How old is too old.. Do I stop my DS?

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My DS (14)Is a very sensitive, caring and polite young man who would do anything for anyone however he still loves to play with his Lego and WWE figures, My DS isn't very sociable and has no interest in going out with his friends after school ( he has a few friends and I have tried to encourage him to spend time with them outside of school) but he has no interest however if it's someone's birthday he will go out, but that's it.

Family have said he is getting too old to play with toys now and should start to be interested in things boys his age would typically enjoy like going out, Music and games consoles ( he has a games console but has no interest) and that letting him play with toys will be bad for his health as he ' needs to grow up' ( he is very mature for his age!)

I am just pleased he is happy and isn't spending hours looking at screens or going out until silly - o clock / getting into the wrong crowds.

AIBU to NOT stop him?

I think there's nothing wrong with play, but would add one caveat: make sure he does his chores too! Nothing bloody worse than a grown man who has never learned to pull his weight around the house and just wants to retreat to infantile pleasures all the time, leaving someone else to skivvy for him (I was with a bloke like this for years, can you tell?).

I thought that this was going to be about a 14 year old who likes the baby swings or only watches CBeebies or something.

No need for your ds to change anything. I love my Funko Pops figures and building Lego for the kids.

Nah! Leave him be. I have a 51 year old here who slopes off to the loft for hours playing with his model railway.

YANBU. Don't let them tell you nonsense.
Just because other boys go out and drink too much alcohol at that age doesn't mean that's a good thing.

I also fail to see in which way playing with Lego would be worse for one's health than playing video games. There might be a concern about him not getting enough exercise, but that'd be just the same with more "typical" hobbies.

Nothing bloody worse than a grown man who has never learned to pull his weight around the house and just wants to retreat to infantile pleasures all the time, leaving someone else to skivvy for him

Well, that's a problem with men who like games consoles, too.

He is allowed to.have hobbies at any age and if he lives to 80 has many decades for so called adult.hobbies! No rush.

Leave him be! I love Lego and I'm in my 40s.

My friend's 14 yo ds does the same as yours and he's the loveliest boy. He's fantastic with my ds (age 5 and 2). They adore him. Please don't try to change ds, he's happy and he sounds like a lovely boy too.

My brother is almost 30 and still regularly buys and 'plays with' warhammer and Lego. He has been into both since he was a child. He also loves clubbing, travelling and other 'grown up' things. Lots of adults have hobbies like this, its not you or your son with the problem at all.

Let him play with it and be proud you have a tame young lad who doesnt feel the need to show off to everyone at any given moment!

Op they're right. It elf be much better to encourage your son to be glued to COD or WOW for 12 hours a day, or perhaps getting drunk in a nearby park. I can't believe you're letting him express his creativity and individualism. Teenage girls and underage sex is also very popular at this age range, don't worry that is illegal - what matters is following the crowd and losing your own identity.

Please stop being a caring and supportive mother raising an interesting and individual child before he grow into a sensible adult

Did you see the documentary about Lego last Christmas? here it showed adults playing with Lego, including one man who has bought a whole house in which to store his thousands of sets.

Let your son enjoy his hobby.

Direct them all to this guy's website. Lego can be a career! morgspennyproductions.co.uk/

I'm so happy that not a single poster has used the word "legos" on this thread!

Well, that's a problem with men who like games consoles, too.

Indeed. In fact I don't think I can remember a thread, ever, where Simone was complaining about their DH sitting up doing Lego all night leaving them too "tired" to interact with or contribute to the running of the household. Many threads about game console idiots though.

Let him be who he is if it makes him happy.