Aibu or is teacher?

[herdiegirl]

Ds2 is in year 4. His teacher set a reading challenge and all kids that achieved 30 or more could do den building tomorrow afternoon. The rest will stay in the classroom and do work.
My ds is a good reader and doesn't need much encouragement to read, it was even mentioned by his teacher at a recent parents evening that he's a good reader. Life gets busy and I have ds1 with asd so I sometimes forget to put the entry in his reading record. Earlier this week he had 29 entries in his book, I completed the reading record to show he had done the required 30 entries, but the teacher said he didn't had the book in, in time, so wouldn't get to do the activity tomorrow.

Ds2 came out of school looking close tears and told me what happened.

Tried to quickly talk to his teacher after school, but she couldn't get away fast enough stating she had a meeting to go to, but seemed like she had made her mind up, saying his book wasn't handed in, in time, and that there needed to be a cut off!
Just feel annoyed that he's missing out over something so trivial.

Mysterycat23:

I do get very bored of this argument that children not being rewarded = children being punished

I have some sympathy with children from disengaged families who will never get the reward because their parents won't read with them no matter what. That seems harsh.

I have very little sympathy with the OP, because she knew the terms of the deal at the outset and didn't object on any principled grounds then. Only now, when her DS is going to miss out, is this strategy suddenly a problem. Well, next time she will remember to sign the book.

@zzzz I wanted to make the point that everyone's busy, not to be sanctimonious. I specifically mentioned ironing because I hate it. But I still find time to do it. By the way the neice I care for has ADD and being investigated for ASD but as she's in top-sets I have to fight to get the support I need - she is really difficult to care for sometimes but that doesn't mean I don't prioritize my dsd too. I work incredibly hard to ensure they don't have the shitty childhood I had where I was basically a grown up by 10. And their needs are a priority. If their teachers ask for something or need me to be there I will move heaven and earth to do it. I also work 12-14 hour days as well because I'm the breadwinner and both girls are emotionally damaged due to their shitty mums so want me all the time.

On top of all of this I am battling infertility and have Lupus. So yeah it's not like my life's a walk in the park. Maybe I should be sanctimonious. Many people with half my problems give up.