(Following on from yesterday's party food thread) to be irritated by this?

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Our school discos are on soon and one mother has put a note at the botom of the ticket order form expressing concern that we are selling sweets at this event even though it is during Lent.....

I know it is a church school but I'm a bit about it - surely if she doesn't want her darlings to partake she can just send them without any pocket money?

i've just realised how to pronounce your name, st leger... had been thinking it was some weird german sounding name for a while.

My DP was very brave during his hormonal teenage years, when he dared to date a girl called Concepta ...

She has a very shaky understanding of Lent if she thinks it should mean that she has the right to deprive, not only her own, but other peoples children of sweets.

Perhaps next year she should give up being a controlling misery guts

We always had a reprieve on Paddy's day.

Lent is 40 day's and nights including Sunday's and ends on Palm Sunday which is when Holy Week starts !!

My Lenten alcoholic fasting however is being extended to Easter Sunday as I am buggered if I'm staying on the waggon while I'm in Paris next week !!

I think you are being a bit hard on her to be honest, she is obviously has a strong religious belief and sends her children to a church school hoping that they are going to be mixing with like minded children and families,and to gain a good understanding of their faith and you are all taking the mickey out of her belief but sending your child to a church school.

Children cant really give up much else during lent can they? so maybe she has a point, my willpower is not great so I wouldnt expect a childs to be good

Before you all jump on me Im not religious but I do have a strong respect for other peoples faiths and beliefs

I hate the way people critise the efforts of the PTA but are not prepared to give up any of their time to help organise events.

I had an uber-strict Catholic upbrings. Deffo no sweets during Lent and then a nice big blow out on Easter Day .

Think it laid the foundations for the concept of binge drinking actually, but there you go.

FWIW, she is doctrinally wrong, because what you are doing is mortifying your own flesh - it is supposed to be very personal and introspective. If someone is offering sweets to you, for example, (or honey or locusts or standing you on the pinnacle of the mountain and showing you the whole world, just as random examples) then you are doing well by specifically turning them down. I would therefore say you are offering little Bernadette and Aloysius a very good test of their resolve.

upbrings = upbringing, obv.

my dd1 asked if she could give up her little sister for lent ....i think she hs missed hte point really, wonder if hte children in the op would like to give up their mother...

helenhismadwife, it's definitely not a question of disresepcting her religious convictions, just that by insisting there are no sweets at the disco it rather misses the point of facing the personal challenge of her children denying themselves sweeties. other children at that disco may have given up cbeebies, may have promised to set the table every night, to do their homework before dinner or are going to mass every morning for lent - they deserve a good blow-out on sweeties if that's what they want. there are plenty of things a child could do to observe lent, ditching sweeties is merely the least imaginative of them.

FFS!

is that to the OP or me, dimpled?

I think if it is a church school she is within her rights to complain, I would do the same TBH although I am certain we would not have a disco during lent and there certainly owuld not be sweets at it.

In the first week of Lent I was busy pushing sweeties and fruit shoots at a church/school family social. Agree with aitch about personal denial/choice of what to give up The sales fund the socials BTW, so no sweeties=no funds.

for my five yearold giving up sweets is a sacrifice she undertands.I team up make a sacrifice with prayers at night and trying to do something positive as well.

but if my five-year-old is giving up her playing time and coming to help me set the table every night (not that dd is five but you get the gist), why shouldn't she have sweeties just cos that's what your daughter is doing?

From talking in church and to other parents I know most kids dd age have given up sweets and don't think it would be fair for a church school to put temptation in the way of little children.

Becasue if it was atour school, althought TBH our church schoo, would not run a disco in Lent, most of the kids have given up sweets so it makes sense to go with the majority.

The school ahve also asked kids not to put sweets in any party bags over Lent as well, which again echoes whatI have said below.

sorry awful typing the cat is running up and down the keyboard.

Is it a catholic school twinset?

yes catholic school, we are very good at denial and guilt!

thought so

I just think thatif you join a church school you know what you are signing up for and that includes no sweets at Lent. Hardly a major issue to contend with.