Woman taking about sex

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I'm currently studying at uni and had to do some group work recently. We were divided up into groups and given tasks.
The group is a fair mix of men and women aged from around 20-45ish I think.
One particular woman in the group talks constantly about sex when we meet up to get work done. This week telling everyone in the group that a man had never made her orgasm and she does it herself every night. Other times she's told the group about what sexual position she prefers and about what she likes men to do to her etc.
None of the group are particularly friendly we were put together randomly so really she is telling acquaintances quite intimate things.
I find this so strange, I understand this kind of conversation amongst good friends but AIBU to think it's off with a group of fellow students? Feel free to tell me I'm a prude

At ubi i was told by a tutor to watch my face as i never hid my emitions very well. I like to think my face would help me out here and id be like 😲😮😐 with a quick emmmm! Hopefuly would shut her up

Is she your friend? Do you want her to be?

If not, then just tell her to give it a rest and move on. If she thinks you're rude to tell her or whatever, meh, who cares?! You don't like her anyway.

Just say 'thanks for the vivid picture you are painting, but can we get back to doing x as no one is interested in your sex life'

I'm a Church of England minister and in my last job there was an old lady who constantly talked about her and her husband's sex life. Seriously, I almost choked on a custard cream when she mentioned dogging...

I kid you not!

How peculiar. Sounds like she has no idea of social boundaries.

If you were in a work environment this would be regarded as harassment. Get the Uni authorities to sort it out.

I have had two colleagues like this years ago, in separate jobs. Tackled both of them about it and both responded along the lines of "I didn't have you down as a prude, you need to lighten up" type of thing . I don't actually care if I am a prude, I don't want to know that someone had sex over the kitchen sink last teatime, or that they nipped home at lunchtime to have a shag with their DH.

I suspect that they think it's somehow "bonding" but personally I think it's eewwww.

I suppose they have some sort of self-esteem problem.

Any normal person can live with the fact that other people might be less comfortable with sharing things about their private lives than they are, surely?

(I'd just reply: "Yes, I am a prude, thank you for respecting that.")

I worked with someone like this, and we all found a prolonged silence after one of her vulgar revelations worked brilliantly.

Her: DH went down on me in our toddler's paddling pool last night, it was so erotic.

Us:

I wouldn't be reporting her to anyone though, she'll soon realise she's being unprofessional and inappropriate.

Eatleaves has it right - that's inappropriate, can we get back on task please and then look away. If she won't shut up just repeat 'it's not appropriate' and don't be drawn in. Or try ' whoa that's inappropriate! Let's leave it there' for slightly more lighthearted approach

Give her a Paddington Bear hard stare and say "X, do you really not have anything to talk about which is suitable for colleagues?".

If ignoring her or telling her it wasn't appropriate didn't work, I'd probably try to embarrass her, by asking whether she uses a vibrator during the nightly wanks & if so what make is it, how big, is it mains-rechargeable, which lube does she prefer & does she ever take herself from behind with it I've never done that oh no no

YADNBU. I agree with the posters who say it is up to you to deal with it and not the tutor. I would be tempted to talk to the rest of the group to agree a strategy but would feel a bit guilty because it might seem as if you were ganging up on her. I don't think you should tell her that her behaviour is wrong or inappropriate because she will probably get defensive or sulk. I always think best way is not to go on the attack and criticise someone else's behaviour but to tell them openly and honestly, in front of the rest of the group, how it makes you feel. As in "Kath, every time you start talking in detail about your sex life, I get really embarrassed and if I'm supposed to be working in a group I find it distracting and a bit discourteous." It's hard to argue with that because she cannot disagree with how you feel. I guess I'm saying tell her straight and own the problem as yours, not hers or anyone else's.

I think next time just say 'fucking hell Pam*, nobody cares that you rub one off every night or like getting fucked in a car. Can we just get this done without another story please?'

*other names are available

She sounds completely desperate for attention.

I've got a friend who always has to brag about how much sex she's had 'I've had more sex than you've had hot dinners' for e.g.

It always makes me feel embarrassed for her and also I always want to say, but don't, that we've all had an active sex life thank you very much.

I think its weird.

I think it's worrying, actually. For anyone, but particularly a nurse.

It think that if your first attempt doesn't work, I would tell the tutor. It could flag up something more serious than just boasting.

Ugh that sounds tiresome. And I am no prude.

I agree talk to others before talking to her - united front and all that

I think cack-handedly she is probably trying to make friends / be funny / be cool. Please don't report her without talking to her first. And don't be too harsh on her either. If you just say 'too much information' and laugh or tell her nicely that you feel a bit awkward when she over shares then hopefully she will get the message and the chance to change without any bad feeling. I don't say crude things like this but I am definitely guilty of oversharing with strangers and it just seems to come out without my thinking about it sometimes. I am also someone who wants everyone to like me and I have often made the mistake of thinking that being really open with people will make me form a closer bond with people more quickly. Am sure she doesn't mean any harm and is just a bit misguided. Maybe her close friends love her frankness and she isn't that used to interacting with groups of new people.

Looking at all the posts I think the most sensible advice to OP was to take this as a challenge on how to deal with difficult situations/people which you will come across in Healthcare.
I personally think that it would not be best to deal with in a jokey/humorous way, and as other posts have pointed out if this was a man it would be really worrying.
I would deal with it head on as practice for future challenges, what's the worst that can happen? and it is the correct thing to do?;
I would simply say that it is inappropriate and unprofessional behaviour and also makes some of the group uncomfortable. Please can we concentrate on the task?..
Honest, to the point; and deals with the situation. I am sure that will be appreciated by the group?

She sounds desperate. She needs to be told how it makes people cringe when she talks like that.

Revem 😲 not even in confession!!!!
I had a friend who invited jehovah witnesses into her house and regale them with lurid details of her (fictional) sex life (for fun!) .
This woman sounds desperate for attention and needs to be spoken to about inappropriate behaviour. Nobody, male or female, should be making others feel uncomfortable or embarrassed in any setting. Please speak to her in some way, hopefully with support from others in the group

Oh god, I went to university with someone who used to bang on about their fabulous sex life. Very tedious, and I'm sure she only did it because she had such low self-esteem.

I agree with pps, every time she makes an inappropriate comment, just use your best matter-of-fact voice (as a student nurse I'm sure you have one of these) and say that it's TMI and steer the conversation back onto course. If she persists, I would take her aside after the meeting and say that you all find it unprofessional and ask her to stop.

I would feel the same. Having known a few people who have crossed the boundary on personal talk..yes it makes me feel hugely uncomfortable!

I would talk to others in your group,tell them that you will talk to her but that you need backup from the group if she does not drop this inappropriate behaviour.I would do it anytime not just before the group convenes.She may be defensive, it's hard to take criticism sometimes and non of you have said anything so far.She will need a little time to reflect.
Now is the time to develope some leadership skills and practice Candice.Let us know how you get on.