To not let my mum come over with a cold sore?

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She is slightly offended but dd 15 months and ds (7) have never had one.
She says it's tiny and healed - I'm still not convinced.

Would you let someone in with a coldsore? Aibu?

I get them frequently - often twice in a month. When i wake with one I immediately run out of my house screaming and set my face on fire lest my 3 small children catch it with their eyes.

MrsKoala

I got them regularly for years. I tried everything over the counter and nothing made any difference.
When the weather changed. (I read sunlight can bring them out)
When I was tired and/or ill.
When I was stressed.

I was a manager in private daycare with babies and toddlers and employers would not be impressed if I asked for time off for a coldsore, some can take weeks to dissapear totally. Ive also had my own baby and couldn't just not look after her when I had an outbreak. Been with dh 17 years and never passed one to him, DDs never had one and none of the DC I've looked after have while in my care. I'd let my own Mum in my house with a cold sore because I know she'd be careful and not want to pass it on to dd. Someone I didn't know too well? I'd be in edge in case they forgot and kissed her.

I had my worse outbreak when my Dad passed, it was very sudden and the lack of sleep, eating and extra stress at an already stressful time time gave me multiple cold sores, its tye only time the GP agreed to give me prescription medication and they cleared up totally before the funeral thank fuck. GP said I can only ever this medication once, not sure why, it's not addictive and I've read online of people in uk taking it daily to prevent outbreaks, I'm assuming it varies from county to county.

I've only had one in the last five years and it even break out properly, dh says it's because my Dad was my biggest source of anxiety and stress and therefor lack of sleep. Don't get me wrong , I loved my Dad but he wasn't a nice man at all, very controlling and cruel at times.

That seems reasonable mrskoala.

Now I just need my mum to take the same preventative action

www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/children-parenting-190/toddlers-pre-schoolers-12-months-4-years-59/713326-toddler-cold-sores-all.html

See? I do not think I being precious snowflake over my dc!

Dh gets them and I have never had one and neither have my 2 children

OMG why are we being asked to read a thread on Netmums?

Ha ha. Sorry. It wasn't the Mail at least?

Is netmums link allowed?? I get a cold sore every year, I have 4 dcs and none of them have ever had one or caught it from me.

I don't see why it wouldn't be? It was relevant. Sorry if it isn't!

My dad used to get cold sores all the time and me and my DB never got them despite living in the same house. I think you are being massively unreasonable to ban your DM for this!

It really fine honestly, I had one the week my son was born. Mum had one 5 weeks later. Just don't let her kiss them. I am a bit "precious snowflake" about my DS and even I didn't ban Mum for a cold sore

I braved a look at a 5 year old thread on Nethuns.

Are you serious? Just tell your DM not to kiss the kids.

Cold sores are only caught by direct skin contact with the affected area, not through sharing cups, cutlery, towels, etc. Experts are clear about this, though you may see the opposite being stated on the internet or in leaflets from others.

herpes.org.uk/cold-sores/#transmit

Yabu. It's not avian flu. Get a grip 😂

I have had attacks of cold sores for 35 years,I get about one a year,usually when I've been a bit run down or been out in the sun without sunscreen on my face. I can confidently say that nobody close to me has caught them. That includes my DD,DGD,exH and current partner. I AM very conscientious about not kissing anyone while I have one and make sure never to share cups or bottles of drink with anyone,and avoid touching my face Iif I can't wash my hands thoroughly afterwards. It's up to you OP,it depends how careful your mum is. But as a previous poster said,once your DC start school,it will largely be out of your control.

She came over but I'm regretting it now as she also has a bad cold which dd has caught so I guess the cold sore is probably likely too?
My mum had one of those patch things on it and didn't kiss the children but they are so contagious. I felt like I was overreacting saying not to come but now I regret it and when my daughter's face is covered in cold sores I will regret it further. My son is nearly 8 so if got them would probably manage better.

YABU

Seems unlikely your daughter caught a cold so quickly, but even if she did, they are spread in totally different ways. To get a cold you need a nice bit of airborne sneeze or cough to land on you. To get a cold sore someone has to rub it on your face. YA still BU

YY because colds are exactly the same as coldsores.

TBH if I were you I would go and see your GP about health anxiety.

What?? I'm sorry but you sound very dramatic.

I suffer from cold sores. I have two children who don't. Your DM sounded as though she took precautions.

As for the cold.

Do you not go out in public with your children? They will pick up viruses from anywhere. I can understand if your mum trotted over with D &V but she had a snivel and she knew better than to touch your kids from your warnings.

I think you really need to chill.

No I do understand that a cold is not the same as a cold sore and the two are completely different viruses.
It's just dd is now already low from the cold. I think the herpes simplex virus is more likely when your immune system is already low.

Honestly- go and see your GP. You really do sound as if you have health anxiety in a big way.

I am sure your DD will survive both the cold and a potential cold sore.

Is this for real?