Woman taking about sex

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I'm currently studying at uni and had to do some group work recently. We were divided up into groups and given tasks.
The group is a fair mix of men and women aged from around 20-45ish I think.
One particular woman in the group talks constantly about sex when we meet up to get work done. This week telling everyone in the group that a man had never made her orgasm and she does it herself every night. Other times she's told the group about what sexual position she prefers and about what she likes men to do to her etc.
None of the group are particularly friendly we were put together randomly so really she is telling acquaintances quite intimate things.
I find this so strange, I understand this kind of conversation amongst good friends but AIBU to think it's off with a group of fellow students? Feel free to tell me I'm a prude

I'm 27 so around the mid-age of the group I think. Glad I'm not being a prude!!

I prefer 'we're not here to discuss your vagina'

Yes we've done two placements so far! She must know it's inappropriate as she hasn't mentioned anything regarding sex whilst on placements. Strange woman!!

Do other people wander off topic, too?

How about rather than making it to do with the sex talk, nominating a group leader who says 'Ok, can we just stay on task please?' or 'let's get back to the task'. S/he could do that for everyone who goes off on a random sidebar.

You need to tackle this as you do have several more weeks to go! All of you should have shut off task behaviour down right at the start. You're adults and are in the group for a reason which is not to talk about yourselves, I presume! Or is this chit chat happening in breaks?

It depends a lot on how much humour there is going along with this. I have worked in healthcare effectively since 1987 and there is a lot of banter and joking about physical things, in part because of the nature of the work.

It could be that this is unprofessional and that senior staff will stop it, but there is also a lot of tolerance for humour in the workplace (as long as patients and other workers aren't offended)

The more people talk the less they get

*Today 07:46 Increasinglymiddleaged

I prefer 'we're not here to discuss your vagina'

☝️This.

"Too much information!" or "I really don't want to know that!" should work.

does sound very grim.

Just tell her it's not appropriate to the task.

I don't see why posters need simply to make snide remarks about how little she's getting though.

We are meeting again next week I think I'll pull her aside before we start the task and ask her to stop as it makes me uncomfortable. Worth a try isn't it

Perhaps you could respond with lurid and explicit descriptions of your sex life (doesn't have to be real!) that make her comments tame by comparison.... that may well shut her up!

I think it's definitely worth a try.

Does she escort part time?

I prefer the pp blunted phrase "no-one cares about your vag" , move back to discussion? Repeat as necessary until message received.

I think the PP's suggestion to agree amongst yourselves to leave a brief pause, then continue as if nothing had happened would be a good way forward. What actually happens?

The brief pause and continue could easily happen spontaneously.

People that always talk about sex are either at it 4 times a day, or 4 times a century.
I'd hazard a guess at the latter.

I think she's being highly unprofessional

Just tell her! Bluntly. "Come on! Stop talking about your sex life!" Cover your face in your hands theatrically to convey how embarrassed you are, 'jokingly'. Everyone else will back you up, I'm sure.

Good suggestion. Or try: ' does anyone else cringe when X goes on about dtd?' If she's not embarrassed by that you'll all just have to tell her straight to cease and desist.

I can't be bothered to try to be understanding. She sounds a fucking nightmare.
And if a man did it, it would not be tolerated. She sounds needy and weird. I'd hate it.

I think you need to tell her tutor. If she dies this to colleagues or god found, patients, she may lose her job. Too many people are tolerated because "you know what they are like". Tell someone, tell her. You are doing her a favour.

Gag in her face?

I bet she puts "mr grey will see you now" as her fb status semi-regularly.

It's inappropriate.

But I'd just like to say that the person I know who talks about sex the most is actually getting a lot of it, it's her only hobby I think

We are meeting again next week I think I'll pull her aside before we start the task and ask her to stop as it makes me uncomfortable. Worth a try isn't it

Don't do that, she'll just make out that you're a prude and may well carry on to "help" you lighten up. It would be better to get some moral support from at least one or two others and ask her to stop because her conduct is rather unprofessional, and you just want to get on with the group work.

How bizarre. Is your project in anyway sex related?