To end it over this?

[andshewillbeloved]

Been seeing a guy for a while on and off. He jokingly called dd (2) a jerk earlier over text when I said I'd got a bleeding lip. I was tickling her and she kicked my mouth by accident.

He thinks I'm overreacting but I'm seriously considering not seeing him again over this.

I've just realized you said the relationship is on and off, obviously something is not right.

I call dd a clot.

I'm not sure how I'd feel if someone called her a jerk because, to me, that's more serious. DH thinks clot is revolting.

I think you should listen to your instincts; if it crosses a line with you that's fine, it's personal to you. I wouldn't be amused by it either.

Clearly a joke.
I hope

ThePIglet

OP unless you have lots of other examples of how he is worthy of us all saying LTB I suspect this one is not worthy of your angst. I hope that is the case.

Sounds like you're looking for an excuse so go ahead.

On the other hand, if you do genuinely like him and he's done nothing else to make you re-consider, yet you'd still dump him for a slightly poor choice of a joke via text then maybe your standards are just a little too high? Good luck finding another man who doesn't put his foot in it from time to time.

I'm going to go against the grain and say that I wouldn't be comfortable about someone else calling my DD a Jerk.

I think people are being a but harsh. To me you're being a bit oversensitive as you know it was meant as a joke. My best mate who was DESPERATE for a child and absolutely does on her refers to her at 'it' sometimes. As in 'don't anger it!' 'Don't wake it!'. When she won't sleep I call her the Beast (as in, doth the Beast slumber?). It's cute and it's fine.

I also call my DN (8 weeks) a fat shit. As does my sister. It's an in-joke, although it might sound awful to other people and I would never EVER say that about another child.

It's all about finding your level with a person. As PP have said, maybe your sense of humour just doesn't match up. That's fine and it doesn't make either of you a bad person or in the wrong, just different.

This would be a deal breaker for me. Not what was said, that would be fine, but the massive mismatch of humour over something so innocuous. It's a shame but it happens.

A bit harsh to you I mean OP.
Sorry, been a long day...

End it for his sake, poor sod. (Oh no I called him a sod, I must be horrible too!)

You've had a sense of humour failure

He was joking and it was a text to you, he wasn't talking to your DD.
Not a big deal at all.

I wouldn't like it, would put me right off.

Oh you clearly aren't that into him, just break it off

guys had a lucky escape x

I really wouldn't like that at all. Not sure I'd end it for that if it was an isolated incident though.

However, you do know that you don't need a reason right? If you're not that into him, that's reason enough

Yabu. Wtf op

Bloody hell. My husband regularly texts from work to ask if our 4 month old has been a dick/twat/terrorist/dictator etc. She's obviously not been any of these things because she is a tiny baby. But when she screams and claws my face I could certainly describe her as such!

It wouldn't bother me one little bit, but if it bothers you then end it. You don't need another reason.

On and off? Life's too short. Not compatible. Move on.

Listen to your instinct over this. If it makes you consider ending it then end it. Often something seemingly innocuous can be the final straw. Trust your judgement.

Seriously? People think he's had a lucky escape because I don't feel comfortable with him joking about my toddler a jerk?

Obviously 'seriously' Why else would people post?

And the people who say they call their own kids names and friends kids names - that's completely different. They're your children or they are the children of close friends. This is a guy who I've seen less than 10 times and who I've already had issues with (unrelated to name calling thankfully).

You are free to end any relationship for any reason you wish.