Transgender child the subject of a class reader?

[armpitz]

here

Now, I haven't read it yet but AIBU to be a bit unsure about this?

There shouldn't be a contradiction no, but it still feels as though by supporting the right to have a safe space for a female body is somehow being unsupportive of the trans side of my child? It's difficult to articulate

It seems that there's an expectation that as a trans person and their family we should be unreservedly supportive of the trans agenda, but right now it feels as though that means male bodies must be given access to females spaces and there is no compromise. Any deviation from that belief is transphobic, but my child isn't transphobic and needs female spaces. There doesn't seem to be a reverse situation for FtM trans people to compare to, so I'm left feeling as though being anti male bodies in female spaces makes me anti trans. I just don't want to let my child down.

I haven't been to 4thwavenow but I've bookmarked it so DH and I can read together. It's at the very least good to know we aren't alone. Other people are asking questions and I feel much more hopeful knowing that. Thank you

Tinsel the similarity is startling actually! Even down to the shit flinging because they don't fit the prescribed view of a gender non conformist. Which is ironic really I suppose, coming from people who claim to be persecuted for not conforming!

my opinion on it is that feminism has always had transmens backs, and all biological women, including (and especially) those that reject gender norms. Despite what TRAs would have you believe.

It's not just transmen IMHO who feel this way. I know a lot of lesbians who find the LGBQT community mysogynistic in general and feel it sidelines women (unless they have penises).

I do completely understand that your son may want to recoil from feminism if he feels he needs to shrink away from things that identify him as female, but, there are a lot of us out there who are trying to defend his rights as a biological female who isn't following stereotypes

Which is why the TERF is such misogynistic bullshit. Rad Fems have been including biological females who don't present as men think women should forever. We already include transmen and always have.

I think more and more transmen will realise that transrights = transwomens rights and will distance themselves, and then hopefully your son will find it easier to find his own tribe!