Woman taking about sex

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I'm currently studying at uni and had to do some group work recently. We were divided up into groups and given tasks.
The group is a fair mix of men and women aged from around 20-45ish I think.
One particular woman in the group talks constantly about sex when we meet up to get work done. This week telling everyone in the group that a man had never made her orgasm and she does it herself every night. Other times she's told the group about what sexual position she prefers and about what she likes men to do to her etc.
None of the group are particularly friendly we were put together randomly so really she is telling acquaintances quite intimate things.
I find this so strange, I understand this kind of conversation amongst good friends but AIBU to think it's off with a group of fellow students? Feel free to tell me I'm a prude

Weird woman, how embarrassing, she clearly is an attention seeker.
How much longer will you need to be in her company?

Very much suspect she is in need of some and attention;!.

Sometimes sex comes up in my work and as the manager obviously I cant have that kind of talk going on. A quick 'right ok, we're not in the pub' usually reminds everyone they can't talk like that at work without being too arsey.

Didn't you know OP, sharing is caring

I'm a lecturer, often supervising students working in groups. If anyone "reported" this to me I might have a chat with the group about tasks, group dynamics, staying focussed etc, but would leave it to the students to sort it out - they're all adults.

MMM she is one of the older ones but not the oldest, maybe she thinks it'll catch the interest of the younger men in the group? Some are early twenties. Our group work is due end of April so not much longer really.
I might try the line about the pub and see how it goes down.
It's a shame because she's a very clever woman and has made some very good contributions to the task, she is just embarrassing herself when we have a discussion

Ugh. How embarrassing. Does no one stop her? She doesn't get to decide the conversation topic. She sounds lonely and attention seeking.

Report it to your lecturer.

You should all practise leaving a couple of seconds' silence after she's finished talking and then saying briskly "Now, about the group task ...."

Just to agreed with judydreams - I'm a lecturer and 'someone in my group talks about sex when we're doing group work' really isn't a problem that I'd see it as my place to sort. Obviously if it is sexual harassment then that's different and you should report that to the university, but I'm really not sure that your lecturer will be willing or able to do anything about someone acting a bit strangely when you're doing group work (is this even in the classroom, or is this when you're meeting up outside of the course time to work on the project?).

I agree she is being highly inappropriate, but I don't get this "report to your lecturer".... you're adults, this is a minor irritant, nothing more, so surely you can sort this out yourselves without acting like a 6 year old needing "to tell the teacher".

i was an nurse for years ,nursing attrracts all sorts paticularly mental health nursing[i was an RMN for 20+ years]speak to the tutor its really odd and innapropriate thats shes speaking like this,

I'm pretty confident your lecturer would at least expect you to have spoken to her about it more than once...

How old are you? I ask because I wouldn't have felt able to say anything in my early twenties, but now that I'm ancient older would probably not hesitate to shut her down. Probably something like 'we don't need to hear about your sex life, thanks very much,' then breeze on with the discussion. If she carries on regardless you'd have grounds for telling her straight to just belt up imo.

as nurse lecturers though they have a duty to ensure the students are not going cause patients any discomfort /harm in anyway i think this would be some cause for concerns ,i would certainly have had some concerns if a student i was mentoring was constantly acting and talking like this.

And yes, if a male student was carrying on like this here'd be no hesitation over shutting him down. It's boorish and ignorant.

I'm convinced that the amount people talk about sex is generally in inverse proportion to the amount of sex they're getting.

I bet this woman has cobwebs up her fanjo.

I knew someone like this. I always assumed she talked about her sex life to show others she has sex / is desirable etc. She'll talk about sex in front of people she has only just met. I never see her anymore but I did hear that someone had a word with her and told her she was being inappropriate and to curb the sex talking. Apparently she is a lot better now.

Don't be tempted to make a bitchy comment. Just tell her clearly that you don't think its appropriate to discuss intimate topics during work sessions, it is making others uncomfortable and if she doesn't stop you will have to report. It isn't ok for her to do that at all and I'm not surprised you're annoyed about it!

right ok, we're not in the pub

I would still be if I was in the pub.

Yanbu op its just utterly odd behaviour.

if a male student was carrying on like this there'd be no hesitation over shutting him down

Yes can you imagine if a bloke was wittering on about the wank he had last night

Definitely raise the matter with her- the 'we're not in the pub' might be a way to start.

Oh, I know someone like this. I felt she gained a exhibitionist thrill from oversharing, which I disliked because she was putting the rest of in the position of being unwilling voyeurs of her sex life. It was that, more than what she was saying, which was unpleasant - I didn't want to be part of her sex life.

I'm afraid, when awkward silences didn't work, I resorted to interrupting every time with a flat, 'I don't need to know that.' She probably thought I was a complete prude, but after a couple of repetitions it worked. Could you combine it with: if you act like this when qualified, you're going to have complaints made against you?

Have you been on a placement yet? If she goes into a hospital and talks like that, she'll fail her placement and probably get asked to leave if she can't control her levels of professionalism. On that basis, I think lecturers might want to be involved and I'm sure you have sessions on professionalism within the NHS where it could be brought up.