AIBU not to remove shoes in the home

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Generally we don't ask guests to remove their shoes, and my SIL said she doesn't either. We both agreed that when you go to the trouble to put on a nice outfit, it's ruined when you have to take off your footwear. SIL added that as we both have tiled/wooden floors in downstairs room why would you ask guests to, anyway?

And another thing, it's often not nice to be barefoot in someone else's home (at least in your own place you have your own slippers) and I'm aware that some people may feel conscious about smelly feet/odd unsightly feet/verrucas. Even if hosts provide slippers, would you want to wear something that's been worn by someone else?

Mega I also like to partake in removing my shoes at work (under my desk), but luckily for me and my office my feet do not smell and I've always got tights or socks on. A bare foot is another matter entirely imo! 😂

Last place I worked at most changed into inside shoes when arriving at work.

You have to take off your shoes in the entrance hall in gyms and sports centres over here too, though you can change into non-marking trainers of course but woe betide you if you wore those trainers outside first

Why would you be ashamed of your feet? Any more than you are ashamed of your hands/arms/legs/face? I don't understand the horror at removing your shoes or carrying a pair of slip-ons. Why would you tread dirt into another's house or walk on their wood floors with stilletoes? Why is it all about your comfort?

I don't wear shoes indoors but I dont care if other people do. I've got hard floors so it's easy to clean any dirt. With regards to other people's houses I'm happy to respect the rules of the house. I can't seem to summon up the depth of feeling others have for this issue.

I never ask guests to remove their shoes but I prefer if they do and I think it's rude of them not to offer. If they don't I always make sure I get the Vax out when they've gone and clean the carpet. And I always take mine off in someone else's house.

But I do have a crawling baby who is always picking up toys off the floor and then putting them in his mouth. I wouldn't let him do this outside/in a restaurant/in a shop etc.

We have wooden floors so i'm very relaxed. I just want my guests to feel comfortable, isn't that the most important thing as a host?
Isn't it rude to declare yourself 'a shoes off household?' To your guests.
Most offer to take them off, I say 'keep them on' especially if it's a dinner party and guests have dressed up in heels. I thought that was the etiquette??

I offer to taken them off at others houses Most of my friends insist I keep them on. Unless carpets I guess or muddy shoes and then I'd definitely take them off.

I'm not even going to go there with regards to a 'slipper basket'

We have laminate floors, and a "do what you want" policy. At various times of day / different days, DH DS and I can have shoes on or have just socks on or be completely barefoot. It doesn't bother us either way, we just wash our feet daily and the floors weekly.

I read a comment up-thread about how some people don't want to sit on the floor if there have been outdoor shoes on it (the implication being dirt, germs etc). I'd like to know if those same people have a similar aversion to sitting on the grass in the summer, sitting on walls, sitting on park benches ...

Waah, it's the millionth time for a shoes in the house thread.

Definitely shoes ON here, and I hate it when guests take their shoes off. It makes me absolutely cringe.

I will take my shoes off at other people's houses, if they are shoes off, and even offer to do so if they seem like the type. I do silently judge though

I'm sick of people wearing shoes in my house. I now have to get a new carpet becasue it's been ruined by people trecking around on it in shoes. I now have a no shoe rule.
I've had oil, dog turd, mud, rain all over the house.

Fourteen little ducks.....Why would you be ashamed of your feet? You may have perfect feet but others may not. Some people may have deformed toes, syndactyl, callyses, infected nails, smelly feet etc...All things that are hidden by shoes.

I wouldn't dream of actually asking anyone to take their shoes off, but I don't really know anyone that doesn't take their shoes off in the house.

I take slippers with me when I visit other people, because I feel uncomfortable wearing shoes in the house - it's akin to not taking your coat off. Lots of people I know bring slippers.
They aren't usually fluffy slippers, more like little fold up ballet shoes. Hopefully they don't offend people that "cringe" when others remove their shoes!

Salumeria, I would cringe, I'm afraid- it's not feet that bother me, just the whole business of taking shoes off. I find it really, really weird as do lots of people- the majority of my friends would look at me as if I'd gone nuts if I turned up at their house and started taking my shoes off. Different people, different norms [shrug]

Is it an English thing, never have heard of taking off your shoes visiting a friend's house here in Ireland,

If you think you can get my cream carpet mucky in my brand new house then you're barking. Bring slippers if you're uncomfortable with it, like I do, or wear socks. Alternatively you may borrow some of the guest slippers i provide but they will have been used by others.

DH and I always argue about this. I think it's rude to ask people to take off their shoes. I think if you want to protect your home from outside germs etc, provide shoe covers.

DH wants our new carpets to last longer and has no problem telling people if they go upstairs they must take their shoes off. It:s funny though our shoes are all stored upstairs...

Riverdale, so you would rather potentially embarrass someone who may not want to show you their feet than them potentially (unlikely if you get a mat) put a mark on your carpet. I would never get a cream carpet for this reason.

They more than likely won't have slippers with them as most people don't expect someone to ask them to remove their shoes.

Still no answer to my question earlier. What do shoes off people say if a guest says they'd rather not take off their shoes?

I actually don't know anyone who does this but I'm curious in case I ever cross the threshold of a shoes off house.

I asked what happens when the guest has really smelly feet and that hasn't been answered either.

I'm amazed people think wearing shoes inside is dirty! I never knew that was a thing!!!!!

I'd find wearing used slippers much more revolting!!

I wonder which is actually more germy coz people obvs have v different perceptions!!!

I have never been to anyone's house where they remove their shoes and ask visitors to do the same. I go to other people's houses all the time. I'm actually baffled by this thread!! Is it a regional thing?

Also I'm thinking about it and getting repulsed by the idea of other people's naked sweaty feet all over other people's houses. Barf.

I don't understand the puzzlement and angst over this on MN.

We always take off our shoes at home, and I automatically do it in other people's houses. I like having my shoes off. None of us would even consider wearing slippers. DS2 always takes his socks off as soon as he gets home too. He takes his shoes off at after school club whenever he can get away with it too.

I never ask people to take their shoes off in my house (or give any expectation that I expect them too) but they invariably do anyway. We've got hard flooring downstairs so I don't care if they or they don't, but people just take their shoes off when they come in. It's not even that they can see the shoe rack because it lives in the cupboard under the stairs. I guess they notice that I'm not wearing shoes or something; or (like me) they'd just do it anyway.

"FWIW, since I started reading these threads I've played very close attention to what Phil and Kirstie do on LLL, and they never take their shoes off!"

:)

Why do you think we have such strong opinions about something so unimportant?

Will it end in war do you think?