So, to give some background, my MIL has previous for interfering. When DC1 was born, she bought the bedroom furniture and various other things. We could have afforded to buy these things ourselves and basically she gave us no say in the things she was buying. They were all chosen by her. I tried to see the fact she was being generous as something to be grateful for but once the first grandchild was born, all she ever wanted was for me to go out and leave them with her. She wants one on one time but doesn't ever respect my methods of parenting. I wonder if this is her wanting to play mummy. She can be very disrespectful to me at times to.
The most recent thing is that we will be attending some family functions this summer (on my side). She has said she will be buying my children their outfits. Her taste is not to me taste at all and I know she won't give me a say. I feel like the only reason she wants to do this is so that on the day people will ask where their clothes are from and I'll have to say she bought them. I feel like it's all for her benefit, if that makes sense. She'll want to be able to show people the pictures and brag that she bought the outfits.
It's all very manipulative I think. We don't have many family events to dress the kids up for and I think she almost wants to take that moment of picking out a lovely dress away from me. Other things she has done have been taking my newborns out of my arms constantly. She once did this like 5 seconds before the bells at new year with my first born (knowing full well I wanted to hold her to bring in the new year). Am I being unreasonable to think her request to choose and pay for the clothes is for selfish reasons or would you feel the same?
Thanks