To end it over this?

[andshewillbeloved]

Been seeing a guy for a while on and off. He jokingly called dd (2) a jerk earlier over text when I said I'd got a bleeding lip. I was tickling her and she kicked my mouth by accident.

He thinks I'm overreacting but I'm seriously considering not seeing him again over this.

Stef you are out of touch with the reality of life for a lot of people nowadays. Do you know how much deposit someone would need in the South East for example? The average age for a first time buyer nationally was 30 last year, by the way.

And also, my brother is not "fresh out of college". I'm not sure what gave you that impression.

I'm not saying he should own a house but to have never left home by the age of 32 is strange to me. I rent and have done since I was 19.

I guess it depends why he's living there, OP. If he has spent the last 10 years saving for a deposit and paying off student loans etc. and has made a conscious decision not to rent because it allows him to save more then fair play to him. If he lives with his mum because he is a man child who likes having someone to do his laundry and cook his dinner while he plays Xbox all night then that would be extremely off putting!

If you don't like him just end it. Don't freak out over a really minor thing and use that as the excuse. Just be done with it. You've obviously decided he's a bit of a loser with a fetish so why are you wasting your time?

It really isn't minor to me though

It is not minor because it is coming with all of the other stuff that made you twitch.

Personally, the sulking would have ended it immediately for me.

Why are you clinging to this one? Your gut is clearly telling you he's not a good match for you.

Just brow it that every time you stop dating someone, it helps you know what you do and don't want.

Unless they are a Carer, I'd worry that someone whose never left home, would be anywhere on the same wavelength as a Independance LP, tbh. I've dated men that are living with Parents, but there's always been a good reason, such as leaving their Ex in the house and paying enough maintenance.

Just end it; you clearly want to. If you didn't, you'd have just said "please don't call her a names, I'm upset by it".

I wouldn't be upset; if I was mildly upset I'd have just replied "oi oi, I can call her a moron, she's my flesh and blood, but you can't, you cheeky watsit :p "

I'm going to end it. Tried before and he always persuades me not to..

Be strong. If you need to be 'persuaded' then it's already a lost cause. How on earth did he persuade you?

Persuade might be the wrong word. But when I ended it before he told me I was making a mistake and said I'd never be happy with anyone because I'm purposely looking for flaws. Then I started to believe it and ended up back to square one.

You seem to be a bit of a drama lama!

I think you should definitely end it let him find someone with a sense of humour who doesn't think less of him for shockingly not being on the property ladder at 30.

Yeah, but if you see the flaws, you see them, you can't unsee them, he doesn't get to decide what you find tolerable.

RunRabbit you're right. I need to be much stronger.

He wants to go faster than you do and pursuades you that the issue is with you, not him, when you tried to break up with him.

This is definitely a reason to dump his arse. I don't think I'd appreciate my kids being called names by someone either. I don't like it when my nan calls them a liar if they have said something that isn't right (and isn't meant to be a lie).