Applying make up in public?

[Maryhadalittlelambstew]

Not really an AIBU but posting for traffic...

I was in a naice department store cafe in Oxford today (not debenhams, think more the one where you buy your knickers or have an emergency poo) and was just grabbing a quick coffee before an appointment I needed to be alert for and given that I had been deprived of sleep the night before due to kids who seemed to be tag teaming to ensure I got as little sleep as possible I decided to whip out my little make up bag and apply some much needed concealer and mascara in an effort to look less like a zombie. I was obliviously faffing away in a corner seat and there was a couple of women (I'm 29, I'd guess they were late 50's early 60's) who were looking over rather distastefully and tutting loudly. I smiled and one of the women asked me if my mother had never told me it was rude to apply make up in public and the other lady chimed in with "its common". Well my mother clearly dragged me up as she has utterly failed to inform me that its uncouth and "common" to apply my make up in public. I could understand it if I'd brushed my hair or sprayed perfume but I thought sitting quietly in a corner with a wee compact was fairly unoffensive but apparently not...I just wondered if its true that it is deemed impolite? Should I have snuck off to the loo's or is it ok to powder ones nose in a naice cafe?

^ supposed to finish with an exclaimation point there not an apostrophe, sorry!

What snobby old hags

Why is casual ageism acceptable on MN?

FFS, replace 'old hags' with any other demographic and there'd be outrage. I don't dispute that there are generational differences but still it's not acceptable to use such language to denigrate an entire age-group based on this alone.

It's common, but not in the least bit offensive.

Unlike staring at people in public, criticising them and accusing them of being common, when they're not harming anyone else. Now that really is rude.

I'm quite intolerant about eating whilst walking down the street and so on but I've never had a problem with someone doing their makeup in public. Flossing your teeth maybe I personally think it's more common to make loud comments about somebody in public.

I am in my fifties and I love watching people put their make up on in public. I find it quite fascinating. I am surprised nobody has ever called me a nosy old hag for watching them

They were horrid.

Forget all about it.

Aw thats a really nice post happypoobum!

I don't think their rudeness in commenting is age related, just bad manners! As I said previously I was so surprised that it hadn't occurred to me they were being rude and genuinely wondered if pubic make up appliance was offensive but now you say it negative pubic comments are far ruder.

PUBLIC.

Pubic make up and comments are not to be applied or given in public. Probably.

I do think pubic make up appliance is offensive, though.

YABU for thinking that emergency poos anywhere but home are acceptable. Poos are only ever for home.

YABU for saying that people shouldn't use toilets as they are intended, and you have serious issues.

Also, look up the word "emergency" in the dictionary.

YANBU, OP.

I think its fine, doesn't bother me.

Early 50s old hag.

YABU for thinking that emergency poos anywhere but home are acceptable. Poos are only ever for home.

What? Who has the ability to control these things? I mean jesus christ I'd be doubled over in pain and dropping fart bombs all over the place.
Life is too short not to poo.

I quite enjoy watching someone putting on their makeup too

I'm not sure why it's considered common these days especially with so many people pushed for time and so many people having long commutes for work. It makes sense to us the time doing something useful.

Yeah pubic make up appliance is probably quite common

I think the poo post was meant to be tongue in cheek? I'm not a great fan of pooing in public loos but hey ho, when nature calls I'd rather make a photo finish dash to the loo than quietly shit in my knickers and waddle home desperately clenching my butt cheeks and having to bin my droopy draws.

Yes. Pubic make up application is definitely rude and it being common would be the least of my worries...

Touch ups id never bat an eye lid. I would find it odd if someone was doing a full face with products/large markeup bags and would find it bizare. I wouldnt say its common, just odd.

I think they were very rude to you though

YADNBU. Those silly women would surely have to stop their tutting if they knew that HM herself applies lipstick in public! See: here
You're in good company OP!

Point of thread moving onto poo...emergency and non.

Do my makeup (foundation aside) on the train to work every morning because I'm a single parent of a young child and suffer from chronic insomnia so mornings are pretty chaotic. It saves me some time and I don't give a fuck if people think I'm common

Ah @MotherofPearl I always knew I was of royal blood ;)

It's the difference between etiquette and politeness.
Etiquette: don't put make up on in public. It ruins the magic.
Politeness: don't do things to upset people. Ie don't stare, tut or criticise a stranger in a personal way.

IMHO etiquette can be used to be exceptionally rude!

I think the poo post was meant to be tongue in cheek?

Ewww.

Haha @graciestocksfield ...I didn't spot that pun!

I'd have smiled sweetly and say, 'no, she died.'

Nasty bitches.

"the correct term you're looking for is 'UN-common'...semantically speaking...."
would have been my sarcastic reply

I never do my make up at home... It's too chaotic in the mornings plus no room has really good natural light.

Hence me applying it every morning in the car when I have parked at work (usually making me approx 3 mins late Every Single Morning). I don't carry my make up around with me these days, but pre-marriage when I was oot and aboot on the toon a bit more I had no qualms with putting my slap on in public!