How old is too old.. Do I stop my DS?

[DollySaves]

My DS (14)Is a very sensitive, caring and polite young man who would do anything for anyone however he still loves to play with his Lego and WWE figures, My DS isn't very sociable and has no interest in going out with his friends after school ( he has a few friends and I have tried to encourage him to spend time with them outside of school) but he has no interest however if it's someone's birthday he will go out, but that's it.

Family have said he is getting too old to play with toys now and should start to be interested in things boys his age would typically enjoy like going out, Music and games consoles ( he has a games console but has no interest) and that letting him play with toys will be bad for his health as he ' needs to grow up' ( he is very mature for his age!)

I am just pleased he is happy and isn't spending hours looking at screens or going out until silly - o clock / getting into the wrong crowds.

AIBU to NOT stop him?

The other day my OH was building his new Lego set while I watched My Little Pony on TV. We have 0 kids - it's all for us!

We have a lot of toys because we enjoy them. I don't think you can put an age limit on enjoyment :)

Crikey no, don't stop him. DS2 (now nearly 15) was the same. Has now moved onto building type computer games and fantasy adventure stuff. Think there are loads of boys this age into these sorts of things.

DH (54) wants to go to see the Lego movie!

Oh, please don't stop him. Honestly, he's got the entire rest of his life to be a grown up when he won't have any choice in the matter. Let him be a kid for as long as he wants to. He might as well enjoy it while he can!

Dh is 41 and has a Lego Room.

"Family" needs to wind the collective nose back in and out of your/his business.

I bought my first Lego at 23 years old, I haven't played for a while but still would 30 years later.

All my toys were given to my younger sister when I started secondary - as I was too old for them .

It didn't make me more sociable - I turn ed to reading instead which got a mixed reaction.

I was going to let mine be - my secondary school has a room full of toys. DH still had his toy from childhood - though no longer plays with them he grown up a normal functioning adult. He also has lots of hobbies which I do envy a bit.

YANBU

YANBU, there's nothing wrong with construction kits as a way of passing the time, no matter what your age.

I love Lego - it's not only creative but also a wonderful way of self-soothing, it helps me wind down and feel more relaxed. It's also a helpful for problem solving skills and the like. It can be very satisfying to make a model which works.

Frankly I'd be happier if my DS played more with Lego and less screen games, although I suspect he likes his games for similar reasons to mine in favour of Lego. Which is fair enough I suppose, in moderation

Good Lord - tell your family to be quiet and leave your kid alone. Nothing wrong with Lego. Quite the opposite actually.

I was delighted when I recently picked up DD from a 13th birthday party...they were playing pin the tail on the donkey and have a ball.

Why people want their kids to be 'mature' is beyond me.

My 46 year-old DP still buys and builds Lego. He's a successful management consultant and has suffered no apparent ill effects! Don't stop him doing what he likes, there's nothing to be ashamed of in playing, more adults should do it.

Introduce him to something like Games Workshop? For some reason that's viewed as more acceptable for teenagers and would have the benefit of giving an incentive to go out and socialise.

I think they need to get a hobby so they've got something better to do than trying to make you/your son feel bad about his hobbies.

My 14 year old is a massive Lego fan, as is his best friend. He also doesn't care what other people think about him and has zero interest at all in going out, hanging around aimlessly or the opposite sex.

Why is playing with lego more childish than blowing things up on screen? Or an interest in cycling? Or knitting? Or writing fanfiction (or indeed fiction of any kind)? Or playing board games? Or crosswords?

What about park runs - isn't running round in the park for children?

"Family" say do they? I'd tell "Family" to mind their own business.

I have a 14 year old, he's still into Lego and collects Tomica cars from Japan and also Thomas Wooden Railway Engines. Believe it or not there's whole on line communities of older people that collect this stuff. I really hate this idea that everyone has to be interested in the same stuff - like an army of teenage robots.

He's only 14. Some kids mature later than others. But even so called mature kids love to play with lego and collect action figures - I was raising my siblings at 16, but absolutely loved my lego. It was relaxing and allowed me to concentrate

Totally fine, leave him be as long as he's happy

I wouldn't be worried about playing with toys or not playing with consoles etc, but I would be a bit concerned he wasn't developing social skills with his peers.

My DS is 14. They are all different there are no rules as to what they should be doing at a certain age so ignore the members of your family who are feeding you this nonsense.

I wouldn't be worried about playing with toys or not playing with consoles etc, but I would be a bit concerned he wasn't developing social skills with his peers.

No doubt he has social interaction at school. For some kids that's quite enough.

People don't like to see others being different I think. They have an image in their head of what 14 year old boys get up to and can't see past that. If your child has friends, can socialise, does exercise and is generally healthy then let play with his toys. He may well end up super rich and famous in some creative industry. Won't that wipe their judgey pants away?

28 and love playing with lego (to the point I will move what I'm building out of the way of DD & Dn's). I have managed to still grow up and be an adult (married, job, mortgage, children etc) so I don't see the issue

No one is too old for Lego!
There are even people who work for Lego building life-sized Lego sculptures for display.
www.google.co.uk/search?q=Lego+sculptures&espv=2&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwi94JfVmPnSAhWLDcAKHXVNCmUQs

There is absolutely nothing wrong with your DS. He is probably creative with high levels of concentration.

My DS is 14 too, and quite similar with non-typical interests.
I think its encouraging that your DS has friends. My DS finally seems to want to be socially accepted, so he keeps to himself the interests that would get him called unpleasant names. As long as your Ds does that, then I see no reason to interfere. Just let him be himself.

I'd leave him be, OP. There's nothing wrong with Lego at any age, and what's the rush?

If you want him to socialise more, see if there's a Lego club in your area, or, yes, direct him at trading card games like Magic or to a Games Workshop.

Another one here agreeing. That's pretty unanimous 😁