none of their business.
B. It never produces the answer they want to hear, as they tend to be pathetic insecure types.

[snicksnacksnock]

Asking questions about someones sexual history is not a crime nor is it immature. There will be some questions you will feel comfortable answering and some you don't. The "number" question is the one most women/men are asked that makes them feel uncomfortable, because ultimately they feel they will be judged.

if it bothers you that someone takes this "number" seriously then don't be with them. Conversely if someones number "bothers" you then don't be with them.

What is immature is bullying someone because they told you something about their sexual history you didn't want to hear, or lying to someone about your sexual history because you don't want to tell them

[SingingSilver]

Does MN get paid every time the DM lifts a thread? I hope not.

It's one thing to discuss an issue on what's primarily a parenting forum, it's another for your comments to be thrown to the misogynistic twats over on that site...

[SingingSilver]

if it bothers you that someone takes this "number" seriously then don't be with them. Conversely if someones number "bothers" you then don't be with them.

I think the whole thing of having a 'number' is very school playground. If people want to discuss sexual pasts saying something like "I've had a few/several/many partners" should be sufficient - because it should not be down to the asker to decide if the person's sexual history is acceptable. Respect should not be based on how many sets of genitals someone has encountered.